Need Advice Girls..

[Vickie]

I'm still trying to get through this entire thread, but since no one is listening to me about being respectful the thread has been locked until Admin has a chance to review it.

 

[Wobbles]

yes u have a brain and have a right to reply shame the latter one wasnt used for contraceptive if you didnt want kids as i said every one is totaly different some more mature than others and my kids would still be my kids even with a diff farther i just didnt know at the time he was into hitting and abusing children thats my only mistake i regret

It's sad I didn't use my brain for contaceptive?!

You know.I don't insult anyone on this forum,not even people I disagree with,but you are downright unpleasant and out of order!

I said I didn't plan kids in my life,that doesn't mean that I don't love my baby...I love her and I want her.
Please,don't comment my personal life and insult my opinions on things.

well if u can care and love ur baby im sure other younger women can dont you think? and cope just as well

Maybe a look into the members circumstances before commenting on their contraception methods would have helped. Correct me if I am wrong Nikky but you were actually protected and like a bigger percentage you were caught whist on the pill?

I don't see said member saying anything other than suggest that pregnancy was unplanned, had no intentions of pregnancy, wasn't trying at her age yet found heself in that situation and therefore loves the fact baby is apart of her life now & to come but certainly don't see any suggestion that Nikky was saying other young Mums would be any different.

Put the claws away girls!

> On to reading more! This thread remains locked until I have read it!

 

[Wobbles]

No it wasn't aimed at you lol.... love it when people think that always amusing like they feel what they said is really that important, it was a general question luv.
and as for theres being nothing to agree on with unplanned teen pregnancy... umm. what about the thousands of people who call teen mothers cheap whores and try and force us to do things like get rid of our babies surely thats a different view to yours meaning that there is situation where people and agree and disagree with it? hmmmm....

And i personally find you making comment on unplanned teen pregnancy being ok as we were stupid enough to get pregnant.

But teens who feel they are ready and have thought about it not right just cause some teens still live at home so they must be living off other people..

i was in my own flat at 16 and in college and earning enough money to look after a child...so if i wanted to TTC i bloody would so maybe find out the facts before judging it each person is unique each situation is different just because you weren't ready or mature enough don't judge everyone by your standards

This post is wrong on so may levels!

Firstly I'm not taking kindly to how rude that approach was & how in your face with what I can only describe as blatant attitude.

Most definately don't have the financial ability to bring a child as a younger teen into this world! My Caitlins not 6 months yet & I've spent the minimum of £1000 on her and although I had my own flat at 16 half I'd never have done it without 'support' and these days you needs GCSEs to have a cleaning job!

Refer to what is in red! .... do I need to say more about your assumption of members maturity & standards?!

 

[Wobbles]

Originally Posted by darkheaven77 https://www.babyandbump.com/images/babyandbump/buttons/viewpost.gif
yes u have a brain and have a right to reply shame the latter one wasnt used for contraceptive if you didnt want kids as i said every one is totaly different some more mature than others and my kids would still be my kids even with a diff farther i just didnt know at the time he was into hitting and abusing children thats my only mistake i regret

Ella170
that was really harsh
what makes u think she didnt use contraceptive?
what if i was to say: tough- u should have known ur kids' father better before having babies with him...that would probably be very hurtful and u wouldnt like the fact that someone is making assumptions about u when they dont even know u

ella not to be rude but using a condom and being with an abusive partner can't be compared to eachother at all....

its one of thoses things you really don't comment on until u have been there yourself its a damning situation that ruins peoples lifes.....

You also say "someone is making assumptions about u when they dont even know u"
isnt that why we are here cuz people make assumptions about a 16 TTC

Being hurtful can be done at many levels and circumstances just because its two different circumstances doesn't mean its not as bloody hurtful - right? I think ella had every right to express that she felt the quoted post was 'harsh' after all you seem happy to do the same?

I've been in 2 physical abusive situations once as a child once as an adult and I can honestly say unrelated cruel comments have been more hurtful. verbally nasty people ruin lives too < a general comment ...I'm not calling anyone here verbally nasty although your all being rather catty and bitchy instead of supportive!

 

[Wobbles]

OH just pointed out that I have indeed spent way more than the £1000 minimum I said well I did say minimum didn't I?

