My Story (It's a bit of long one mind!!)

[Cassie_x]

I turn 20 on October 4th, so technically I'm still a teen !! I thought I'd post my 'Introduction' here. My name is Cassandra (Cassie to everyone) and I only joined BnB this morning.

When I was 15 I met Ben, and we got together pretty quickly. I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant in June 2009, when I was 17. It's just my dad, and he wasn't particularly supportive, especially as he really did not like Ben. Ben and I moved in together, and I continued going to college. haha! When I found out I was having twins… My friends weren't particularly supportive, so I ended up mainly being on my own. The only friends who really stuck with me was (believe it or not ladies!) boys! Matthew and Lewis, who I'd known since I was 12.

I turned 18 on October 4th 2008 and then on the 16th of December 2009, when they were 32wk + 3d William Hudson and Niall Ashton made it into the world. Ben and I were very proud parents of our gorgeous sons.

However, we didn't last and split up a month later because he'd found a new girl . I didn't want to live in the house we had shared anymore, so I moved back in with my dad, but it was too cramped with me and the boys. My friend Lewis had just moved into a larger flat then my dad's, and he invited me to stay. He was so amazing with the boys, straight from day 1. I'm really clingy with my boys because they were so small and Ben walking out on us etc, but I felt it was OK to leave Lewis with the twins instead of my sister whilst I went to nurse school (I'm training to become a nurse).

One thing led to another *cough**cough* and Lewis & I became a couple around August 2010. And then, in October 2010, I found out I was 2 weeks pregnant. Our beautiful baby girl, Alianna, was born on her EDD 2nd June 2011. About a week after we were discharged from hospital, Lewis proposed and we're getting married on the 29th of April 2012. I can't wait!! He's my soulmate and I love him so, so much! Ahhhh! Yay! So that's it really…I was just wondering, does the name Cassandra Kitchen sound silly? My sister said it sounds weird, but it's the name I'll be when I'm married.

Can I change my name to include the surname my sons have? They're Casey, so Cassandra Kitchen-Casey?! I want people to know we are related, so wdyt?? Thanks, Cassie x

 

[megan.rose]

Believe me that doesnt sound silly at all...atleast not commpared to mine, My fiances last name is Bush, my middle name is Rose...so I will be Megan ROSE BUSH!!! AHHH so bad lol...but yes atleast in Canada I know that you can include both last names or just keep your last name alot of people are doing that these days.

 

[Shaunagh]

I dont think it sounds silly at all, infact i think it has a nice ring to it. If I was in your situation, personally i'd change LO's last name just to Kitchen. I'm in a step-family. My mum remarried, and i got two step brothers out of it (although they only share the same dad, my step-dad but have different mothers. - if you understand.) So me and my sister had a different last name to my mum, step dad and step brothers. Thennn, just to complicate things.. Josh (my older step-brother) his mum got married to another man, and changed Josh's last name so he could have the same as hers. So we have 3 last names in our family. I wish we all had the same one.

Congratulations on your 3 LO's btw, and i love their names!
Btw, idk if you've seen, but there is also a Teen Parenting section

 

[Cassie_x]

Aw, thanks ladies. Can I take my exes surname then? I will have to look into it! Congrats with both your pregnancies btw, rose bush tee hee! xxx

 

[cowboys angel]

Here, when you get married, however you fill out the marriage certificate and sign it is your name. As far as I know, you can put it however you want. I know many people who have kept just their maiden name, hyphenated both, etc. I just dropped my maiden name and took my husbands'.

 

[BrEeZeY]

welcome to bnb!!! i think that sounds adorable!! i have a son from a previous relationship and now married and expecting my husbands first even tho he has been the father to my eldest son since before he was born! does the twins father come around?? my sons does but he also has a daughter that he doesnt see so we are trying to fight for full custody so my husband can adopt him! where are you from??? im not a teen either! lol im 21 (shhhh dont tell)

 

[aidensxmomma]

Welcome to BnB.
I'm Terah, I'm 20 and 26w2d pregnant with my third little one, a girl we're naming Seraphina. My OH and I also have a three year old son named Aiden and a two year old daughter named Madalynn (Mady).
I don't think Cassandra Kitchen sounds weird at all. It's actually got a nice ring to it. I don't know if you can have your ex's surname, though. I think you'd have to talk to someone and see. They might let you since your boys have that surname so it's best to check.

