Nearly enough to break you at times - feeling down

[Lirpa11]

This journey is so hard. Since August, babies and conceiving have taken over my mind. It's all I can think about, talk about, dream about. Since then, I think 20+ people we know have fallen pregnant or had a baby...

I'm happy for them but gosh, here We are trying and nothing.

One friend who is on Pinterest is liking maternity photoshoots, baby room idea etc so she is probably a few weeks. My best friend is about 9 weeks. I just found out a girl at work is 6 weeks... A baby was just born two days ago to a friend, our cousin is having a baby in 3 weeks, a pregnant friend who is due in June is staying with us for a week starting tomorrow while their house is painted... I have a baby shower tomorrow for a lady due in march, and then a hens day afterwards which the bride is due in June...

Can I just curl up and hide for the next few months? It's overwhelming...

 

[Hope.]

Me and my 3 brothers and my husbands brother got married within a year. Now all of my SILs have 4 beautiful children. Me & my husband have been trying for 2 years and nothing! According to a survey, 1/5 couples have infertility problem, I guess we are the 1/5. Honestly I never really hated them, I hated the situation. I guess because we all got married near the same time, I wish that I could be part of it . Now 2 of the babies are 1 years old already and there is no sign of me being pregnant. We went to the doctor 2 months ago. All the test came back and everything is normal. His sperm, my eggs, tubes & uterus. I have come to the point where the waiting period is killing me on the inside! The doctor has said so far that everything is normal, you will get pregnant really soon. How soon is soon for you guys? 2 years is a long time!

p.s - apart from my immediate family, I have had 6 cousins who have also had babies within this period. Yes I would also like curl up in a corner and hide till I get my BFP! Baby dust to you!

 

[Ilovekermit]

Hello to you both! I share your feelings. Been trying for almost a year with no joy, and like you surrounded by pregnant ladies and babies. It's so hard and I don't feel like I can discuss it with family. Take positives from your normal test results. Good luck to both of you! x

 

[mod19]

After 30 months of TTC I'm finally at the point where I can talk about it. I finally work with a group of people who can literally give advice and support as I work in a supplement store. Finally starting testing this month to see if there's any blockages, not ovulating, etc.

Only downside...I see pregnant people all day at work, and three of the people at work are pregnant right now. My oldest sister gets pregnant just by a male looking at her, and my other sister has pcos. Took three years to conceive my nephew and is trying again. I haven't talked to my family about my TTC for so long yet, but depending on what the drs say this month I am considering it.

Its always good to have ladies like you that know what its like to be on the crappy end of the TTC journey, even though I wish none of us were in this situation to begin with.

 

[beneathmywing]

This journey is so hard. Since August, babies and conceiving have taken over my mind. It's all I can think about, talk about, dream about. Since then, I think 20+ people we know have fallen pregnant or had a baby...

I'm happy for them but gosh, here We are trying and nothing.

One friend who is on Pinterest is liking maternity photoshoots, baby room idea etc so she is probably a few weeks. My best friend is about 9 weeks. I just found out a girl at work is 6 weeks... A baby was just born two days ago to a friend, our cousin is having a baby in 3 weeks, a pregnant friend who is due in June is staying with us for a week starting tomorrow while their house is painted... I have a baby shower tomorrow for a lady due in march, and then a hens day afterwards which the bride is due in June...

Can I just curl up and hide for the next few months? It's overwhelming...

I have been trying for almost a year. Within this year I can't even begin to tell you how many people got pregnant or gave birth and I swear I feel like every other week it's someone new. Everyone but me!! I think that's what makes this journey that much harder, when it's something you really, really want and everyone is getting it but you! I think what sort of keeps me going is knowing my time will come, it's just the matter of getting there!!!

 

[Hoping4aBoy]

I can relate to everything you ladies are saying. During the time of the journey, I have seen babies born left and right to friends, relatives, and coworkers. It will drive you to the edge for sure. I have under gone so many tests and so has my husband with everything being normal but here we are…. With nothing.

Hugs to all to all of you.