Bing28
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Bit of a rant....
Me and my husband live about 120 miles away from our families. Also I don't have a great relationship with my mum, details of which I'm not going to go into.
Anyway, when we visited our families back in July my mum mentioned about visiting and staying with us for a few days once the baby was born and said she would sleep on the sofa or on the floor in the lounge. I didn't say anything in response to this at the time.
A few days after we returned home I sent an email to everyone (on both sides of our families) saying we don't have room to put people up if they wanted to visit once baby is here as we only have a 2 bedroom house (one room is ours and the other one is the nursery). So I told everyone they would either need to stay in a hotel or do a day trip and recommended to everyone a variety of local hotels ranging in price.
Anyway, today my mum rang me to see how I was (currently 6 days overdue) and she mentioned about sleeping on the sofa or floor for a couple of days again for a couple of nights within the first week baby is here. I told her that we don't have room to put people up and that I had told that to the whole family back at the end of July when I sent everyone that email. My mum started crying on phone saying she thought I would make an exception for her and she can't afford a hotel (she is in a lot of debt and struggles for money) so she won't be able to come down until payday in 10 days time! I may not have even had my baby for another week as I will be induced in 6 days time so if that happens she would only have to wait 4 days until she had the money to pay for a hotel! And why didn't she start saving for a hotel when I told the whole family they would need to stay in one back at the end of July?!
I feel like she is trying to guilt trip me into having her stay at ours when me and my husband really don't want people staying over that soon after baby is born.
I just feel really annoyed that she just thinks it's acceptable to assume me and my husband want to put people up in a small two bedroom house just after I've given birth. We couldn't think of anything worse. We want to spend time as a new family together, just the three of us to bond with our new baby. We don't mind visitors for a few hours but we definitely don't want people staying at ours and getting in the way of this precious time as a new family.
Am I being unreasonable? My sisters and my husbands family are all fine with either doing a day trip or paying for a hotel!
Me and my husband live about 120 miles away from our families. Also I don't have a great relationship with my mum, details of which I'm not going to go into.
Anyway, when we visited our families back in July my mum mentioned about visiting and staying with us for a few days once the baby was born and said she would sleep on the sofa or on the floor in the lounge. I didn't say anything in response to this at the time.
A few days after we returned home I sent an email to everyone (on both sides of our families) saying we don't have room to put people up if they wanted to visit once baby is here as we only have a 2 bedroom house (one room is ours and the other one is the nursery). So I told everyone they would either need to stay in a hotel or do a day trip and recommended to everyone a variety of local hotels ranging in price.
Anyway, today my mum rang me to see how I was (currently 6 days overdue) and she mentioned about sleeping on the sofa or floor for a couple of days again for a couple of nights within the first week baby is here. I told her that we don't have room to put people up and that I had told that to the whole family back at the end of July when I sent everyone that email. My mum started crying on phone saying she thought I would make an exception for her and she can't afford a hotel (she is in a lot of debt and struggles for money) so she won't be able to come down until payday in 10 days time! I may not have even had my baby for another week as I will be induced in 6 days time so if that happens she would only have to wait 4 days until she had the money to pay for a hotel! And why didn't she start saving for a hotel when I told the whole family they would need to stay in one back at the end of July?!
I feel like she is trying to guilt trip me into having her stay at ours when me and my husband really don't want people staying over that soon after baby is born.
I just feel really annoyed that she just thinks it's acceptable to assume me and my husband want to put people up in a small two bedroom house just after I've given birth. We couldn't think of anything worse. We want to spend time as a new family together, just the three of us to bond with our new baby. We don't mind visitors for a few hours but we definitely don't want people staying at ours and getting in the way of this precious time as a new family.
Am I being unreasonable? My sisters and my husbands family are all fine with either doing a day trip or paying for a hotel!