My Miracle Journey

[Godsjewel]

In the words of Michelle Tanner...you got it dude! I loved that show when I used to watch it!

Good one Amanda!!!

 

[Godsjewel]

I need your help!

My sis-in-law has been asking a lot of questions about if I'm doing injections now and how the IVF process works and I think she is trying to figure out where we are in this journey. I told her previously that we weren't going to tell anyone anything because it was just to difficult to deliver bad news and we are going to wait until after the 1st trimester.

So when I seen her the other day, she asks, "so, how are the injections going?...how long do you have to take them? what are they for?" I just gave her vague answers, but I don't want her to figure out that we are pregnant.

So, my question is....How do I politely ask/tell her I'm not giving her any more info and I would like her to stop asking?

 

[Alr83]

Sarah, I think this is just like when people ask 'when are you going to start having kids?' Or 'when are you going to have another?' We got to the point we told people that we weren't having anymore bc it was too painful everytime someone asked. They don't think that it takes some a long time or that there are serious hurts with losses. It drives me crazy when my MIL says she 'tried and worked so hard' for hers. Her longest trying was 8 mo and no pregnancy losses. The tact or thought that it is harder for some is just not there.

Since they know you aren't giving up right now, I would thank her for asking and for herconcern and questions. Ask her for to pray for you in your journey, but right now you aren't in a place where you are wanting to talk about it bc it is too emotional or difficult and the stresses of the unknown. Let her know that you are relying on God to work through this with you and when it isn't as difficult of a time you will approach her. It's getting people to understand that some days are harder than others and sometimes you just aren't in a place to talk about it- with the exception of with God and your husband.

 

[Godsjewel]

Sarah, I think this is just like when people ask 'when are you going to start having kids?' Or 'when are you going to have another?' We got to the point we told people that we weren't having anymore bc it was too painful everytime someone asked. They don't think that it takes some a long time or that there are serious hurts with losses. It drives me crazy when my MIL says she 'tried and worked so hard' for hers. Her longest trying was 8 mo and no pregnancy losses. The tact or thought that it is harder for some is just not there.

Since they know you aren't giving up right now, I would thank her for asking and for herconcern and questions. Ask her for to pray for you in your journey, but right now you aren't in a place where you are wanting to talk about it bc it is too emotional or difficult and the stresses of the unknown. Let her know that you are relying on God to work through this with you and when it isn't as difficult of a time you will approach her. It's getting people to understand that some days are harder than others and sometimes you just aren't in a place to talk about it- with the exception of with God and your husband.

Perfectly said my dear, thank you!

How are you and your family doing?

 

[xxx_faithful]

I need your help!

My sis-in-law has been asking a lot of questions about if I'm doing injections now and how the IVF process works and I think she is trying to figure out where we are in this journey. I told her previously that we weren't going to tell anyone anything because it was just to difficult to deliver bad news and we are going to wait until after the 1st trimester.

So when I seen her the other day, she asks, "so, how are the injections going?...how long do you have to take them? what are they for?" I just gave her vague answers, but I don't want her to figure out that we are pregnant.

So, my question is....How do I politely ask/tell her I'm not giving her any more info and I would like her to stop asking?

I was going to respond but since Alr83 said it all for us, there's no need for my input hahahahha. I know you would probably appreciate her asking and being considerate and wanting to know how your going if you didn't happen to be pregnant but now that you are it's kind of like 'Ahhhh crap stop asking me as what i really want to do is blurt out IM MMMM WITHHHHH CHILLLLLD

Bahahahahaha!!

 

[Alr83]

We are good. C still has quite a bit of reflux, but it's getting better. She hasn't had a sleep apnea issue in 2 months (praise God!). The joys of her being a little early likely made these things worse....but at the same time we are both alive and continuing pregnancy was not an option with my health. I was always in the right place at the right time. All God! M was just meant to be a big sister! She's awesome!

 

[Godsjewel]

We are good. C still has quite a bit of reflux, but it's getting better. She hasn't had a sleep apnea issue in 2 months (praise God!). The joys of her being a little early likely made these things worse....but at the same time we are both alive and continuing pregnancy was not an option with my health. I was always in the right place at the right time. All God! M was just meant to be a big sister! She's awesome!

Praise God! That is wonderful to hear. It's so great to know that God is in every detail and is always there no matter what.

