zumbaloverr
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When we first found out we were expecting, we had suuuch an easy time with boys names and couldn't come up with ANY girls name however that's changed a ton.
We are 100% certain that if it's a girl, her name will be Amelia Claire... our issue is with a name for a boy (we find out sex a week from Tuesday-- I'm 19 weeks right now).
So we threw a bunch of names back and fourth but didn't LOVE any of them and then while out at dinner one night, my OH suggested a name that I loved instantly. The name is Kadeem and we'd give him a middle name of either James, Michael, or Matthew.
For my OH, the name has meaning because three years ago, his friend (Kadeem) killed himself and of course, that was really tragic and my OH felt it would be a nice way to honor him. Aside from that, I really like the name because (1) it's unique (2) it has a meaning for my OH and (3) it was something we both heard an instantly though YES that's the name we love. We have a really simple last name and I felt it just flowed really nicely... just everything about it clicked for both of us instantly.
BUT THEN!!! We had an issue-- my entire family freaked about the name. My OH is black, I am white. Everyone in my family that I've told the name too has said something along the lines of that I'm trying to "prove something" by giving my baby a "black name".
My name was considered a "black name" at the time I was born (my name is Jade and I don't know many adults with the name) and my grandparents HATED it and said all sorts of racist things about it however no one ever treated me differently because of my name and I actually got a lot of compliments growing up... I brought this up to my mother and she said "yes but I knew your name wouldn't make your life harder-- if you name your baby Kadeem, his life will be harder".
That upset me (because I'm pregnant and hormonal!) and also seemed like a silly comment to me... Kadeem being his name is really going to make his life soo hard?
But it got me to thinking... are people going to judge my baby if we name him Kadeem? Does it matter? Is the name really all that horrible sounding?
So I thought I'd get the advice of the ladies from the forum... what do you think??
Boys name: Kadeem-- yay or nah?
Which middle name do you like the most:
James
Michael
Matthew
We are 100% certain that if it's a girl, her name will be Amelia Claire... our issue is with a name for a boy (we find out sex a week from Tuesday-- I'm 19 weeks right now).
So we threw a bunch of names back and fourth but didn't LOVE any of them and then while out at dinner one night, my OH suggested a name that I loved instantly. The name is Kadeem and we'd give him a middle name of either James, Michael, or Matthew.
For my OH, the name has meaning because three years ago, his friend (Kadeem) killed himself and of course, that was really tragic and my OH felt it would be a nice way to honor him. Aside from that, I really like the name because (1) it's unique (2) it has a meaning for my OH and (3) it was something we both heard an instantly though YES that's the name we love. We have a really simple last name and I felt it just flowed really nicely... just everything about it clicked for both of us instantly.
BUT THEN!!! We had an issue-- my entire family freaked about the name. My OH is black, I am white. Everyone in my family that I've told the name too has said something along the lines of that I'm trying to "prove something" by giving my baby a "black name".
My name was considered a "black name" at the time I was born (my name is Jade and I don't know many adults with the name) and my grandparents HATED it and said all sorts of racist things about it however no one ever treated me differently because of my name and I actually got a lot of compliments growing up... I brought this up to my mother and she said "yes but I knew your name wouldn't make your life harder-- if you name your baby Kadeem, his life will be harder".
That upset me (because I'm pregnant and hormonal!) and also seemed like a silly comment to me... Kadeem being his name is really going to make his life soo hard?
But it got me to thinking... are people going to judge my baby if we name him Kadeem? Does it matter? Is the name really all that horrible sounding?
So I thought I'd get the advice of the ladies from the forum... what do you think??
Boys name: Kadeem-- yay or nah?
Which middle name do you like the most:
James
Michael
Matthew