Anywayyyyyyyy:

Tell you what - Im giving up there because theres 2 more pages after my last nit pick of replies on this thread!

I am unlocking it ...your suppose to be a forum of adults and mature women who are trying to be parents, expecting or already have children so surely I can unlock this and not remove?!

WARNING: Please be very careful ...I am willing to hand out temp cool off bans - I nearly gave out one!

 

[nikky0907]

Thanks wobbles for reviewing this thread.
I think it went out of control.Some comments were really upseting...

You're right I did get caught on the pill which is why I'm hurt when people say stuff about contraceptives to me...

I honestly apologize if I hurt anyone.I even went in the chatroom where darkheaven and Sao were and apologized to them if in any of my comments I went out of line.

 

[Wobbles]

Thats nice you attempted to cool down the situation Nikky - Your a great member here. I hope you have calmed down & I hope everyone else has.

Just want to say as I have just explained to someone else ...the debate on this thread was not really at question but the 'attitude' was.

A debate like this should maybe have been a seperate post rather than on someones ...dunno how to work that one

 

[vickilouise]

FAO wobbles,
you've just thanked nicky and called her a great member but she was one of the instigators of doubting this girl and going way off topic regarding is she isnt she married.
i dont agree with that... 1 person says something and others join in, in my eyes that is bullying.
also where nicky says she went into the chatroom and apologised to darkhaven and sao ....she didnt i was in there.
seems like certain people get to say what they please but others get reprimanded. fair enough the thread got out of hand but you cant pull two people up on their comments and not others thats unfair.

 

[darkheaven77]

Thanks wobbles for reviewing this thread.
I think it went out of control.Some comments were really upseting...

You're right I did get caught on the pill which is why I'm hurt when people say stuff about contraceptives to me...

I honestly apologize if I hurt anyone.I even went in the chatroom where darkheaven and Sao were and apologized to them if in any of my comments I went out of line.

i know this debate is over i just reread bk to the chat earlier and you carried on the conversation with us in the chat room no apologizing was made i will stay off the message boards from now on and just stay in chat

 

[Wobbles]

FAO wobbles,
you've just thanked nicky and called her a great member but she was one of the instigators of doubting this girl and going way off topic regarding is she isnt she married.
i dont agree with that... 1 person says something and others join in, in my eyes that is bullying.
also where nicky says she went into the chatroom and apologised to darkhaven and sao ....she didnt i was in there.
seems like certain people get to say what they please but others get reprimanded. fair enough the thread got out of hand but you cant pull two people up on their comments and not others thats unfair.

I thanked her for trying to cool a situation (as that was what I was infomed) - is that ok or was something else assumed? She is a great member & that was a nice thing to do - so I was commenting on one situation/one post that I hoped had actually sofened the blow of the atmosphere between the handful of girls which was the main concern here.

As you see I called the whole thread catty & bitchy I also stated I gave up on said page and opened it for discussion. I also take into consideration previous activity from all members concerned which I understand you may not but thats apart of my job to keep this forum catty free - well we will always have catty but at one point it has to be nipped in butt if its going personal and out of hand.

FYI also as said in above post the debate was not at question - every single person has a different opinion/view on various situations - I don't have a right to step in and question the opinion but I do have a right to put the actual topic behind for a moment and butt in on the bitchiness and that is what I did. A debate is fine being aggressive in manner is not.

I hope that makes sense and clears up any questions you have regarding the way BabyandBump is ran.

 

[vickilouise]

I thanked her for trying to cool a situation (as that was what I was infomed) - is that ok or was something else assumed? She is a great member & that was a nice thing to do - so I was commenting on one situation/one post that I hoped had actually sofened the blow of the atmosphere between the handful of girls which was the main concern here.

As you see I called the whole thread catty & bitchy I also stated I gave up on said page and opened it for discussion. I also take into consideration previous activity from all members concerned which I understand you may not but thats apart of my job to keep this forum catty free - well we will always have catty but at one point it has to be nipped in butt if its going personal and out of hand.

FYI also as said n above post the debate was not at question - every single person has a different opinion/view on various situations - I don't have a right to step in and question the opinion but I do have a right to put the actual topic behind for a moment and butt in on the bitchiness and that is what I did. A debate is fine being aggressive in manner is not.

