need a rant :-( anyone else fed up of people opinions

[laura109]

So i quit my job and started doing a course at home. I found out i was pregnant a week later.

i was very active when i worked i biked and walked miles as a home carer.

since i have been pregnant ive suffered from feeling extreme tiredness. If i walk far im wiped for the rest of the day. My partner and best friend works all week. My sister is free a couple of days. My parents are half an hour away on foot.

so i guess i am home alot more. I go out every friday with my friend. I see my sister once or twice a week and im with my partner at the weekends.

i was quite sick for first couple of weeks and i learnt eating and not allowing my stomach to empty for long helped. It was the difference between laying in bed feeling weak and being able to get a few bits done.

I am size 10-12 uk. I weighed 11 and a half stone before i was pregnant a year ago when i last checked. Im slim but my legs especially are muscular from biking. When i got pregnant i bloated and my belly has remained bloated. Family members are now saying ill get fat because im inactive. Ill also need to cut back on food and try get out everyday even if its a walk to the local shop.

i feel so exhausted today as i went out for 6 hours yesterday so im resting and the advice to try go for a walk has been given again..i feel im handling things well. Im 12 stone now but i did a huge amount of biking and walking till 5 weeks ago. I dont feel luke a huge blob. I felt proud of how i was doing but now i feel a lazy greedy person who is giving up in everyones eyes.

what about u guys?

 

[PrincessMommy]

Noooo!!! Don't listen to them You can go for walks if you feel up to it- But girly, if you need to lay around then you should!! Eat whatever you can (within reason) Because when you feel sick, it can be hard to keep things down. You being pregnant and bloated is NOT being fat. Don't let any of them tell you otherwise!

 

[LisaL79]

Noooo!!! Don't listen to them You can go for walks if you feel up to it- But girly, if you need to lay around then you should!! Eat whatever you can (within reason) Because when you feel sick, it can be hard to keep things down. You being pregnant and bloated is NOT being fat. Don't let any of them tell you otherwise!

Ditto all of that and then some.
If you need to rest, then rest. If you feel like you can go out and bike, walk, whatever and actually WANT to do it, then go for it.
Don't let other people's comments get to you. Just busy bodies that should learn to give advice when it's asked for :\

 

[LadyHutch]

I feel you. If one more person tells me to try sea bands for HG, I might freak out.

 

[swanxxsong]

Sadly, everyone's gonna have an opinion.

And you know what I saw? They can go pound sand.

I suffer from fatigue too. I'm not nearly as active as I was before I got pregnant. But I know there's a reason for it and I can tell that my body just needs to REST. So although it's hard, ignore them or tell them where to stick their opinion. You need to look after yourself right now.

 

[laura109]

Thank you. I dont know what there worrying about. Im not turning into a recluse. Im not going to stay this way forever now. Once we know baby is well ill be out shopping and planning. When baby is here we will be out and about doing loads of things too. I may well gain more than advised but as long as baby is doing well and im feeling better i dont think an extra packet of crisps and a piece of toast a day will ruin me forever. I have been lucky i can still stomach most foods so i eat pasta,rice, cereals,vegetables, meats, yoghurts chocolate cheese. I jave the odd bacon sandwhich and the odd macdonalds but im still a size 12.

Thanks for support ladies xx

 

[LoveMy2Boys2]

I have always been in shape from eating healthy and getting enough excercise , I have had 2 previous pregnancies, i let myself get lazy when needed and always ate what I could or wanted.....after the babies I got myself back on track and lost my baby weight quickly......because that's who I am, I won't let myself stay sloppy and use the excuse "I had babies" so don't worry about it right now!! Be comfortable and enjoy your once in a lifetime excuse to eat what you want when you want and be lazy because you can! Once baby comes out there's no more of that lol. Live it up!

 

[MollyNorwood]

Just wanted to chime in and say you do whatever you need to do to keep sane.
If you are exhausted 24/7- believe me I totally understand!- then you rest when you need to rest. Ignore any negative comments hun this is YOUR body and YOUR pregnancy and everyone seems to need to advise you.
Take everyone's advise with a big dose of salt, they think they are helping but they don't see it makes us more worried and insecure.
Also eat what you want, within reason. You are supposed to gain some weight while you are pregnant and while your body is busy growing this baby know that you can get back on your bike once baby is here and you have recovered. This is your time, not theirs

 

[laura109]

Thank you. Yeah i only graze little bits of food and its balanced. I felt sick through the night and my sister text me this morning to invite me shopping. I told her i had a rough night and she said if you feel sick just be sick. I would rather not throw up its not at the point where i have to so irs better to keep my food down. Im not going to win whatever i say.

thanks for the support girls. Xx

 

[londonangel]

Don't listen to them! Someone remarked to me when I dared to get the lift to the third floor the other day 'oh, you used to be so fit with all your cycling - getting lazy Angela?' HA! She will feel bad when she realises I am in fact pregnant and only not cycling because I don't want to put the baby (assuming there is one in there - not had scan yet) in harms way with the London traffic.

Next thing will be they will realise you are pregnant and say sidle up to you, point at your belly and whisper 'are you pregnant?!'. Yep, this has happened to me twice this week. Working from home today so no more questions from anyone! Sadly I was always really slim so it's pretty obvious as I don't have any baggy clothes Tempted to tell them that I am just fat!

 

[carlyjade86]

One thing you'll learn when pregnant is that people are rude, opinionated, WRONG morons. Do what you need to do and ignore everyone else. I put on 3 stone each time and I enjoyed it, and lost it easily. It is the 2stone over weight I was before pregnant I can't shift lol. I'm sure you're blooming lovely xx

My mantra for pregnancy...

 

[laura109]

Thank you made me smile. They already know im pregnant. They just think im taking it too easy.

glad its not just me. I would not dream of telling people how they should be.

I know what u mean about feeling there might not be a baby there. Roll on scan day lol

 

[Monzter79]

I have gone through this too. My mom especially- who hasn't even seen me in person! Everyone seems to be rather obsessed with my weight gain...

I feel like some people are obsessed with being "all bump". I think if that's your body type, then that's how it will be. We're all different! You know? But still, I think we kind of have an unhealthy obsession with judging pregnant women based on whether they're all bump, or if they "let themselves go".

You can't win either way really! If you're all bump- they'll lecture you about eating enough. If you put a few extra LB's they'll lecture you about eating too much.

I do feel like it comes from a place of caring... to an extent. But, I also feel it's narcissistic vicarious living through others, when you're talking to them about what "you'd do" as if it's actually YOU. It's not... So ZIP IT!;-)

If a woman is going to a dangerous place with her weight (either way) obviously it needs to be addressed (by a doctor). Of course! Or if she asks- fine discuss! But, these little unsolicited critiques are cutting and really not helpful IMO.

I just try to remember that they're projecting. How they feel doesn't have to affect how I feel. There's going to be a lot of people that tell us we look great, or are glowing too! Those are the comments that deserve priority- to hell with the naysayers!

 

[laura109]

Well said hun. Id love to look like the celebs do when they have babies. Then back in a bikini with no stretch marks after. But in the real world pregnancy is far from being that simple.

most women feel rubbish for the first 12-14 weeks. Where either vomiting,tired, feeling emotional etc and when u feel rubbish the last thing u want to do is bounce around eating well.

if your not allowed to rest when growing a new life then when can you lol x