pictureperfec
mummy to Saskia
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right ive had 2 months now to get my head around being single, although it was my decision it was one of the hardest ive ever had to make!
i couldnt take any more, i had to leave him, drinking and his family where more important than me + bump. i have suffered low blood pressure and hyperemis (sp?) all the way through my pregnancy and have collapsed due to it. FOB didnt see this as reason enough to come home when i asked him too when he finished work, as i had collapsed on the kitchen floor when attempting to make myself food. he decided he was going to say he would be home by 4 so i thought ok thats fine i can wait til then.. then at 4:30 hes still not home so i ring and he says his mums asked him to cook tea so will be back by 8, i started getting annoyed then as i hadnt eaten all day and was hungry but couldnt risk falling again! 8:30 hes still not home, hes now decided hes waiting to see his grandparents who where coming down and they wouldnt be down untill 11-11:30 pm as their flight was delayed... so by this time i decided to go to bed as i hadnt eaten all day and felt really ill, i told him not to wake me when he gets in as i dont feel well..
next morning hes stil not in.. he doesnt come home for 3 days, and uses the excuse that i was invited to go down.. i was still being majorly sick, was scared to leave the house alone incase i collapsed and i will not get a taxi on my own.. so i spent 3 days sat on my own in our flat, crying, feeling poorly, having panic attacks (i HATE being on my own) and being scared to get out of bed for anything!
on the 3rd day i contacted my parents who finally said to come home as i was in no state and would have neded up doing damage to myself or the baby! he then spent the next week that his grandparents where down constantly drunk whilst i was very very ill at home.
he has a history of drug abuse, he was adicted to valium, took cocaine and was admitted into a rehab type place to get him off the drugs.
when he gave up the drugs he started drinking more untill he was spending most of our money on drink, the amount he was drinking wasnt effecting him though as his body became intolerant to the drink, that is also now on record as he started gettin illness due to it..
he always owes lots of people money because he spends all of his on drink, i was supporting us both aswell as trying to start preparing for the baby. his phonebil is in my name as he doesnt have a 'proper' bank account and his doesnt alow direct debits but we set it up so that we recieved payment slips but they still needed to do a credit rating so needed it to be in my name.. hes not paid since january so now its upto £170 and im being threatened with court action.. he hasnt given me a penny for the phone since jan so now im facing getting in trouble due to him not paying.
im providing everything for our baby as he cant afford to. ive told him i plan on giving her my name, this is mainly because i cant trust him to not let her down and be there for her! he says he is going to be the best dad etc but i cant see it!
i cant see that he will pay anything towards her when she is born because i cant trust him with money.. but if i go through CSA surely he would need a 'proper' bank account?
i love my girl so much i just worry about him hurting her.. i also worry about the drinking.. he has now taken to lieing to me about how often hes been drinking etc.. when he brags to everyone else about how hung over he is every day. i dont want my daughter around that.. i cant trust him not to drink around her when shes here. i also worry that now hes living back with his brother he will start taking drugs again although i cant prove it as he does nothing but lie to me now.
i couldnt take any more, i had to leave him, drinking and his family where more important than me + bump. i have suffered low blood pressure and hyperemis (sp?) all the way through my pregnancy and have collapsed due to it. FOB didnt see this as reason enough to come home when i asked him too when he finished work, as i had collapsed on the kitchen floor when attempting to make myself food. he decided he was going to say he would be home by 4 so i thought ok thats fine i can wait til then.. then at 4:30 hes still not home so i ring and he says his mums asked him to cook tea so will be back by 8, i started getting annoyed then as i hadnt eaten all day and was hungry but couldnt risk falling again! 8:30 hes still not home, hes now decided hes waiting to see his grandparents who where coming down and they wouldnt be down untill 11-11:30 pm as their flight was delayed... so by this time i decided to go to bed as i hadnt eaten all day and felt really ill, i told him not to wake me when he gets in as i dont feel well..
next morning hes stil not in.. he doesnt come home for 3 days, and uses the excuse that i was invited to go down.. i was still being majorly sick, was scared to leave the house alone incase i collapsed and i will not get a taxi on my own.. so i spent 3 days sat on my own in our flat, crying, feeling poorly, having panic attacks (i HATE being on my own) and being scared to get out of bed for anything!
on the 3rd day i contacted my parents who finally said to come home as i was in no state and would have neded up doing damage to myself or the baby! he then spent the next week that his grandparents where down constantly drunk whilst i was very very ill at home.
he has a history of drug abuse, he was adicted to valium, took cocaine and was admitted into a rehab type place to get him off the drugs.
when he gave up the drugs he started drinking more untill he was spending most of our money on drink, the amount he was drinking wasnt effecting him though as his body became intolerant to the drink, that is also now on record as he started gettin illness due to it..
he always owes lots of people money because he spends all of his on drink, i was supporting us both aswell as trying to start preparing for the baby. his phonebil is in my name as he doesnt have a 'proper' bank account and his doesnt alow direct debits but we set it up so that we recieved payment slips but they still needed to do a credit rating so needed it to be in my name.. hes not paid since january so now its upto £170 and im being threatened with court action.. he hasnt given me a penny for the phone since jan so now im facing getting in trouble due to him not paying.
im providing everything for our baby as he cant afford to. ive told him i plan on giving her my name, this is mainly because i cant trust him to not let her down and be there for her! he says he is going to be the best dad etc but i cant see it!
i cant see that he will pay anything towards her when she is born because i cant trust him with money.. but if i go through CSA surely he would need a 'proper' bank account?
i love my girl so much i just worry about him hurting her.. i also worry about the drinking.. he has now taken to lieing to me about how often hes been drinking etc.. when he brags to everyone else about how hung over he is every day. i dont want my daughter around that.. i cant trust him not to drink around her when shes here. i also worry that now hes living back with his brother he will start taking drugs again although i cant prove it as he does nothing but lie to me now.
