My 3rd loss at 4+5

[Snowball]

After my m/c last month my period hadn't returned so I tested late last night and got a bfp. I was totaly shocked that it had happened so quickly and nievly thought that maybe this time it'd be alright.

I worked out from the day I got a positive ov stick that today would be 4+5 so I thought if I could get through today then I'd tell people.

I woke up in the night with stomach cramps but no bleeding so I assumed it was gas. My stomach had been feeling iffy all morning so I knew something wasn't right. I've just been to the toilet and I'm bleeding again So that's 3 losses at 4+5 since July, why are the doctors telling me it's coincidence? because it's obviously not

I can't take this anymore, there's somethng wrong with me and I just can't cope with losing all my rays of hope. I haven't even told DH yet, I'm such a failure to him. It's the most natural thing in the world and my body can't do it

 

[Barneyboo]

Babe I am soo very very very sorry!!!! You are not a failure you are wonderful and wish I could give you a big hug now so sending a massive cyber hug!

If you decide to go to the DR's I hope they listen to you and you get the help you deserve....So very sorry x x x x x x

 

[lollylou1]

im so sorry hun, i would go to the docs and demand they do some tests to see whats going on

big hugs hun

Lou
xxx

 

[x-amy-x]

I'm so sorry hun xx

 

[Omi]

Snowball, you're not a failure. The leading expert (Dr Beer, he just died last year, rip) always maintained that there are concrete reasons behind mc's- and as such this is not something you can help. In his research, a massive amount of women (and men) had actual problems unrelated to the pg's that made them mc. i.e. They had actual conditions that made the pg's fail.

So, for the love of God, sweetie, i know why you feel this way, i really, really do, but you must go and have it checked out- YOU are not a failure and you both are obviously a very fertile couple so there should be a real reason why this has happened to you, and you deserve answers!!!

Have a look at this, if it helps... https://www.repro-med.net/tests/stest.php

In the meantime, please take good care. You are not alone on here (unfortunately) and we all empathise and understand what you are going through. The good news is that you can still go on to have a healthy baby- with or without having a medical problem (i.e. if you find you do, you can get treatment, or you could find nothing is wrong)

Thinking of you, Snowball!

, Omi xxx

 

[chefamy1122]

I am really sorry

 

[cupcake]

You are def not a failure! You are not a failure to your husband either. What a strong woman you are to have been through all that you have and still carry on going. He is so lucky to have you. I can't even imagine your pain. Find a different specialist, who can answer your questions and see what is going on with you. I am so sorry for your losses. I wish I could say more comforting words to you. A baby will be very lucky to have you as its mommy one day , hopefully soon. XX

 

[sam's mum]

I'm so sorry I hope the doctors will finally listen and give you some answers. You are not a failure x

 

[honey08]

oh gosh im so sorry to hear this hun, has ur gp ever told u to try baby asprin ? it helps with the lining and implantation hun, it could be somat as simple as this,my heart really goes out to u

 

[Snowball]

oh gosh im so sorry to hear this hun, has ur gp ever told u to try baby asprin ? it helps with the lining and implantation hun, it could be somat as simple as this,my heart really goes out to u

Thank you for all your replies

I started taking it after my last m/c and it made me bleed. I stopped and then started again and I bled again. So I stopped taking it. I will ask about it though when I go to the doctors.

 

[Vickie]

You are not a failure

 

[NickyT75]

Awwwww! Sue im so sorry hun

You must go back to your doctor and tell him this has happened again

There must be some tests they can do?
Im pretty sure there are Progesterone suppliments/HCG injections they can give you to help get you past the very early stages without the lining of your womb breaking down

You are most certainly NOT a failure babe so please don't think this way xxx

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

ur not a failure hunni dnt ever think that! go demand some trests hun
xxxx

 

[Rumpskin]

This is so unfair for you both. I am so very sorry this has happened again. I would insist on some testing for you.

Thinking of you lovely xxx

 

[hayley352]

so sorry hun xx

 

[tansey]

so sorry hun
can you change docs to one that will listen?

 

[doctordeesmrs]

So sorry hun

 

[Shazzy]

Im so sorry! Hope you get your answers

 

[keepingfaith]

I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[who's_mummy]

I'm so sorry to hear about you loss . I agee with what everyone else has said, go and insist on some extra help with this.

Also you must stop thinking of yourself as a failure, you are not at all

Gemma x