Natural mc at 6wks - when to try again?

[SianMA]

Hi all, toaly new to B&B site, and to actually posting. Have been reading other peoples for the last few days since I started bleeding.

Had a feeling something wasn't right a week ago when my pg symptoms disappeared and I felt positive something was wrong, I tried explaining this to my midwife but just got told 'stop worrying' and wait and see.

Even when I did start to mc I found my nurses/ midwives all had the attiude that this wasn't something I should be upset about as I was only 6 wks and that at least I knew I could concieve/ I have plenty of time to try again. Don't know why but I feel angry that they all seem totally not bothered.

Feel much better just writing it all down somewhere I know other people might be feeling the same!

Just wondering how long it takes to get back into a cycle and how long people are waiting before trying again - I was told at least 1 cycle and preferably 2 or 3.

 

[JJF]

Sorry SianMA for your loss, I've had 3 MC's and each time the timing of when I started trying was different and resulted in different outcomes. Wasn't trying to get prego when had 1st MC, so I didn't try again after that one until about 6 months later, got prego and had 2nd MC. Started trying immediatly after the bleeding stopped and got prego with my son (nearly 4 yrs old now). Started trying to get prego again in Jan 2008, took me till May then had MC in July. Tried again immediatly after MC but I either ovulated WAY late or I'm thinking I never ovulated to be honest with you. I've now had 1 real cycle and I am currently about to ovulate and trying to get prego this month. After all of those different things, two things I'll say...-I'm not sorry I tried again immediatly with either MC because one of those times it worked out well for me. secondly, I'm sad it didnt' happen right after this time but then again, its nice to have had a real cycle so now I can start charting and can truely figure out when/if I ovulate so there is some peace in that too....

GOOD LUCK

 

[SianMA]

Thnaks JJF - It's good to hear that keeping positive and trying again brings results - good luck to you this time around! Think I'll wait for my next AF then get right back to trying, think it will feel better if I know where I should be in my cycle (if they actually go back to normal).

 

[Jessa]

Hi SianMA,
Sorry to hear about your loss. I, too, had a natural m/c at 7 weeks about 2 weeks ago. I'm still bleeding, but only very lightly.
My doctor has said that it's never to early to start trying again. He stressed that it's important that my husband and I are ready emotionally, but that it will only "stick" when my body is ready.
I believe that what your midwife said is very true: "At least you know you CAN get pregnant". Unfortunately, for so many people, that's not possible. I took comfort in knowing that my husband and I had gotten pregnant the very first month of trying, so we both know that everything is working okay.
As for the emotional part of the whole experience, I found the first few days to be quite tough. Today is exactly two weeks after my m/c and, honestly, I only think about it when someone asks me something like, "So, how has your summer been?".
It does get better and I'm sure that you will have that child that you've always dreamt about. Hang in there. Feel free to message me if you ever need someone to talk too.

 

[buffycat]

Hi Sian

i'm so sorry for your loss.......here's a big hug for you

i got pregnant after 11 months of trying, but sadly it wasn't to be....my mc was back in March, and we started trying again straight away......still waiting though......

some people aren't very good with words though, even hearing things like 'oh you know you can get pregnant' doesn't take away the emotional pain....

my only advice is that you start whenever you and your partner are ready, both emotionally and physically.

Hope you don't have to wait too long though..

luv & hugs

 

[cerilou]

Hi

So sorry for your loss. I had a natural miscarriage at 6 weeks and had the same response from the dr/midwife - it was almost as if the pregnancy didn't count but to me I was pregnant and looking forward to a new baby.

The dr told us we could start trying as soon as we wanted and that the only reason they ask us to wait for one AF is for dating purposes. So we've been trying again this cycle. My cycle has been thrown out of sync and so I've been using OPK's and charting to find out where I am and sort of glad I did as I ov much later than I would have normally.

I don't think this month will be our month, but I am not giving up that easily.

Sending you lots of

 

[honeybunch2k7]

Sorry for you loss, Sian.

I think you can start whenever you feel up to it.

 

[captain-ally]

Hi Sian,

I'm not usually on this board, but I saw it while I was scrolling down. I'm sorry about your loss, I had a missed m/c at 6 weeks, which didn't show until 13 weeks. The emotional thing is really true. My husband and I were barely intimate for months after my m/c, and I left for 2 months to go treeplanting - which usually makes me feel better. When I got back, we were talking about wanting a baby again but were still very careful about sex. Then, surprise, now I'm pregnant. Neither of us knows how it happened, we had sex once that month.

I think your doctor's right. When you're emotionally ready, your body will surprise you with a baby.

 

[charliesmom]

If you start too early, your uterus may not recover in time to house another pregnancy. But the decision is up to you. I waited 2 full cycles until we tried again because I wanted to do everything possible to reduce another miscarriage. I'm afraid that didn't help much. I suspect I'm going to miscarry soon. But, I also hear of many people who got pregnant a few weeks after their miscarriage and had successful births. Good luck.

