My OH Lifted My Spirits Today :-)...Update page 3!!!

[sunkiss]

Hi Sunkiss, I'm so sorry for the loss of little Olivia, I too lost my boys to pPROM, at just 20 wks. They never found a reason for me either, I didn't do autopsy, just placental histology and strepB was found, I also swabbed positive for it on admission. My waters were broken for 6 days before my body went into labour though so no way of knowing what came first and it is thought it was a twin complication, where my cervix may have dilated a little bit due to the wieght letting infection in so they will check my cervix weekly from 10 weeks in any subsequent pregnancy.

That was lovely what your OH said to you, I really hope you get your wish soon. I know what you mean about wanting to fill the void. I'm 39 and feel time is of the essence too. Please do join us in the life after loss thread

xx

thank u so much Nikki n i am also so sorry for ur loss

before my experience i never knew about PPROM and now i have read so many stories like urs n mines. good things i have read is that they said its not likely to happen the 2nd time, so that is hopeful!! i will be joining u ladies in life after loss

 

[sunkiss]

What your hubby said is gorgeous!!!! No wonder you cried!

I'm sorry that you lost ur little one, we all understand here what it feels like & no matter how wonderful friends & family are they can not begin to understand the roller coaster of emotions!

I know my mum was going to say something to me about waiting to try again until after our wedding (we get married in July 2012), but I shot her down & told her not to talk about it. I think people think we (as in any of us who have lost) should wait....but its down to the couples choice. If you are hubby are ready then its time to try & find some happiness and create a little rainbow. Lets hope a little bit of Christmas magic will do it for you!

I cant give my OH that Christmas gift as I am still bleeding after my loss last week (I was 19 + 2) and we need to wait for the consultants appointment to find out why my waters broke so early. His birthday is in Feb....so maybe I can give him a rainbow for his birthday

Good luck and its sooooooooo beautiful what your husband said xxx

thank u so much bride n i am so sorry for ur lost also

wow another angel lost to PPROM , u sound like such a strong brave woman to give me words of encouragement n u just lost ur angel last week, God bless ur heart i do hope u give ur OH a beautiful bfp for his bday, wishing u all the best hunny

 

[sunkiss]

I just wanted to update u lovely ladies to let u know my OH was right, he did give me the best gift ever for Christmas!! I got my bfp a few days ago and i am feeling so much better now...i still miss my Olivia so much but u ladies are right, there is life after loss, my little angel and God has answered my prayers!!

I am already seeing a maternal fetal specialist and will be watched very closely to prevent PPROM from reoccurring.

Thank u so much for helping me to get through this rough dark time, i dont know what i would do without this forum

 

[mhazzab]

I'm so happy to hear your news, that's wonderful xxxx

 

[Hellylou]

That's fab news, hun! Congrats!

I got my BFP a few days ago too!

 

[sunkiss]

thank u ladies

WOWZERS hellylou i am so happy for u hunny

how far are u? we should be pretty close in due dates!!

 

[Hellylou]

Due 14th September

 

[OliveBay]

So lovely to hear your news sunkiss. Congratulations!

Lots of love and babydust to you (and you too Helen) x

 

[sunkiss]

awww just about the same time again, we were very close in due dates the last time also. how r u feeling? any symptoms yet? will u be seeing a specialist this time?

thank u olive

 

[Hellylou]

Feeling a bit nauseous from time to time and very very tired! Will see doc next week. Think I will be put on low dose aspirin. I was already high risk last time due to kidney trouble, but that had nothing to do with the loss. So this time I imagine I'll be monitored even more closely. Part of me though wants to be left alone, crazy as that may sound. I lost a lot of faith in medical profession last time...

So exciting though!

