My roommate is really attracted to my best friend and it bothers me?

[Croc-O-Dile]

My roommate has confessed to me that he's really attracted to my best friend, who's been staying here since Saturday and will be staying until I give birth. (She's grown up in my house, like a sister to me and another daughter to my mom)
I don't know why, but it really bothers me that he's so into her.
We've known each other since I was about 11, and we've always been pretty cool with each other. But, since he's lived here we've gotten pretty close. I rant about pregnancy stuff to him and he rants about band/recording stuff to me. It's a win-win relationship.
He's never really interested in girls, not that he's gay or anything. (he's actually one of the only 100% straight male friends I have) But it's more like he just doesn't seem to care. kwim?

Well he really has a thing for her. He called me this morning while on break asking me what happened last night (he was pretty drunk) and asking me if he said anything stupid. But then it turned into a thing of him telling me about how he hated that he was attracted to her because he's not used to caring about things like this and it makes him uncomfortable. In reality what it is, is that he really likes her and is nervous because he doesn't think of her as "just another lay."

And I'm sitting here totally bothered by it all! I can't tell him I'm bothered by it, because I really have no reason to be. I'm not jealous or anything, nor am I against one friend seeing another friend. I honestly have no idea why this is bothering me so much. Maybe it's the hormones? I don't know. Either way, I don't like it at all. I should be happy that he's showing interest in someone! Not acting like a jealous old hag when I'm truly not!

None of this is making any sense to me.

 

[lindblum]

Could be hormones. Maybe worried about what happens if they break up? Or that they will spend more time with each other than with you?

I know I didn't like any of my siblings OH's at first, could just be a protective thing.

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

Maybe, but I don't know who I would be protective of! I would feel protective of her because she's like a sister to me and in my mind, nobody is good enough. But I would feel protective of him because I'm one of the only people he actually opens up to about this kind of stuff, so I know how sensitive he is about it. And I know she can be rather insensitive with certain things. kwim? So I really hope it's not a protective thing, or I'm just going to drive myself mad! Although that does make the most logical sense.

 

[LoisP]

Not a read & runner, but haven't got anything good to say! Hope things get better, it does sound like hormones, seeing as you don't have feelings for him, and your not jelous. I agree with lindblum, could be a protective thing.

 

[~RedLily~]

i know what you mean. my cousin and friend have become friends and it really bothered me, i dont know why though, they said nothing was going on between them but i still didnt like it so its not just you. that was when i was pregnant but i still feel the same now so it isnt just hormones.

 

[LoolaBear]

could it just be a hormonal possessiveness thing?
when i was in the later stages of my pregnancy with the twins i got so possessive over OH i didnt even like him talking to his sister or his mum as i felt like at the time i should be the only female he should be giving attention to as without even knowing it that male attention made me feel good.
it could be an underlying thing knowing how much of a dick FOB is and that your roomate is positive male attention and company at such a fragile time and that if he were giving it to someone else then it would be less for you making you feel slightly vunerable to the elements in a way.
i dunno just my perspective on it hun. xx

 

[Ablaski17]

dont have much to say

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

could it just be a hormonal possessiveness thing?
when i was in the later stages of my pregnancy with the twins i got so possessive over OH i didnt even like him talking to his sister or his mum as i felt like at the time i should be the only female he should be giving attention to as without even knowing it that male attention made me feel good.
it could be an underlying thing knowing how much of a dick FOB is and that your roomate is positive male attention and company at such a fragile time and that if he were giving it to someone else then it would be less for you making you feel slightly vunerable to the elements in a way.
i dunno just my perspective on it hun. xx

As much as I don't want to admit it, you're probably right. He does the things for me that FOB should have done. Like helping me set up the nursery, keeping me company when I'm up late with insomnia, etc. And he's been my shoulder to lean on through this whole court case. So the idea that I am enjoying the positive male attention makes a lot of sense. Why couldn't I just have become possessive over my dad or something? Oh that's right, because subconsciously I have to make sure that nothing is ever simple.