Oh my regular cycle didn't come until a little over 2 months from when my miscarriage begun (I took the medication to induce labor). I bled for 5 - 6 weeks.

 

[sarah_george]

sorry for your loss I had a natural MC at 6 wks waited 1 period then Got PG again, Unfortunatley that ended in MC at 6 wks too, decided to wait a few months to let my body recover but caught by accident 1 Period after that MC too, I'm currently 9 wks Pregnant this time so maybe this will be a sticky if i'm lucky, I would wait 2 cycles as i couldnt help feeling that I lost the 2nd one as i didnt wait long enough and its soo frustrating as well as uposetting going all the way back to square one, good luck xxx

 

[danni2609]

So sorry for your loss I had a mc too at 6wks in jan waited 3 cycles then fell pregnant with this one!

 

[SianMA]

Thanks to everyone for your advice. I'm CD26 and just waiting for AF, no signs as yet though. Don't think I ov'd this month as I did OPKs from CD12 to CD20 and didn't get a positive, not even a hint of a line!

Managed to avoid DTD until CD20 although that was a struggle, I was expecting not to want to be intimate but I was totally the opposite and wanted to jump on DH within a few days of the bleeding stopping.

It's strange on one hand I'm praying that AF turns up so that I don't have the added worry that I am pg without waiting a cycle and all the increased risk that brings. Then on the other hand I am craving that BFP because being pg was the most amazing feeling in the world and I can't wait to hold my first baby in my arms.

I hate all the waiting and heartbreak and I can't begin to imagine the pain of another mc or not being able to get pg ever again. I'm just trying to stay calm and keep everything crossed for some good luck and a sticky bean!

 

[Dona]

Hi Sian,

First things first - here is a big big for you. I totally understand how you feel along with a lot of women on this forum. If it wasn't for this forum I would never had got through my m/c.

I had a m/c at 8 weeks on 1st April, started bleeding at 6 weeks and had it naturally. Emotionally it took over my life. I went for some counseling and that really helped.

We tried again straight away (although I was told to wait a month) but I never had a period for 9 weeks afterwards so i did not know when I was ovulating. They say that the ov kits don't work for people that have recently had a m/c due to your hormone levels etc. It took another 8 weeks for the 2nd period to arrive and again my cycle was all over the place. However, I have just found out that I am 6 weeks pregnant.

Don't give up hope - try when you and your hubby feel your can emotionally cope with it. I would also speak to someone to put your feelings to rest to allow your body to get back to normal. The more you get stressed and upset, the more your body will hold back from giving you a baby.

I focused on getting fit to take my focus off making babies.

If you need to chat just PM me.

Dona xx

 

[chrissie33]

Hey Sian, I too am in a similar situation - my bleeding has almost stopped and I dont know whether i should leave it to chance or avoid dtd until I have had first AF - dont really have much sex drive at the mo so it wont be hard to avoid but that might not last...... keeping my fingers crossed that all goes ok for you hun. I dont think its a definite either way about how long you should wait so it really is a case of when you feel ready. The nurse at epau did tell me there was not need to wait so im more confused than ever..... if only someone could give me a definite answer, it would make life so much easier eh! Anyway, good luck hun x

 

[SianMA]

chrissie33 - sorry to hear you're in this crappy situation too. I just got AF yesterday so I'm CD2 today.

I totally felt the same - as if I couldn't imgine wanting to DTD again for a long time, but around ov time (didn't chart properly but thin it was CD15/16) I suddenly wanted to jump on DH! I'm kind of glad that I was away for the weekend though so I didn't have to thnk about it too hard. Anyway after that I started charting on purpose, I bought some more OPKs and HPT and was then actually looking forward to AF's arrival.

I guess all you can do in the days after the mc is take it one day at a time - if you really get the urge then go for it, there are plenty of girls on here with their BFPs that conceived straight away. There are also lots of people who waited, so there's no right or wrong way - just the way that suits us each.

I found talking to DH every day about my changing moods helped - it also let him know whether to back off or try his luck!

Here's hoping for BFPs for us both. pm me if you want to chat any time

 

[chrissie33]

Thanks Sian - trouble is I am normally the one with the sex drive so I got no chance..... But I am sure as he has abstained for more than a month, he might be the one in the mood Im keeping fingers crossed for us both xx

 

[emmalouise079]

hi ladies
I too have just had a natural mc at 6wks. Started bleeding last Saturday and down to spotting now. Had a scan which showed my uterus is all clear and blood tests came back at 16 so almostback to normal hcglevels.

I feel ready to try again asap mentally but reallyhope my body feels the same and I ov this month!

Good luck to all however long you decide to wait xxx