A week ago my bf moved out and left me for another woman. I just found out she is also pregnant with his baby and they are planning on getting married on Tuesday. It's like being hit with a train. I am spending time with friends and I have plenty that have been in similar situations, but I am worried for the future. The other woman is an ex-con she had her first child taken away for drugs and she hasn't stopped doing drugs infact they do them together now. All together he will have 4 kids with 4 women by the time mine and hers is born. He was married to the mother of the first one and gets that child during the summer, the second was a short relationship a few months before we were together the mother of that child does anything in her power to not let him see the child. I don't want my baby to be with them if they are doing drugs before her he never would've done that, but she has changed him into a person I don't even know and I don't feel like I can trust him anymore, not even with my child.
my bf just left me
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Welshcob
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I don't think the courts will allow them to see your baby if they are doing drugs and can be ordered to do a six monthly drugs test.
Sounds horrendous honey! BUT - he does not sound like a good influence on you or your babies lives. xx
Sounds horrendous honey! BUT - he does not sound like a good influence on you or your babies lives. xx
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thanks for sharing zoe! im sorry to hear that you have found yourself in this situation, and i know this isnt going to help, but it is really for the best! he sounds like a complete tool! im sure you are going to do a brilliant job bringing up your child- you dont need him! and if hes a drug addict, you have a good chance of not letting him near the child- but you might want to consider supervised visits in a contact centre. good luck hun 
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I am so sorry to hear all this is happening at once 
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Ypu just be strong and focus on your baby, theyre not worth it!
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hun if you dont trust him then he dosnt get baby alone simple as that.
as for her she has no right to be near your baby especially if she is like you say, and he will have to respect that if he wants to see baby that atleast for now he has to do it with you and without her around. sorry you are in this situation , best wishes
as for her she has no right to be near your baby especially if she is like you say, and he will have to respect that if he wants to see baby that atleast for now he has to do it with you and without her around. sorry you are in this situation , best wishes
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hunny if you are 100% sure that he is doing drugs take him to court for full custady make him take a hair folicule test that can go back almos a year and you will win custady he sounds like my x the father to all my kids i truely think you will do better off without him
so sorry to hear about what you are going thru.
it sounds to me that you have had a very lucky escape from this man. look after yourself and your baby. i am sure you will do brillantly on your own. sounds like your ex and his new partner deserve each other
i know this doesnt help with the arrangements for the child but i just want to say that he obviously doesnt deserve you !
it sounds to me that you have had a very lucky escape from this man. look after yourself and your baby. i am sure you will do brillantly on your own. sounds like your ex and his new partner deserve each other
i know this doesnt help with the arrangements for the child but i just want to say that he obviously doesnt deserve you !
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