My baby is delayed

[proudparent88]

I had my baby at the dr yesterday and they are majorly concerned about him being so small his weight percentile keeps dropping and hes not sitting up or trying to crawl and that has them concerned too. I have to speak with a nutritionist and if he doesn't start gaining weight and hitting his developmental milestones then they wanna bring in a neurologist. Is anyone else having this problem? He is going to be 8 months old and isn't even sitting up. What would a neurologist do? I'm so lost.

 

[LeannieB]

Hi sorry no advice here but didnt want too read and run. Bumping you up incase someone else can help x

 

[adrie]

What centile is your son? Is he consistently dropping lower and lower, or are there dips and rises on the centile charts? How is his eating and drinking? Does he wet diapers, and have at least 1 soiled diaper a day?

All I have to say is that don't take your doctor's words, etc., as golden. We had 'issues' with our LO and her weight gain--she was only 13lb 14 oz or so @ 6 mo, and then her weight stalled from 6-9 months (only 6oz gained then--so she was 14lb, 4 oz @ 9 months, and dropped off the charts.). Now, at 14 mo, she is between 17-18 lbs and doing just fine. Walking, saying a few words, gaining motor skills, starting to socialize with other babies and children especially.

Our initial GP doc referred us to a ped and mentioned possibly putting her on some kind of pill to increase her appetite. Because heaven forbid the idea that SOME babies are meant to be on the smaller end.

I would ask for a ped referral. Our new ped (didn't like the one the doc referred us to either), gave us a second round of blood work, urine samples the first ped never ordered, and stool samples, and eventually, all came out fine. The first ped alarmed us about cystic fibrosis and yet never ordered a test for it, which boggles my mind.

I would say that it is normal to be concerned with your son especially as there is an indication something might be wrong, but don't be hard on yourself and just do what you have to do to get the best care for your son. Sometimes it may not be something major that has to be rectified in order to help him thrive. But if it is something major, you just take it as it comes. Sometimes we need to advocate for ourselves (as we had done--going to the children's hospital and getting a second ped referral). And we quite like her, as she is not concerned about our LO at all now, because Valla had continued to gain and is back on her curve, developing normally, etc.

I was TERRIFIED that my child might have Cystic Fibrosis, and why? Because like any other parent, I want a perfectly healthy baby. But then I came to the realization that nothing would really change if she were diagnosed with it. Her care may vary, sure, but so be it. We won't love her or treat her any less, she is perfect, no matter what may be 'wrong.' I placed my faith and my daughter's health in God's hands, (to me, as it should be). And I've made peace with it.

Take good care and let us know how the little guy is doing.

 

[chipsticks]

I have I advice re weight but I will say that at my Los first birthday she was only just sitting by herself, never crawled, bum shuffled at 15 months, walked at 20 months and was delayed with speech. At 2 yrs 4 months she was walking talking (not fully but mostly on track for the age) and potty trained (day and night). She's 3 in April amd you wouldn't know she had any issues. Some kids are slow bloomers, go to the dc appointments but trust your instincts on it,if you see no problems then don't worry too much

 

[proudparent88]

He started out at around 12 percentile its consistently dropped down to 3rd percentile. He still eats every four hours six ounces of formula or an entire four ounce jar of baby food. But we give him more formula than baby food. And since our visit they said to do more formula and less baby food no juice or water because it adds no nutritional value to it.

 

[kanga]

My son is 11m and failure to thrive. Slow to progress.

We have infatrini milk. And maxijul powder in it too. Olive oil or cream or butter or skimmed milk powder in all his food

We have a paed and have seen the nutritionist regularly.

What are they waiting for before getting you access to experts? Who have you dealt with to date? Id be pushing for expertise. And start bulking up food as much as possible.

 

[superfrizbee]

I've seen women on here whose babies didnt sit up until 9 months and theyre fine, but it sounds like your doc is being cautious which I suppose is better than being fobbed off if you think theres a problem, but it does naturally make you worry when they say stuff like that. How is your LOs head control? If you pull him up gently by his arms from a laying position does he keep his head in line with his body or does it lag back a bit?

 

[proudparent88]

He keeps his head in line with his body his head support is great. I have seen pediatricians and I have him enrolled in an early headstart program that also is recommending early intervention since he is not sitting up.

 

[_jellybean_]

Hi. You asked what a neuro would do...I'd think that a neuro would run tests to see if anything else is going on. There are so many different kinds of tests they can do and even by examining your lo, they will be able to tell a lot. I hope that your lo is okay. I'd be overwhelmed and worried too.

 

[smurff]

My dd didn't crawl till the day before her 1st bday, she didn't sit on her till she was 14mths and she didn't walk till she was 2. My ds is 8mths and isnt sitting on his own or crawling yet, I'm not worried, he'll do it in his own time, he is on 4 8oz bottles a day and has a little porridge for breaky and some purée for lunch, he is currently on the 2nd centile line, we are slowly increasing his food and decreasing his formula over the next few weeks. It really annoys me how just because some children do things at a certain age they expect all children to do things by that certain age. Hospital had me in and out so many times with my dd cause they thought something was wrong with her as she wasn't walking, I kept telling them she'll do it in her own time but they wouldn't listen , they then sent me to physio and she told me there was nothing wrong with her and it wasn't unusual for children not to walk by the age of 2, she even said peadiatrtions over react if they don't reach what they call normal targets.

 

[annanouska]

I would take any help offered to you. It's great when children take their own time and progress eventually but sometimes things are a little wrong and the early detection and treatment where possible can make a huge difference.

I wouldn't dwell too much until you get clear answers, I've sat crying many times over x y and z about my son the. The change their minds and its something else.

The neurologist will discuss the pregnancy, birth and child's history with you. They may run some tests ( usually start with blood and physical exam). They may just want to review you in a few months time. The neurologists will be looking if there are underlying conditions causing the symptoms x