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[AppleBlossom]

Phew, reading this thread has hurt my head! I think it may have gotten a little out of hand! Being a teen mum myself I know very well people have mixed feelings. I didn't plan my pregnancy, I was on the Pill at the time. But I don't think it's fair to judge. Teen mums are usually stereotyped in such a negative way but at the end of the day many of them do as good a job of raising a child as someone in their 30's.

However everyone is entitled to their own opinion and to be honest, it doesn't bother me what other people think. I'm happy just to live my own life and let them live theirs

 

[polo_princess]

wow what a thread, i was exhausted just reading it!!

Some good points were made though

 

[nikky0907]

The thread got very much out of hand and not just the replies on here but also the behind the scenes stuff...

After giving the girl advice,people started to express their opinion on her age.I wouldn't say that she was attacked in this thread,but it all ended up badly,with some personal insults thrown around...
As I said,I don't judge anyone,especially teen moms,being one my self and I think that they can do such an amazing job with their kids.Nothing makes us less mothers than a person in their 20s,30s,40s...

Again,the mods and admins did a great job with the situation,really,I applaud them!
I would go crazy too!I almost did in my position,I'm sure if I was Wobbles,I'd water hose my computer...

Let this be a lesson to all of us!

 

[AppleBlossom]

Well I've considered myself well and truly told! And I only read some of the things in detail but I agree with the decision to ban sao as she shouldn't really have said some of the things she did

 

[nikky0907]

Well I've considered myself well and truly told! And I only read some of the things in detail but I agree with the decision to ban sao as she shouldn't really have said some of the things she did

Sao didn't just went out of line on this thread but also later in the chatroom.I don't know if you saw this on here but she said nasty things about Wobbles...

I don't know if you said that you recognized yourself in some mean comments(I may have misunderstood).I'm truly sorry if I said something that may have offended you...
I'm a teen mother to be,I don't consider myself or any other teen mom any less mothers,women and I applaud anyone who goes through it...

 

[masi]

Amy, i don't know you, but i don't think you've anything to worry about. Like you said, you are a teen mum yourself, so i think if anyone can be objective on a thread like this, it would be people, such as you who are in that situation already!!

 

[Ragirl]

I second what has been said- Wow! What a thread. I generally stay off the teen sight just because it can hit a chord in me...but couldn't help but notice all the posts on this one and had to see what it was all about! Quite entertaining Also interesting to see all the opinions. I have to agree with you, Amy (I think), that it is one thing to plan a pg at 16 and other for it to be an accident. And planning or accident has no relation to how good of a mother one will be- they are unrelated issues. There are certain life experiences to be had from the age of 16 to let's say 30, that I would not have chosen to miss. However, had I ended up pg at 16, I'm sure I would have been a great mother and could not have regretted what I missed because I wouldn't know what it is I missed (if that makes ANY sense at all). I also don't judge teens who do get pg, planned or unplanned- it is their choice to make. Amy, you are a good person to speak on the topic, being young yourself. Great job on not getting nasty back

 

[butterflies]

yes u have a brain and have a right to reply shame the latter one wasnt used for contraceptive if you didnt want kids as i said every one is totaly different some more mature than others and my kids would still be my kids even with a diff farther i just didnt know at the time he was into hitting and abusing children thats my only mistake i regret

I've got to jump in and say this comment is very unfair, yes there has been alot of criticism in this thread none however that is personal.You have no idea how it comes about that someone gets pg, if its un planned. Yes it could be that they didn't bother with contraceptives but its not always the case, and i find your post to be very judgemental, personal and unfair.

 

[AppleBlossom]

Sao didn't just went out of line on this thread but also later in the chatroom.I don't know if you saw this on here but she said nasty things about Wobbles...

I don't know if you said that you recognized yourself in some mean comments(I may have misunderstood).I'm truly sorry if I said something that may have offended you...
I'm a teen mother to be,I don't consider myself or any other teen mom any less mothers,women and I applaud anyone who goes through it...

I don't think I was offended personally by any of the comments made by you but I appreciate that you apologised just incase

I did read the things she'd been saying in the chatroom about Wobbles which I found very childish and immature.

