My child will never be potty trained

[DCS]

Every single time we have tried it has failed. We tried telling him if he did a wee or poo he would get a egg surprise but he just sits on the potty for a few seconds and then asks for his egg. He has done 2 wees on the potty. If i put it under him while he is weeing he stops. Today he suggested we give all his nappys to my uncles baby. So i figure we will try again tomorrow. I explained if thats what he wanted to do he would have to wear pants like a big boy and use the potty. He said that was ok. Ill obviously keep the nappies baby is way too small for them anyway. I dont have to go anywherr till tuesday so i have a good few days to give it another go. But im dreading it. He hates nappy changes so iv tried tellibg him that once he is using the potty he wontbhave to lay down to have his nappy done.

Someone tell me it will happen soon. He is 2 years 3 months. The nursery we are looking at for him for when he turns 3 would prefer him to be rrained. So would we tbh. Nappy changes are a right battle atm.

 

[seoj]

I can promise you it WILL happen- I cannot promise when, honestly, he'll just decide he's ready one day. Sorry- I know that doesn't help. I've heard many many stories from many many friends and it's always different. Not one "common" time- just depends on the kid. Long as you don't push- just encourage... that is really all you can do. Obviously you can offer rewards when they use the potty- sticker charts- what have you... but I do think they just decide when that is. Even if one day it goes well, the next may not. Or they may do great for weeks- then regress for a bit... all very normal and common. I'm not there yet- but yea, fun times I'm sure!

Maybe others will have better advise. Best of luck!

 

[sept2010]

My lo was the same...either refused to sit on potty and only a few seconds on the toilet when we tried with her wearing pull ups. Straight to underwear and letting her have accidents was the only way she realised she needs to sit on the toilet to wee/poo. It only took a week after that method.

 

[Cleo]

It's likely that he's just not ready. I didn't even attempt till F was 2 years 10 months. It only took a week, but I think that's because he was ready for it. Maybe take a break for a couple months and then try again. I know it's frustrating, but sometimes it's worse to force it.

 

[freckleonear]

It sounds like he's just not ready yet. I would give it a complete break for a while and try again in a few months.

 

[stevie123]

I also think it sounds like its too early. I've only just trained my lo at 2 yrs 11 months. He was no where near ready before that. I would honestly wait Hun. Lots of boys are closer to 3 when they potty train x

 

[suzib76]

Oh bless he is still very young yet, I would echo a total break for a couple of months at least

The longer you leave it generally the easier it will be, you are causing stress for you both needlessly really, just relax and it will come but it does sound like he needs much more time

 

[pinktaffy]

We tried about 8-9 times to total dispear we just kept putting
The potty away and trying again. Thought she was never
Going to be trained. But ever time I put a nappy on I would say you should be going on the potty.
One day she woke up and said right I don't like the potty but I will wee on the toilet
And from that day she was fully trained even nighttime going out etc.

I would say its something you can't force they do it when they ready.

It was like it just clicked in her head one day and that was that lol

 

[hattiehippo]

I thought I'd look at this and he'd be over 3 not 2 and a bit. Please don't worry, lots of boys train much closer to 3 than 2 and I would guess he's just not ready yet.

My little boy wasn't ready when we tried at 2 yrs 7 months and then again at 2 yrs 10 months. It was turning into a huge battle so I let him have the nappies back and waited. Day before his 3rd birthday he announced that he wanted to wee on the toilet and that was it. Poos took 2 more months for him to stop asking for a nappy but again he did it no problem because he was ready.

The preschool may prefer him to be toilet trained but they can't legally refuse to take him if he isn't. I would take a step back and wait before trying again - he may be much keener once he starts at preschool and sees the other kids using the toilet. Moving up to the 3+ room at nursery was what got Tom wanting to potty train.

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

What the others have said, I qas definitely expecting you to say he was over 3!

 

[Seity]

No chance mine would have been ready that early on. I just trained him 2 weeks ago and he's 3 years 3 months old.
When he's ready, he'll do it. Give it some more time and try again.

 

[tina3747]

Have you tried taking him into the loo so he can watch you? I tried when ds was about 18 months, screamed his head off when he sat on it. I literally took him toilet with me all the time, showed him how the wee came out ,where it went ect. Carried this on for a few months and started again. He now doesn't have a nappy on at home anymore (pants either) and we've never had an accident yet. Different story when he's wearing pants though as I think he forgets its not a nappy! He's done so well, and I'm sure it's down to me not trying to bribe him or make him sit down on it.

 

[Cactusgirl]

We did not try until just after 3rd birthday. He started showing an interest over a few weeks, we tried and it took 1 day for it to click. Poos and weeks straight into potty. No stress for either of us.

There was no way he was ready at 2years!!

 

[_Vicky_]

ditto I was expecting this post to be from a 3plus year olds mum. I have one trained at 2 yrs 10 the other not yet at 3 years 4 - oh and BTW nursery cannot insist he is out of nappies its against the childs human rights. My son has just started pre school in nappies and really its not as bad as you think there are loads and loads of kids around 3 not trained (although my son is late lol but thats sam for you he didnt walk till 2) xxx

 

[DCS]

Thanks ladies. He has been showing all the signs of being ready for ages. But he just wont do it. We have given it a few attempts and then waited a while and tried again but nothing. He has been following us into the bathtoom since he started walking. So he knows what he needs to do. He has a potty out all the time and a seat for the big potty. I guess i will leave it for now. Suppose i should know by now that he does things in his own time. Hopefully he will tell me when he is ready and i wont have a 15 year old still in nappies.
I feel worse about it all because a girl a group we go to has been out of nappies sinnce before her 2nd birthday and she is a day younger than my lo. I know i shouldnt compare as all kids are different but i cant help it.

 

[hattiehippo]

Please, please don't compare especially boys and girls when toilet training.

All my friends girls were trained at least 6 months before Tom and 2 of them were a year before him. It really doesn't matter and makes no difference to your child in the long run.

And Tom was physically ready - dry nappies for hours, dry overnight, asked to be changed etc for a good 6 months before he was emotionally ready to do it. We also had a potty out and he has always gone to the toilet with me so you would think he hold have been ready well before he was but he just wasn't. I got very stressed about it around 2 1/2 but he got there when it was right for him not me. Yours will too

 

[_Vicky_]

Ohhh I feel your comparing pain - as a mum of twins it's awful! Alll the girls I know are trained way earlier than boys btw xxx

 

[grover]

Hi,

My little boy was the same. I was getting really stressed about getting him potty trained. But at just under 3 years now, he has started using the toilet for wees - he still wants the nappy for poos. I am not stressing about it now, he will eventually stop using nappies.

I know its really hard when people tell you not to stress, but I had tried everything to try and get him to use the potty/toilet. Then one day his nursery said just put pants on him, give us lost of spares and we will see how it goes. He had a couple of accidents, got upset, but within a week, he started using the toilet for wee.

They all get there in their own time - boys just take longer. Don't try to stress - I did that and my son tried to hold his wee in. Eventually he just started using the toilet. It will happen!

 

[grover]

Oh and its a good sign that he will sit on the potty - he just needs to be comfortable with it.

 

[sparkle_1979]

Sounds too early, some are just not ready at that age, my eldest was my ready until 3