 

[sunkiss]

yay for symptoms that means the body is at work lol

i hear u about losing faith in the medical prof, last time i mentioned to my OB that i was told some years ago that my cervix was more open than it should be and she just brushed it off because that was my 1st pregnancy...come to find out IC may have been the cause so now this time i will be watched closely...seems as though they wait for u to have a loss before prevention

AFM i just feel fatigue mostly, i didnt have much symptoms last time except killer boobs n fatigue..she was such a good baby, i barely felt preggo until i felt her moving..do they know what caused ur PPROM the last time, if u dont mind me asking?

 

[Hellylou]

No, they never did find any cause. Pregnancy never felt right from the very start, though. I have a theory that it was something to do with the bizarre cycles I'd been having for some years beforehand - terrible long AF, heavy, irregular, spotting. During the pregnancy I had so much unusual bleeding. I know for some women that happens, and it's fine, but for me it just wasn't normal - my previous pregnancies had been nothing like that. It just felt wrong from the start, and I spent the whole 16 weeks trying to convince myself it was going to be ok when in my heart I just knew. I had a D&C after my loss which I think reset everything, and I've been taking prenatal vitamins ever since, and somehow this time just feels better.

 

[sunkiss]

a mothers intuition will never lie, we always somehow know when things are not right!! im happy u are feeling much better about this pregnancy, i feel the same way, i had a d&c after also because the placenta wouldnt deliver and a nurse i know said that it would really clean me out and help me build a nice new lining, i never stopped taking my prenatals either so that should help our LO along from very early

are u in a group now? i am in a group with some really lovely ladies, most have had losses as well and they are wonderful, i would luv if u would join us if u like, since we are all so close in due dates would be wonderful to share our journey's together...the link for the group is https://www.babyandbump.com/two-week-wait/833675-tales-successful-bfps-continuation-new-years-post.html
hope to see u there

 

[Andypanda6570]

I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss. I was also 40 when I got pregnant by total accident. I already have 3 boys 20,17 and 11 and we were done, so we thought. I lost my Ava at 20 weeks and they don't know why, I gave birth to her in my house and we buried her on 3/11/2011 Hardest day of my life, just now am i starting to feel better and strong enough to try again, I will be 42 in June, so time is not on my side ... I am so happy that your are pregnant, congratulations!~!
Did you plan it right ? See for me it is easy to get pregnant once I loose weight, I gained like 30pds with Ava and now I have almost lost it all with the dieting .. Just my age is scaring me a bit , but I would be more terrified to never try again, that is more scary/ Just wanted to say congrats and I am so deeply sorry for your loss. XOXOOX Andrea

And we are both from New York....How exciting : - )

 

[Nikki_d72]

Congratulations on your little rainbow! Amazing that what your hubby said came true. I wish you all the best and am glad to hear that you are getting good care. xxx

 

[yazoo]

I'm not sure how I missed this thread when you first made it. I am very sorry for the loss of little Olivia. My son Jakob was born @ 22 weeks 5 months ago this week. I too suspect that my membranes had ruptured but I was bleeding so they weren't positive in hospital. They thought it was just light coloured blood after a speculum exam but I'm not convinced. I went into labour & Jakob was born sleeping. Congratulations on your new pregnancy. I wish you a happy & healthy 9 months. Xx

 

[dancareoi]

I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss. I was also 40 when I got pregnant by total accident. I already have 3 boys 20,17 and 11 and we were done, so we thought. I lost my Ava at 20 weeks and they don't know why, I gave birth to her in my house and we buried her on 3/11/2011 Hardest day of my life, just now am i starting to feel better and strong enough to try again, I will be 42 in June, so time is not on my side ... I am so happy that your are pregnant, congratulations!~!
Did you plan it right ? See for me it is easy to get pregnant once I loose weight, I gained like 30pds with Ava and now I have almost lost it all with the dieting .. Just my age is scaring me a bit , but I would be more terrified to never try again, that is more scary/ Just wanted to say congrats and I am so deeply sorry for your loss. XOXOOX Andrea

And we are both from New York....How exciting : - )

