Moving house while in the middle of NHS fertility investigations?

[StephieB]

Hello ladies,

Me and my DH are now on cycle....23 and counting. So far all tests have come back "just fine" which is more than frustrating, and the only possible problem that has been identified is my slightly elevated prolactin levels, which has been put down to me being the ultimate stress head when it comes to all things life related!

Me and my husband are currently living in Essex, and moved down here for work, all of our family and friends are 200miles away in Sheffield, and we very rarely get to see them and miss them terribly. Although I have made 'friends' with people I work with, there is no-one here that I would spend time with outside work, so as sad as it sounds the only people we have are each other. I am a full time A Level teacher, put that together with my lack of family and friends and my tendency to get stressed about EVERYTHING has, over the past 12 months, lead to me being signed off work with stress related insomnia, developing 4 lovely gastric ulcers, and now being the leading cause of our infertility.

After more blood tests revealed high levels of stress hormone, and my third specialist revealed my ulcers were just not healing, me and my husband sat down and decided life is just too short to be stressed and lonely away from family, and have made the difficult decision to return home at Easter, to be closer to everyone, which we are very excited about. Our only worry is where does this leave us fertility investigation wise?

We are moving back home on the 2nd of April, and have our final fertility appointment on March 29th, which will be our second. So far my husband has had his SA, I have had a TV Scan, blood tests and a HSG and are waiting for the next step.

Do I just make an appointment with my old doctor, and explain the situation and be referred? Or will we have to start the process from scratch with it being a new PCT? I have checked eligibility within both, and I know we are moving from an area which will allow 3 treatment cycles of IVF, to one which will only offer us 1

Has anyone moved mid-investigation to another PCT and has any advice on the best way to deal with it, or is in the know-ow and can give me a few pointers on how to make this transition as smooth as possible?

As always, many MANY thanks in advance

Steph

 

[Bumblebeee]

I can't help with the doctor situation I'm sorry, but didn't want to read and run. It seems like the only thing prevtenting you from having your baby and being truly happy is your job so I think you are absolutely making the right choice to go home. The one thing we need more than anything when ltttc is a great support network, and being alone is never good. All the best with the move

 

[StephieB]

Ah, that was such a lovely thing to come on here and read. Thank you

It's been really difficult this week because we are TTC in secret, so my husbands parents and my Dad are all very worried that we have handed in our notice and are moving home, and we are dying to tell them "If we stay here, your chances of being grandparents get slimmer" but we can't. So logging on here and seeing your comment has just made my day, honestly. Finally someone who understands

 

[Bumblebeee]

Oh god yea I understand, you don't get taught about infertility and problems conceiving when you're in comp though do you?! You get taught that if you have sex, you will get pregnant straight away but that's for like 1% of the lucky buggers ttc! I like to keep private what goes on in my bedroom with my OH but my family, my nanna especially bless her, keep asking when i'm going to have a baby and I just laugh it off and say 'oooh not for a while yet nanna' but a few weeks back I said 'trust me nanna, when my gubbings decide to do their job i'll shout it off the roof tops but at the moment they're not doing what they're supposed to.' (i didn't say it nastily, i was laughing and joking as usual) and now she keeps telling me about articles she reads in her magazines and she even cut out a clipping about pregnare conception vitamins for me. She's such a sweetie The rest of them don't seem to get it so well, i've even had my MIL tell me she's gonna come at me with a turkey baster! I told her about my ltttc and she soon stopped grinning It's personal preference, but for me telling people has taken away a lot of pressure so I can now just relax. I don't go round telling everybody of course, but i needed my mum to know and she's been tons of help

 

[Bumblebeee]

I was gonna go in to my maybe/maybe not great PCOS debate and that possibly being the reason for my ltttc, but i see from my other post (first b&b rant) that we've already crossed paths so you already know! Wooo another load off!!