I hope that makes sense and clears up any questions you have regarding the way BabyandBump is ran.

you was informed wrong then she went onto the chatroom and wanted to continue, she is a liar when she says she went on the chatroom to apologise. as ive previously stated she didnt.
I dont have any firm friends on this site, i just call a spade a spade, for all i know that girl could be lying through her teeth but i dont see why specific people where required to pass comment on her situation and spaculate when all she wanted advice on was wether she should test or not. i dont like bullies and i apologise if that ruins the fun for sad individuals who get their kicks from doing it.

 

[nikky0907]

I DID APOLOGIZE!

I did,I'm not a liar.I went in there and apologized to the girls.

I know you were there Vickie so I'm not sure how you missed it but I apologized...

I wrote a comment on there and said that I'm sorry things got out of hand and if I insulted them.
Darkheaven and Sao know this and replied to my comment there.

And I didn't initiate this.

But then Sao called Ella170 a ****** another brawl was starting so I left.
Although nobody apologized to me but nevermind...

But do not call me a liar.Cause I wouldn't lie about it...AND I DIDN'T!

 

[leeanne]

you was informed wrong then she went onto the chatroom and wanted to continue, she is a liar when she says she went on the chatroom to apologise. as ive previously stated she didnt.
I dont have any firm friends on this site, i just call a spade a spade, for all i know that girl could be lying through her teeth but i dont see why specific people where required to pass comment on her situation and spaculate when all she wanted advice on was wether she should test or not. i dont like bullies and i apologise if that ruins the fun for sad individuals who get their kicks from doing it.

I think Wobbs made it clear in her post her reasonings and now this thread is going off topic again.

 

[Arcanegirl]

Wobbles can check the chat logs to see what has been said...

 

[mBLACK]

Ugh - Amy I'd like to say thank you to you for stepping up and apologizing, this situation definitely did get WAY out of hands.. Come on girls, back to our mature minds now, we are all capable of just letting all of this craziness GO.

 

[mBLACK]

Not to mention somebody's going to end up getting banned if we don't cut all this crazy insulting behaviour out!

 

[ella170]

I DID APOLOGIZE!I did,I'm not a liar.I went in there and apologized to the girls.I know you were there Vickie so I'm not sure how you missed it but I apologized...I wrote a comment on there and said that I'm sorry things got out of hand and if I insulted them.Darkheaven and Sao know this and replied to my comment there.And I didn't initiate this.But then Sao called Ella170 a ****** another brawl was starting so I left.Although nobody apologized to me but nevermind...But do not call me a liar.Cause I wouldn't lie about it...AND I DIDN'T!

a ****** lol! im going to leave it at this- im not going to step down to lower levels. i also cannot believe the amount of hypocrites- apparently amy is a "bully", but i dont understand how u can say this when ur actually being bullies by ganging up on her. i would just leave it hun, and post where people need advice and who are worth ur time x

 

[Wobbles]

you was informed wrong then she went onto the chatroom and wanted to continue, she is a liar when she says she went on the chatroom to apologise. as ive previously stated she didnt.

Here you go:

Chat Log:-
2008-05-12 01:45:19 PM nikky0907
nikky0907 says: hi.i noticed you guys are here,so I just wanted to apologize about the threads.it wasn't my intention to hurt someone,i keep things friendly on here.but i think things got aout of hand

So not a lie after all

 

[Wobbles]

a ****** lol! im going to leave it at this- im not going to step down to lower levels. i also cannot believe the amount of hypocrites- apparently amy is a "bully", but i dont understand how u can say this when ur actually being bullies by ganging up on her. i would just leave it hun, and post where people need advice and who are worth ur time x

It is rough when topics like this happen But you should remember that it doesn't stop you leaving the heated where they are happening & support each other on other areas of support If you see what I am saying.

 

[leeanne]

Here you go:

Chat Log:-
2008-05-12 01:45:19 PM nikky0907
nikky0907 says: hi.i noticed you guys are here,so I just wanted to apologize about the threads.it wasn't my intention to hurt someone,i keep things friendly on here.but i think things got aout of hand

So not a lie after all

I sincerely hope that Amy is given an apology. As far as I can see, she took it on her own and apologized but after what was written here this morning, I think she sincerely deserves one.