So right before bed my wife springs on me that she wants her mother to be there during the birth. Some background, her mother has had some history in adding much stress to our lives. During our wedding planning she basically went crazy and we both had to distance ourselves to stay sane. Right now things are ok and has been better in supporting my wife but she has been pushing her own ideas what we should do during the pregnancy and birth. She keeps trying to get us to see specialists in different fields because her daughter is "sick" with this or that (not the case) and insists we should plan a c section. My wife is the nervous type and takes it to heart and stresses every day with this. She still sees her as the loving caring mother who raised her (mental issues came up 3-4 years ago).
Back to today, I in no way expected to have others in the room with us during the birth. My wife thinks it might help her get through it and if there is anything I can do to make my wife feel better I'm all for it. But I gave my objections and reasons below:
1. Her mother stresses her out (and me).
2. I wanted to share this moment with only two people; wife and baby.
3. God help us but if something goes wrong I need to be able to make desitions that I think are best for mother and baby without distraction.
Am I crazy?
Back to today, I in no way expected to have others in the room with us during the birth. My wife thinks it might help her get through it and if there is anything I can do to make my wife feel better I'm all for it. But I gave my objections and reasons below:
1. Her mother stresses her out (and me).
2. I wanted to share this moment with only two people; wife and baby.
3. God help us but if something goes wrong I need to be able to make desitions that I think are best for mother and baby without distraction.
Am I crazy?