I saw your thread and had to respond. I posted a thread yesterday under a missed miscarriage.
I have 3 beautiful children, boys aged 10 and 19 months and girl aged 7.
I was 40 last August and found in October i was pregnant, bit of a shock but totally overjoyed.
on 8th dec at 13 weeks i had a nuchal scan to detect downs, all was good and i was told i had a very healthy baby.
During routine check on 9th jan, no hearbeat was found and scan showed baby died at 13-14 weeks, probably just after the scan.
I gave birth to our little angel in hospital last thursday,12cm in length and weighed 52g.
we are having a service to send our angel to heaven next monday, just myself and husband to attend.
I desperately want to try again but hubby is not sure, I too am worried about my age (i lost a baby at 8 weeks in 2009)
I am totally devasted at the moment and know exactly how you feel.
i hope it all works out for you.

 

[Andypanda6570]

I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss. I was also 40 when I got pregnant by total accident. I already have 3 boys 20,17 and 11 and we were done, so we thought. I lost my Ava at 20 weeks and they don't know why, I gave birth to her in my house and we buried her on 3/11/2011 Hardest day of my life, just now am i starting to feel better and strong enough to try again, I will be 42 in June, so time is not on my side ... I am so happy that your are pregnant, congratulations!~!
Did you plan it right ? See for me it is easy to get pregnant once I loose weight, I gained like 30pds with Ava and now I have almost lost it all with the dieting .. Just my age is scaring me a bit , but I would be more terrified to never try again, that is more scary/ Just wanted to say congrats and I am so deeply sorry for your loss. XOXOOX Andrea

And we are both from New York....How exciting : - )

I saw your thread and had to respond. I posted a thread yesterday under a missed miscarriage.
I have 3 beautiful children, boys aged 10 and 19 months and girl aged 7.
I was 40 last August and found in October i was pregnant, bit of a shock but totally overjoyed.
on 8th dec at 13 weeks i had a nuchal scan to detect downs, all was good and i was told i had a very healthy baby.
During routine check on 9th jan, no hearbeat was found and scan showed baby died at 13-14 weeks, probably just after the scan.
I gave birth to our little angel in hospital last thursday,12cm in length and weighed 52g.
we are having a service to send our angel to heaven next monday, just myself and husband to attend.
I desperately want to try again but hubby is not sure, I too am worried about my age (i lost a baby at 8 weeks in 2009)
I am totally devasted at the moment and know exactly how you feel.
i hope it all works out for you.

I am so sorry for your loss Thank you for your post. I will be 42 in June and I am just starting to try now, I am petrified because of my age , but I need to try again and see what happens. If god forbid something happens this time I will not try again, my heart could not take it. My husband was not happy and didn't want to try again, he feels we are done, but he knows if I don't try again I will be miserable, so he is making a sacrifice for me.. Everything will work out for you, just talk to him and see what he says.
Don't let the age get in the way.. If you ever need to talk I am always here..
XOOXOX

 

[sunkiss]

sorry i missed the responses ladies...

andy thank u hunny, what a great hubby u have to sacrifice his own feelings for urs, i have a great hubby too who is super supportive and gave me the best christmas present ever just like he said..i wish u all the best with ur rainbow hunny, i pray ur bfp comes really quick and u have a h&h 9mths

nikki, thank u so much!! it is really amazing what he said actually came true, i really cant believe it!! i think it came true because he told me he prayed and asked God to give me my wish to make me happy again, he really is such an amazing man, i am a lucky girl to have him!!

yazoo, i am so sorry for ur loss, as unfair as it is for any of us to go through this, i tell u what got me through it, is my faith in God and prayer, i looked at it from this view, i must be really special that God chose me to give him an angel..that msg helped me to get through it..i pray ur rainbow comes really soon

dancareoi, first i am so sorry for ur lost hunny, its the hardest thing ever to go through and not knowing if it will happen or even if u are ready again is even harder, i pray ur heart heals and u n OH decide what is best for both of u, i will keep u in my prayers