My 3rd loss at 4+5

[honeybunch2k7]

Snowball, you are NOT failure. I also think you should go to a doc and demand answers!

I'm so sorry for your losses.

 

[Sambatiki]

Snowball............

I am so so sorry that this has happened to you again

 

[wantababybump]

I just read this now. So sorry for your losses...demand answers from the doc...its obviously not coincidence!! xx

 

[bklove]

you are a wonderful woman who will be able to have a child and its ok to remind yourself of that sometimes. I am in your boat, I recently mc for the 3rd time and its always around 4-6 weeks. Gyn's are special, and they try to be dismissive sometimes, but you have to push for your own care. The best thing about being on here is that you'll learn all the things you can ask about and pursue, so keep talking to people, keep talking period. Its a tough thing emotionally to deal with and thats normal and ok.
From my experience since its your 3rd they have to take it seriously and should do blood work to see what is going on. My gyn who I switched to cause the last was an azz, did a work up after the 2nd one. That said everything was ok, and now she recommendeds baby aspirin daily (but I take it every other day cause I have stomach issues) as a precaution in case blood isn't circulating well when I do conceive and she told me as soon as I know I'm pregnant again to call her so she can set up blood work every 48h to monitor hormonal changes and things of that sort. She said thats the only way at this point to see whats going on, and there are other things she can do to help the pregnancy along once she has that information. I unfortunately waited to contact her after the last pregnancy cause I was afraid to know I was pregnant, and I didn't know all of the above at the time. But knowledge is power.
So talk to your gyn, or switch if they aren't hearing you. And in the mean time take care of yourself- write, workout, talk...work on getting that peace of mind back.
I so wish you the best.

 

[colsy]

You are not a failure in any way. Please do tell your OH, as I am sure it will help you to talk about stuff. One day soon, I hope you get your best BFP - the one for the baby that sticks this time xx

 

[Tishimouse]

Hope you're OK. You're my hero remember?

Tish

 

[Snowball]

Thank you so much for all your support. I've had a few days to relax and get the stress of miscarrying out of my head. The bleeding is now nearly gone and I'm feeling a little more positive about future pregnancies after reading all the great advice I've read here.

I have an appointment on 11th February to see the consultant who dealt with our stillbirth last year to see if she thinks my m/c's are worth investigating. I'm hopeful that she will. Last time I saw her she told me that if we had any problems concieving that I should go back and see her.

I just wish that none of us had to go through this pain in order to bring a baby home

 

[Jem]

Glad you're feeling brighter hun and hope your consultant sorts out some tests as enough is enough, you need answers. All my love sweetie xxx

 

[mariucha77]

Hi Snowball, I was wondering how you were doing and found this post. I'm so sorry I hope you find a doctor with real answers and able to give you a hand so you can have a sticky bean soon. A big hug