Moving on??

[peanut84]

Hey ladies

i know its still early as DH only ended it with me 2 weeks ago!!

but when and how do u move on?
i'd been with him 9 yrs and married 3 of them and have 9 month old daughter! i'd been with DH since i was 17 and b4 him only had one other boy friend soo never really did the dating thing..me and DH got pretty serious pretty early into the relationship so we didnt really date either

i dont want meaningless flings and want to find happiness again..but im totally SCARED about the whole thing!! i feel i should just wait it out a bit longer to see if DH see sense and wants to come home but when should i give up the wait and just get on with dating and seeing who else is out there for me??

i know im just rambaling sorry ladies

 

[AbbynChloe]

I don't really see it as moving on - just a day at a time really. you'll have some bad ones, some really really bad ones, but then there is the good ones, and the Brilliant ones - like snuggling on the sofa with LO watching a movie and having no one around to bother you.

It will be ok - just one day at a time xxxxx

 

[Vixen_17]

Awww exactly what she said! Every day that passes you are moving on. Every day you're learning how to cope on your own and learning who you are. What you want from life and how to get it.

I can't answer the question of how long you should wait for him to come back as when I split with my OH I ended it with him and there really was no going back. I guess there will come a day when you just realise that you don't need him any more and that you don't want him any more? You realise that you CAN be happy with just you and your daughter.

Don't worry about the dating game as I'd say that's probably a way off yet, just get yourself settled and happy in yourself first.

Good luck hun, you'll be fine.

 

[WhiteGeisha]

I've spent the last 18 months 'waiting' for FOB to come back. Although we were not together for anywhere near as much and you and your OH were I still hoped and prayed he would come home, naively, I actually thought he wasn't seeing anyone out of respect for me because I still loved him and wanted him to come home and believed he would wait until I moved on before he did...yes I know very naive of me!!! Just found out he's been with at least 4 girls!!!!

I think knowing he has been 'moving on' makes me feel less guilty or worried to do so myself. Although I have been asked out on a few dates (and declined the offer) if someone comes along now that I feel deserves the chance at being Mr Right I won't feel so guilty in agreeing to a date and feel more at ease with the future now as regards him. I know FOB isn't coming back, ever, and it took finding out he had been happily sleeping around for me to realise this, but I am glad I know now as I was really starting to beat myself up over it all.

When you feel ready, or get a sign, you will just know it's the right thing to do, i'm sure x

 

[tink23]

just sending hugs hun, I wrote to you in a thread not long ago and not sure if I mentioned OH and I were trying again but we've decided not to bother and are calling it a day. You do hope they'll see sense but I know both you and I are going to be ok, we have our LOs

 

[peanut84]

thanks hun!! yeah we'll be ok we have LO's and our selfs to get us through were strong woman xx

 

[loopylou86]

Big hugs... it hurts so much.

I dont know what to do and thats painful enough for me at the moment.

 

[peanut84]

hope u feel better soon hun x