My sister has picked the same boy name

[iiTTCii]

My sister is 12 weeks pregnant and she text me the other day asking if I'd picked names. I told her we had a shortlist of 4 names but are not 100% which one yet. She replied saying if they have a boy, then they are going to call him Isaac.. Which is one of the names of my shortlist. I didn't say anything to her. Should I just take this off the list now? I keep thinking that if we don't use it and then she ends up having a girl, it's wasted. Not sure.

 

[stiletto_mom]

If they are set on it, then yes.

 

[Boo44]

It depends how much you like it eg is is number 1 out of your 4 choices or do you prefer some of the others more? Could you discuss it with her?
Because 'officially' you're further on and you chose the name first so you absolutely don't have to take the name off the list just because they like it. But if you're not toooo bothered, then it would make life more simple

 

[Milalacht]

I'd talk with her about it and openly tell her that you also have that name on your list.
Isn't it nice that you both have such a similiar taste in names?
Ask her how fix the choice is and if she says it's the only name she can give her baby, I'd chose another name from your list or perhaps give Isaac as a second name.
I think it's best to just be open with each other.

 

[LoraLoo]

Is she finding out baby's sex? What a difficult one! She may even change her mind- we changed our last baby's name on her due date!

 

[Moma Ali]

I dont see why it would be wasted?

I had 2 boys and 1 girl name picked since I was a child, I used one of them and if I have another child (god willing) the othe 2 will still very much be used with no hesitation, I already call my unborn dream children by those names and even if my brother some how had a child and use one of those name (I very much doubt it) I would STILL use it and they would just have to get use to it because it was my chosen name first (before he was even born)

if your not set on that name I dont understand why this is even a question just drop it and move on, is it really worth blowing up your family and hurting your sister over when its not even a name you settled on let alone are set on?

im not against cousins having the same name, if you had both truely been set on that nme then fine both use it but if it might hurt your sister and you happily have other choices then I think just use one of them to save drama

 

[Boo44]

I don't really get why everyone thinks the sister has the say in this when OP is further on and actually knows that her baby is a boy! Her sister could be having a girl. Her sister could change her mind before then she's only 12/40!

 

[Indi84]

I think talk to her and see, only 8 weeks and she might know what she is having!
I'm four months ahead of my sister, she doesn't know what she is having yet but I've talked names, I don't think we have far off taste but not exactly the same. I've got Zachary in my list but she likes Zechariah sort of thing.

 

[Kiwiberry]

In my opinion the best thing you can do is to wait it out. Try and see if you can wait it out long enough to find out what gender the baby is for your sister. Then you can save Isaac as a secondary name and choose a first name that you will use if she's having a boy.

 

[Mrs_Bump]

If your sister is finding out then you will know before your ds is born what she's having. I would just tell her you really like the name too and it's in your short list. I'm sure she won't mind, it's confirmation you think it's a great name. I honestly think talking about it is the way fwd. Me and my sister had our first children 1 day apart and our second children are due 7 weeks apart. We regularly discuss names and there is often overlap, it doesn't need to be a drama if you talk about it.

 

[Milalacht]

I don't really get why everyone thinks the sister has the say in this when OP is further on and actually knows that her baby is a boy! Her sister could be having a girl. Her sister could change her mind before then she's only 12/40!

I think family is important and silblings are the people you very likely will spend the most time of your life with... more than parents, your own children or a partner, they have the potential to share your lifetime with you.
Two sisters considering the same name for their babies means that they have a very similiar taste and think alike, which is nice and speaks for a good relationship.
I would want to treasure that by being honest and straightforward with each other instead of being stubborn and risking to damage the bond with your silbling.
It's sad to have a bad relationship with your silblings so acting responsible and be willing to compromise with them is important, in my opinion.
if the name is important to you I'm sure there'll be a solution when both parties are willing.

 

[Quartz]

I don't really get why everyone thinks the sister has the say in this when OP is further on and actually knows that her baby is a boy! Her sister could be having a girl. Her sister could change her mind before then she's only 12/40!

Just because she is further ahead does not automatically give her the right to the name. If you follow that logic then surely the sister said the name first (as far as I can tell she just said she had 4 names on a list not what they were). But all of who said it first whois further ahead has the potential to be petty and that is not the way to go with a sister.

OP first off you really need to decide how you feel about the name given that it is one of 4. If you decide that it is your first choice and one you want to use you need to speak honestly to your sister.

Honestly I would let the name go though. If she loves it enough to tell you at 12 weeks it clearly is important to her

 

[Boo44]

Think you'll all find I originally said that she should discuss it with her sister! I just didn't follow the logic of the few who suggested she should automatically 'give' the name to her sister that's all...

 

[iiTTCii]

My sister was unsure at first whether to find out the sex but they have booked a private scan for 16 weeks to find out what they're having. I've decided to leave it until then. Baby might be a girl or one of us might go off the name.
Thanks everyone for the input.

 

[Boo44]

My sister was unsure at first whether to find out the sex but they have booked a private scan for 16 weeks to find out what they're having. I've decided to leave it until then. Baby might be a girl or one of us might go off the name.
Thanks everyone for the input.

Am glad it will get sorted one way or the other and not long to wait! If you're anything like me you'll go on and off names a million times before your due date and she might too! X

 

[Jessicahide]

If you want Issac and your baby comes first then choose it! Just tell he its on your short list xxxx

 

[CandiceSj]

I'm glad your sister is going to find out the sex of the baby - that will be helpful!

I personally am not against cousins sharing a name especially if it's a relatively common name. And in your cases, unless you're both not traditional with the last name of your baby, the babies will not have the same last name so it seems even more OK that they share a first name, but if you or your sister feels strongly against it, that needs to be respected.

I have two cousins with nearly the same name, since they DO share the same family name. Julie and Julien. Of course it's impossible for that to be confusing since it's a boy name and girl name, but still, it's 1 letter difference for their full name and it's not an issue. My husband has like 4 cousins with the same given name as him but of course it's much more common in his culture and his name is ULTRA popular.

 

[Kuji]

I guess I personally don't see an issue with cousins having the same name since I kind of went through it. My grand aunt and mother are around the same age(I think like 2-3 years apart) and were raised together(my grandmother was raising her little sister). They also have the same name, Johanne.

My mother and my great aunt also had us (my second cousin and I) just months apart and we were both named Stephanie.

Growing up, we considered eachother as best cousins and would pretend to be twins because of our names (although it doesn't make sense but hey, child logic).

I get how it can be awkward but I also don't see too much of an issue for cousins to have the same names. It's a difficult situation that I assume depends on how close or open the sisters would be to eachother.
Because although it was aunt and niece, my mother and great aunt saw eachother as sisters and both chose to name their daughters the same name without any issue.

 

[Andypanda6570]

I don't see an issue either..My 1st son is Christopher and my SIL 1st is Christopher also..

 

[cooch]

The more you hear the name the more you might go off it or associate it with your future nephew. I chopped and changed my mind loads.