my x not seeking help

[stevon111]

Hey everyone

im really really getting concered about faye and i think theres a problem somewhere as she is getting much much harder to control and shes only 18 months old.
ive asked my X gf 3 times now if she would go and seek help from a health visitor as ive made my feelings show about how faye is progressing and getting older but its 2 things which are getting really really bad and that is changing and getting ready.
ive tryed all different ways to help her e.g play with toys. hold something. put a book next to her to try and get her concentration away from it. but the past month she has rapidly rapidly got worse screaming, kicking, banging her head etc. but what im finding is that its not behavioural problem but seems to be an anxiety problem where shes really scared.
ive had to highlight this to my X Gf on 3 occasions now and she says she will speak to someone about it and ive asked her if she could give me a text and let me know whats said so i can work with her to make it better for faye but all each time i just get ignored and its really starting to upset me where i just feel as though i have no say in fayes life especially when my x has all the time in the world to get this looked into or faye will continue to get worse not better. i cant blame faye becouse shes with that many people no wonder shes like this as shes with my X, my x mother, my x sister ..who will all be changing her and my biggest fear is that how are these treating faye when she gets difficult..

can someone offer me any advice on this as im not sure what else to do

 

[Ceejay123]

You're on the birth certificate? All medical decisions are your decisions too.. !

Take her to the doctors yourself, call NHS direct and try to get the number for a HV that will see you? You have PR - just as much right as her Mum x

 

[whatwillbe]

Hopefully its just a little faze shes going through, its nice to see a man on here who cares so much for his child, i hope things sort themselves out ! X

 

[emalou90]

dont worry too much. its not your x's fault.
kids are kids and some dont like getting changed!
theyd rather run around in dirty clothes and nappies haha gross.

if you are seriously concerned tell your ex you might want to take your daughter to the health visitor and see what she says x

 

[teal]

Could just be pushing boundaries? Mys on went through a screaming, kicking stage, I started to really worry until one of my friends was going through the same thing.

 

[ravenmel]

Sounds like she's just being kid. You can take her to the health visitor yourself you don't have to wait for your ex to do.

 

[resursval]

Why not make it to something fun?
When you mention anxiety I think of that she has been forced to do these things whereas anxiety comes.
I don't think she needs a doctor, but maybe you as parents need guidance how to deal with your daughter and how to make her feel comfortable.
Professionals know how to deal with this, I am thinking of behavior experts/child psychologists, they will also know if your daughter is suffering of a medical condition but I think it has to do with you as parents.