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So I can't stop thinking about getting pregnant. Shocking right? I think about it, talk about it, look up names online, shop for baby furniture and just obssess in general.
On the other hand, I research too much and I'm scared to death or I just think "Maybe we'll wait another year". I can't come to a conclusion so I'm gonna lay it all out here on you ladies.
A little background:
DH and I were married in August of 2008, we've been together for 5 years in May and we've known each other for about 22 years. DH is 29 this year and I'll be 28 in October. Oh ya and we live in Souther California near LA.
Our entire relationship has been one financial struggle after another. We bought our house 3 years ago and have been killing ourselves ever since to make the payments plus pay all the other bills and it's still not over. I won't get into it too much but our mortgage company is so lame so we're trying to get it straightened out. Recently DH has been doing really well at work and may soon have a bit more money coming in so if we get our mortgage straightened out and he's making more money we're going to finally not have to stress over the bills and get caught up on everything.
So assuming this works out (which there's no reason it shouldn't, we just have to wait it out for the next few months) then DH is dying to have a baby. His best friend has kids, his brother has 3 girls (our darling nieces), and now even my big sister is pregnant (Yay Sarah!!) so we're constantly thinking about it. I think he's mostly in a hurry cause he's going to be 30 next year and we're both already older then our parents were when they had us. that being the case I have a laundry list of things I need to do or get done before we get pregnant so here are some of them:
Pay off debt
Refinance
Remodel master bath
Replace carpet
Buy new fridge
Buy new stove
Get in good shape
Get healthy
TRAVEL
So most of these are pretty much depending on our financial stability and there's not much I can do about them at the moment. I'm working on the getting in shape thing and get healthy thing so that's good and we're going to Hawaii in August which is amazing! So the idea was to start TTC after Hawaii. Omg that is so soon! One half of me is ecstatic that it's so soon and the other half is thinking it's too soon.
I am reading the best book right now called Eat, Pray, Love. It's an amazing book about a woman's road to self discovery through her travels (and she's so funny I find myself smiling and giggling while I read). As I'm reading this at night before bed I realize that I'm actually angry that I've never really traveled. I have always wanted to travel, I want to see Europe! But in all these years we've hardly traveled at all because of finances and here we are about to finally be free of this vice and we're talking about having a baby. I can kiss traveling goodbye for awhile, so much for having money (these little suckers are expensive!), so we're right back where we left off.
Then there's the side of me that thinks that treveling right now is a stupid idea (what with the US dollar being practically worthless) and then DH having to take time off work which is not easy. So if Europe is a pie in the sky dream, why not have a baby? It's not like Europe won't be there in a few years! There's nothing else I'm holding out for that we can't accomplish in the next few months and we're dying to have a child and do family outings and not be the only people at the children's parties with no kids.
So then I start researching. I'm all about the natural birth, I want a waterbirth in my own home with no drugs (which is ridicules cause I'm such a huge baby) and I want our baby to co-sleep with us for the first 6 - 12 months and I can't wait to make my own baby food! But then I start reading about possible complications and I'm scared to death of having a c-section or even stitches and then I REALLY scare myself by watching home births on youtube (which are really incredible but look soooooo freaking painful). That's when i start thinking... I'm only 27, I have soooooo much time.
Anyhow, I bet you ladies have had similar reservations and so feel free to throw out whatever advice you've got. I'm so tired of feeling like I'm being pulled in 2 directions and damnit I just want to plan!!!
Heather
On the other hand, I research too much and I'm scared to death or I just think "Maybe we'll wait another year". I can't come to a conclusion so I'm gonna lay it all out here on you ladies.
A little background:
DH and I were married in August of 2008, we've been together for 5 years in May and we've known each other for about 22 years. DH is 29 this year and I'll be 28 in October. Oh ya and we live in Souther California near LA.
Our entire relationship has been one financial struggle after another. We bought our house 3 years ago and have been killing ourselves ever since to make the payments plus pay all the other bills and it's still not over. I won't get into it too much but our mortgage company is so lame so we're trying to get it straightened out. Recently DH has been doing really well at work and may soon have a bit more money coming in so if we get our mortgage straightened out and he's making more money we're going to finally not have to stress over the bills and get caught up on everything.
So assuming this works out (which there's no reason it shouldn't, we just have to wait it out for the next few months) then DH is dying to have a baby. His best friend has kids, his brother has 3 girls (our darling nieces), and now even my big sister is pregnant (Yay Sarah!!) so we're constantly thinking about it. I think he's mostly in a hurry cause he's going to be 30 next year and we're both already older then our parents were when they had us. that being the case I have a laundry list of things I need to do or get done before we get pregnant so here are some of them:
Pay off debt
Refinance
Remodel master bath
Replace carpet
Buy new fridge
Buy new stove
Get in good shape
Get healthy
TRAVEL
So most of these are pretty much depending on our financial stability and there's not much I can do about them at the moment. I'm working on the getting in shape thing and get healthy thing so that's good and we're going to Hawaii in August which is amazing! So the idea was to start TTC after Hawaii. Omg that is so soon! One half of me is ecstatic that it's so soon and the other half is thinking it's too soon.
I am reading the best book right now called Eat, Pray, Love. It's an amazing book about a woman's road to self discovery through her travels (and she's so funny I find myself smiling and giggling while I read). As I'm reading this at night before bed I realize that I'm actually angry that I've never really traveled. I have always wanted to travel, I want to see Europe! But in all these years we've hardly traveled at all because of finances and here we are about to finally be free of this vice and we're talking about having a baby. I can kiss traveling goodbye for awhile, so much for having money (these little suckers are expensive!), so we're right back where we left off.
Then there's the side of me that thinks that treveling right now is a stupid idea (what with the US dollar being practically worthless) and then DH having to take time off work which is not easy. So if Europe is a pie in the sky dream, why not have a baby? It's not like Europe won't be there in a few years! There's nothing else I'm holding out for that we can't accomplish in the next few months and we're dying to have a child and do family outings and not be the only people at the children's parties with no kids.
So then I start researching. I'm all about the natural birth, I want a waterbirth in my own home with no drugs (which is ridicules cause I'm such a huge baby) and I want our baby to co-sleep with us for the first 6 - 12 months and I can't wait to make my own baby food! But then I start reading about possible complications and I'm scared to death of having a c-section or even stitches and then I REALLY scare myself by watching home births on youtube (which are really incredible but look soooooo freaking painful). That's when i start thinking... I'm only 27, I have soooooo much time.
Anyhow, I bet you ladies have had similar reservations and so feel free to throw out whatever advice you've got. I'm so tired of feeling like I'm being pulled in 2 directions and damnit I just want to plan!!!
Heather