 

[HisGrace]

Alr's response was perfect. Is she just asking to get information on you or do you think is she considering IVF herself?

 

[Godsjewel]

Alr's response was perfect. Is she just asking to get information on you or do you think is she considering IVF herself?

I think she is just trying to see if we are pregnant. She asked my husband if we were a week before we found out and obviously he told her no. She doesn't have issues with conceiving, she has 2 boys, one she conceived in 4 months and the other in 6.

I just want it to be a surprise when we do tell everyone and not just have her figure it out by asking all of these questions.

 

[HisGrace]

I can understand that. It's your news to share not hers to figure out. I think Alr's recommendation will get you what you're looking for.

 

[me222]

Hi Sarah,

Uggh how frustrating! I think people who haven't had trouble conceiving can really come across as so nosy and insensitive even if they don't mean to be. I've had a missio friend tell me that her children are wondering when we are going to have kids. My husband said later that it's probably really her who wants to know and she's using her kids as an excuse (how many young children want to know that of adults? I was never interested in asking couples when they're going to kids when I was about 10 years old!).

I agree with Alr. And just gently remind her that you've already said you don't want t share stuff. If you don't want to say this face to face- you could just send a text or an email saying something like "thanks for caring, but my husband and I would really prefer if you stop asking questions." And then change the subject on to her or something?

Praying for you.

 

[Godsjewel]

3 days until my 8 week ultrasound!!!

 

[No Doubt]

Thank you! I was wondering when this was happening, lol. I was just sitting back waiting looking for a post. Getting excited for you hun!

 

[markswife10]

Is your ultrasound tomorrow? Praying all goes well! So excited to hear how the babies are doing!

 

[SuperwomanTTC]

Happy 11th Birthday to Taylor!!!! May God bless her today and always!!!


I'm praying that you have a WONDERFUL ultrasound today Sarah!

 

[Godsjewel]

Happy 11th Birthday to Taylor!!!! May God bless her today and always!!!


I'm praying that you have a WONDERFUL ultrasound today Sarah!

Thank you for your birthday shout out to Tay I can't believe she's been in my life now for 8yrs. I'm so blessed to have such a precious young lady call me mom.

Yes, I too am praying for a WONDERFUL ultrasound

 

[Godsjewel]

Yesterday we took Tay to one of her favorite restaurants for dinner and this is the conversation that took place between my husband and Tay.

Hubby- Did you have a good 10yrs of life so far?

Tay- Yes, it's been good.

Hubby- Is there anything you would of changed this year or someone you would have wanted to do but didn't?

(Tay was sitting next to me in the booth and puts her hand on my stomach and rubs it.)

Hubby- You wanted mommy to have a baby?

Tay nods her head yes.

Little does she know her prayers are coming true.

Only 8hrs to go until I see what's going on in there I will update you all asap.

 

[No Doubt]

Happy b'day to Tay! I don't know why but I thought she knew you were preggo. But I understand why you two aren't sharing yet. So excited about the u/s and the babies! Other than nerves from the excitement, how are you feeling right now...sickness or anything?

 

[Godsjewel]

Happy b'day to Tay! I don't know why but I thought she knew you were preggo. But I understand why you two aren't sharing yet. So excited about the u/s and the babies! Other than nerves from the excitement, how are you feeling right now...sickness or anything?

No way!!! We aren't sharing with anyone until we are in the safe zone. It was so difficult getting everyone's hopes up only to let them down last time. We have learned to just be patient and in due time with will share the news.

I'm feeling fantastic, no morning sickness or nausea. I get a little more tired, burping and a little bit of brown spotting, but that's it! I'm very blessed to not have those symptoms again. To be honest, it does make me a little nervous since I don't feel anything, but I know that's when I have to put my trust in God that everything is just fine and maybe I'm one of the blessed women that don't get morning sickness....fingers crossed

 

[Godsjewel]

Have you ever had something you wanted, like a baby and see a million pregnant women or a certain car and then all of a sudden you see that car everywhere???

Well, I can't tell you how many twins I've seen in the past week. I have seen several tv shows that had to do with twins, saw twin boys last Saturday at a dinner and yesterday when we took Tay out, there were twin boys there as well. Also, I listen to Air1 at work, which is a Christian radio station and the announcer was talking about a study they did with twin births, that you don't have to settle for a c-section, that they are showing a lot of women delivering healthy babies naturally. I don't ever remember seeing or hearing about twins before this...lol!