 

[Cassie_x]

Thanks ladies!

Right, so, I googled about the whole name changing thing and as long as Ben & I both agree I can change the twins names, instead of my own. They'll have a double barrelled surname.

Breezy- Ben does see the twins every weekend & it's so hard to say goodbye to them! Does Aidan see his dad regularly, and who does he identify as his dad? As Will & Niall see Lewis more then Ben, I'm sure they think Lewis is their father. It'll be a tough one to explain when they're older…I live in the UK by the way. I don't think we'll fight for full custody as he is a good dad, though Lewis is ten times better (in my opinion) & I know how much it would mean for him to say he's their dad, legally, but Ben would fight for him too. His new gf has a baby, a little bit younger than Ali. Two half-sisters & not even 2! Congrats on your little bub by the way!

Terah- Your name is beautiful, as are all your children's! Madalynn is gorgeous!
And I love the name Aidan! Congrats on little Seraphina! I've decided to keep
my maiden name, but also take Lewis', so I have a connection with the twins. Whilst they'll be Casey-Brownfield I'll be Cassandra Kitchen-Brownfield. Lewis
will also take my surname which I think is sweet of him.

Thanks for all your help and I'm looking forward to hearing all about your beautiful, healthy babies in the not too distant future xxx

 

[x__amour]

Hi Cassie, welcome to BnB!
I'm Shannon, 19 and I have a 10 month old named Victoria (Tori)!

You should come join us in Teen Parenting!
https://www.babyandbump.com/teenage-parenting/

 

[BrEeZeY]

Thanks ladies!

Right, so, I googled about the whole name changing thing and as long as Ben & I both agree I can change the twins names, instead of my own. They'll have a double barrelled surname.

Breezy- Ben does see the twins every weekend & it's so hard to say goodbye to them! Does Aidan see his dad regularly, and who does he identify as his dad? As Will & Niall see Lewis more then Ben, I'm sure they think Lewis is their father. It'll be a tough one to explain when they're older…I live in the UK by the way. I don't think we'll fight for full custody as he is a good dad, though Lewis is ten times better (in my opinion) & I know how much it would mean for him to say he's their dad, legally, but Ben would fight for him too. His new gf has a baby, a little bit younger than Ali. Two half-sisters & not even 2! Congrats on your little bub by the way!

Terah- Your name is beautiful, as are all your children's! Madalynn is gorgeous!
And I love the name Aidan! Congrats on little Seraphina! I've decided to keep
my maiden name, but also take Lewis', so I have a connection with the twins. Whilst they'll be Casey-Brownfield I'll be Cassandra Kitchen-Brownfield. Lewis
will also take my surname which I think is sweet of him.

Thanks for all your help and I'm looking forward to hearing all about your beautiful, healthy babies in the not too distant future xxx

he sees him every wednesday night and every other weekend, his dad usually gets him and then leaves him at his mom's house, Aiden has been calling Colby "dad" alot more lately he usually calls him papa but calls him dad and then corrects himself really fast...but he is def a papas boy he loves OH so much so we have told him its okay to call him daddy, FOB doesnt like it but imo they will call whoever they feel the father figure is dad... Colby tells everyone he is his dad, its really hard when we let him go on the nights its FOBs its really hard on Colby....yeah Aiden has a half sister and will have a half brother all before he is 2 and then FOB jst found out he has got another girl pregnant

 

[JessicaAnne]

Welcome to BnB, I'm Jessica, 19, mummy to Evie who's 1 and 15+3 with baby number 2! Congratulations on your little family x

 

[Cassie_x]

Breezy- It's so close til your baby gets here! A week! Ahh, you must be so excited! Occasionally, they'll call Lewis "dadda" and when Ben comes and I'll say to them "Daddy's coming over" then he'll be "dadda" for the day! Oh it's all very confusing! I'm sure it's not long before Ben gets his gf pregnant again!! xx

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

:wave: Wow, congratulations!!! And welcome

Come and join us on teen parenting (if you haven't already!!) I'm 20 and have a 2 year old daughter, Robyn, and an 8 month old son, Logan.

I think the name sounds fine Probably because you're not used to it yet! And you can't exactly chose the surname Should be fine to change the surnames of your boys can't be much help there as I havent had to do that

Look forward to seeing you around!