Mother / Daughter Pregnancy

[Caitie44]

This really feels like something out of a soap opera. My mom is 38 and currently 17 weeks pregnant. I'm 17 (18 in a few short weeks) and recently took a pregnancy test that came back positive. I haven't gone to the doctor yet but I've always kept track of my periods on an iPhone app, which also gives you your ovulation date and all that. Assuming January 23rd is the date of conception, I'm just guestimating I'm almost a month pregnant. Like I said, I don't know for sure but yeah.

Anyway, it's scary enough having to tell your parents and family that you're pregnant at such a young age. But when your mom is also pregnant.. I honestly have no clue how I'm even going to go about this. My boyfriend is planning on leaving for NJ for the Coast Guard, and I'm half tempted to just leave with him without saying anything - but I know I could never do that to my family. I'm just totally at a loss on what to do. How do I even approach that subject? "So Mom, while I'm planning your baby shower, you can be planning mine!"

 

[magic93]

First of all congrats on the baby! It might turn out better than you think. The sooner you tell her the better. My sister and I were pregnant at the same time, and my sisters always been more of a mom to me than my mother so I can kind of relate, my sister gave birth to her son 28th of December and my little boy is due 22nd of March. Best of luck, and if you wana talk feel free to message me anytime! Im Lisa 19 years old.

 

[teenmommy15]

well congrats on your pregnancy and welcome to Bnb well i know it might be hard to tell your mom your pregnant but its something that has to be done and soon! i wait 3 months to tell my mom and she was mainly upset that she found out after everyone else and that hurts. just tell her you have to talk to her about something and that it might be something she not necessarily comfortable with and tell her. you never know she may be happy that you guys are having a baby so close and even if she's not she'll get used to the idea my moms reaction was alot better than i thought it be go in their and expect the worst reaction you can get it makes the you reaction you get alot better.! tell me how everything goes and good luck. BTW. im bethany im 15 and pregnant with my first and its a baby girl shes due June 18th

 

[lizmageeful]

First off, get yourself to the doctor. Second off, tell your parents. Its gonna be tough, but it gives them time to adjust before baby gets there. Third, Im not sure if they have a training academy/program for coast guard, but I know they do for army (OH is going into the army in june...) and you cant live with them until after basic training. So, if theres a training program you might have to wait on running off with him. but good luck, and welcome to bnb! Im Lizzie, I'm 16, and im 30+4 weeks preggers with my baby girl.

 

[jozylynn896]

That sucks I really don't know what to say except, sometimes crazy shit happens and we just have to accept it and move forward.
My dads girlfriend just gave birth to my little brother and now my son will have an uncle his age! (Me and my father aren't close at all though)
It'll be hard to tell your mom but the sooner you do it the better.
Also, I'm 32 weeks pregnant and my mom is now ttc.
Which used to bother me but not any more since I moved out.
Good luck!

 

[Caitie44]

Thanks all. Tomorrow I'm calling my doctor and scheduling an appointment, just trying to figure out where to go from there. My mom's reaction is what I'm most afraid of, I think lol. I was pregnant at 16 which resulted in a miscarriage that she knew about, so I think she'll just be disappointed in me that it happened again (though I was using bc both times). I just don't even know how I'm going to bring it up. Even though my mom has custody of me, I live with my maternal grandparents since she found out she was pregnant (my step-dad did business about 3 hours away so she moved there). We're really close, and she's always made it clear she didn't want me to be a teen mom because she was one herself. So I think it's her disappointment that I'm most afraid of. :/

My dad's side is pretty easy except for my grandparents. Really all I have to do is tell one person and the entire family knows because of gossip. We also aren't going to tell my boyfriend's side of the family, at least not until after I have the baby. They're a bunch of... basically lol! My SO is pretty excited though, and I can't help but be excited because of him. He's being very supportive and is already asking questions like if I want to breastfeed or how we'll deliver.

Anyway, end of long post! Thanks for the support, much love and luck to all of you!

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Haha my LO also has an uncle of a similar age.. although from my MIL, not my own mother. It's...interesting, I suppose! But we don't really see my in-laws so it doesn't affect us too much. Are you worried that she's going to be more upset because she's also pregnant iykwim? Do you feel that's what makes it worse...or are you worried in general? If your mum is 38 and you're 18 she must have been around 19/20 when pregnant with you so has been a young mother herself, maybe that will make her more understanding? xx

 

[Caitie44]

My mom was 18 when she got pregnant, 19 when she had me. I definitely think that if she weren't pregnant at the same time, she'd be a lot more understanding. Of course I'm worried in general, mostly because I don't do well in conflict... Lol. But yeah, with our due dates being about three months apart, I think that'll cause a lot of tension between us. I guarantee she'll think it's "wrong" and have a lot of negative feelings about it, at least for awhile. I just need to stand my ground and let her know I'll be handling this with or without her support. :/

Also, off topic, absolutely love the name Oliver - that's the boy name my mom has picked out!

 

[rhdr9193..x]

My LO has an uncle 18 months older than him, I love it. They get on so well, and his first word was actually Oliver (my LO) x