 

[Vivanco]

Well i hope the girl that started the thread is ok!!! She probably came on to check for replies and ran a mile!!!

 

[Wobbles]

Wobs, you have the patience of a saint! I think if I was a mod, I would have to ban myself when situations like this arise!

I went and grabbed me a bacardi & coke lol

 

[Sparky0207]

I went and grabbed me a bacardi & coke lol

I remember the days when a bacardi and coke solved everything.... I cant wait until they're back on the menu!!

 

[Ragirl]

I remember the days when a bacardi and coke solved everything.... I cant wait until they're back on the menu!!

Can I just say...AMEN!!!! I miss my Bacardi and cokes. Though I have the very occassional glass of wine, liquor is defintely off the menu for 12 more weeks

 

[Ragirl]

Well i hope the girl that started the thread is ok!!! She probably came on to check for replies and ran a mile!!!

I had the same thought. Poor girl didn't know where her simple question was going to lead!!

 

[lfc_sarah]

Oh my lord this thread.....

 

[Ann-Marie]

Wow

My eyes hurt after reading all of that !!!

I think it has een handled beautifully by all involved.. including you Amy Athough we've never actually met face to face, I class you as a freind, and I just know you would never say something to hurt or offend.

And Wobbs... you really do have the patience of a Saint

I feel all full of nasty vibes now and need to go sit in the garden in the last remaining Sunshine

 

[nikky0907]

Thank you Ann-Marie...

My responses definitely weren't intended to hurt anybody.Started as expressing my opinion...

I also hate negative,mean vibes,thats why the whole thing upsets me.I like the fact that this forum is a supportive,great place.
So lets keep it that way...

And if the poor girl ever visited this thread again and say this....I'm sorry honey for hijacking it Yes,it went a ''bit'' off topic...

 

[charveyron]

Wow what a thread - I'd just like to say...Wobbles, I can't believe that someone would write such horrible things about you, I think what you and the other mods do on this forum is amazing, I came across this forum after my miscarriage in march, at that time I was in complete dispair and this forum really helped, it helped me understand that my feeling were normal and at that tough time, made me feel like I had agroup of wonderful women pulling me out of the darkness that I was in. Now that I am TTC I can share my journey with you all and will hopefully be able to share my with you all to....ignore the nasty comments and keep up the good work!

 

[xchelseax]

Thank you Ann-Marie...

My responses definitely weren't intended to hurt anybody.Started as expressing my opinion...

I also hate negative,mean vibes,thats why the whole thing upsets me.I like the fact that this forum is a supportive,great place.
So lets keep it that way...

And if the poor girl ever visited this thread again and say this....I'm sorry honey for hijacking it Yes,it went a ''bit'' off topic...

i dint read ur posts thinking that they were out 2 hurt anyone, i do agree with some of the things u said and some people do at a yonge age think i want a cute little baby and they dont realise the responsibility that comes with it they dont realise that when u become a mum ur a mum 4 life. but dont u think people in there 20's 30's 40's think the same thing some woman are worst parent then some girls.

dont u always find that the people who dont deserve kid end up having a load and the people who cant have them are such great people and would make wonderful parents???

im 17 and really happy about my pregnancy i also got preg at 15 i had an abortion. im stil with the partner i had back then, and were happy, settled hes 22 this year and ready, to be a dad. and we planned 2get married in a few years, theres no rush, my mum is excited about the baby obviously not at first but she new if i ever got pregnant again i wouldn't have an abortion. and she knows that im not like every 17 yr old girl.

and this pregnancy is planned. and i just wanted u 2 no that not all teenages are kids that think i want a cute lil baby, and thats it.
I want a cute lil baby, i want a child, and i want 2 be the best mum i can be, and i cant wait 2 devote my life 100% to my lil girl.

i hope this doesnt come across aggressive or nasty. i just wanted 2 have my say 2. and nicky 0907 i think with a mum like u who has the strong opinions u do ur kids are gonna be great respectable kids.

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[_Alice_]

Whoa ... this thread makes me eyes hurt!