Need advice on TTC after a miscarriage, before AF

[Pink Petals]

Hello,

I am going through my first miscarriage. I started bleeding on Monday (7 1/2 weeks) and an ultrasound showed the baby stopped growing at 5-6 weeks. This is my second pregnancy. Luckily, my first resulted in a healthy baby boy.

Anyway, it is now day 4 and I still have bleeding and cramping. I passed a sac today, so I am hoping the worst is over.

My question is about TTC. I know that the only thing that will make me feel better is to get pregnant again. However, I know nothing about TTC right after a miscarriage. I plan to start trying straight away, before my next AF.

I am wondering...

When might I ovulate?

Can I use opks and BBT monitoring to help determine my most fertile days or does the miscarriage make those methods inaccurate?

Will a pregancy test still be positive for some time after this loss?

Any advice on how to proceed from here would be greatly appreciated. I have TTC before, but not under these circumstances.

Thank you in advance.

 

[Ltweety]

I'm really sorry you're going through this. It sucks so bad and it is totally unfair. As far as TTC, my understanding is this:
Count day the sac passed as CD1
You will probably get a positive PG test for about a week or so, but it all depends on how high your betas were and how long you bled (which usually indicates dropping numbers) before the sac. So I would test about a week from now and see if it's clear, since you know that won't be a positive from a new pregnancy.
You can definitely use OPKs and treat it like a normal cycle but don't be surprised if O day isn't exactly when you would normally expect it. I would start OPKs around CD10 and then just keep doing them until you get a confirmed O.
I would start BBT right away and watch it drop because that will be a good indicator that everything is resolving itself.
Good luck hon, and we're here for you!

 

[JemmaLouise]

It depends on when you return to normal, I had my MMC confirmed 4 weeks ago and stopped bleeding 3 weeks ago and I'm still getting positive tests. I am leaving it until after Xmas and then will test again I understand the want to ttc immediately as I am the same! I hope you have better luck with it than me xx

 

[MrsRose168]

Hi there, I had a chemical pregnancy on Dec 7th at about 5 weeks so I totally understand what you're going through. This was my first pregnancy and I'm very anxious to start trying again. My HCG levels went down really quickly - I was <5 a few days after the bleeding began. My Dr said I should ovulate in a couple weeks after my HCG went below 5.

Although I don't think I'll ovulate until later this week, I started doing OPK tests a couple days ago just to double-check since I've read that cycles can be kinda wonky after a m/c. I've also read different things about when CD1 starts so I'm very curious to see if/when I'll ovulate this month!

I've heard that you're very fertile after a M/C so FX that that is true!

 

[Pink Petals]

Thank you for the advice and support. I am only now peeking out at the real world again, after spending a week weeping and sleeping all day.

My HCG levels are dropping fast, but are not below 5 yet. Last blood test was 4 days ago and level was around 500, but it was 1500 2 days before that and 6500 before that. I am supposed to go for another blood test next week.

Bleeding stopped yesterday, with just some spotting. My BBT is already quite low again. Fingers crossed that this is all happening as fast as it seems.

We BD last night, although I am sure it is too soon!

Mrs. Rose and Jemma, how are things going for you now?

 

[Pink Petals]

Looking back at my BBT chart from the month I conceived my son, I think I might have had a chemical the month before and didn't even realize it. It was such a funny cycle (and I am usually really regular). I bled for 10 days that month and I ovulated 4 days late. Maybe there is something to this increased fertility after a loss.

 

[MrsRose168]

Pink Petals, I'm doing pretty well. I had only known for a few days that I was pregnant before the bleeding began so I think that's making it easier to move on. Though I was very upset at first.

I had a really strange experience b/c I had some pregnancy symptoms but the ICs kept showing up negative. Also, what I thought was a light period, I think was actually implantation spotting. I still didn't feel 'right' after another week, so I took some of the more expensive digital tests and they all came back positive. Then I took one of those Clear Blue tests that shows how many weeks it's been since you ovulated and it only said 1-2 weeks, though I knew for sure it'd been 3 weeks. At that point, I wasn't sure if the test was just off or if something was potentially wrong so I was cautiously optimistic that everything would be ok. But obviously that wasn't the case.

I'm now at a point where I know something wasn't right to begin with and I feel better knowing that CPs are incredibly common. At first I was blaming myself but after reading about others' experiences, it's definitely helped the healing process.

I'm so sorry that you're going through this but hopefully talking with others in the same boat will help.

That's interesting about your possibly having a CP before and then getting pregnant right after. I've heard that's pretty common. I'm hoping to find myself in that position! I've been doing OPKs everyday and still no sign of an impending LH surge. Really hope my cycle will be relatively normal so we can start getting back to business!

 

[MrsRose168]

I forgot to tell you that I've started drinking raspberry leaf tea to help rebuild the uterine lining. Not sure how necessary that is for me since I had a natural m/c but figure it can't hurt! I'm also taking maca, folic acid and just got a prenatal supplement in the mail today.

 

[Pink Petals]

Mrs. Rose, I wish you luck this cycle! Keep at it and let me know how it's going!

I am a little nervous, because I did a HPT today and it was a faint, but clear positive. Not sure if that is normal? It has been 10 days since the bleeding began and 2 days since the bleeding stopped completely. BBT temps are low and CM is creamy. But I doubt I could ovulate with a positive HPT? So confused!

 

[Dolphinleigh]

following, i started my second miscarriage last friday, been bleeding full period now 6 days, still passing clotts so unsure, counting last Saturday as cd1, fingers crossed for all I dont want to wait this time around, waited 6 months to try last time and periods were all over the place, so trying next week, fingers crossed we all get bfps in January, betas on Saturday were 1000ish, so no idea what they are now.........

 

[MrsRose168]

Mrs. Rose, I wish you luck this cycle! Keep at it and let me know how it's going!

I am a little nervous, because I did a HPT today and it was a faint, but clear positive. Not sure if that is normal? It has been 10 days since the bleeding began and 2 days since the bleeding stopped completely. BBT temps are low and CM is creamy. But I doubt I could ovulate with a positive HPT? So confused!

Well, I'm certainly no expert but I'd think that it may be a little too soon to get a new BFP this early on.

Not sure if this helps give any context at all but the day after I started bleeding, I did a digital test and it came back negative. My HCG was only 13 the day I started bleeding, and 4 days later it was < 5. So, given that your HCG levels were pretty high, I'm wondering if there's still some HCG in your system? It sounds like we're just a week apart in cycles...keep me posted on how things are going.

When are you supposed to have your blood work done next week?

 

[MrsRose168]

I took an OPK today that shows your 4 most fertile days and I finally got a flashing smiley face today! Exactly 2 weeks from when my Dr said I would. I'm just so glad my body is back on a normal cycle...was getting a bit nervous that it would take a while to get back on track. So going to try to BD for the next 4 nights...hopefully something will take!

 

[Pink Petals]

Dolphinleigh, sorry about your loss. When was it? Let us know how thibgs are going!

Mrs. Rose, that's great news about the opk! Time to get busy.

I have opks but haven't used one yet. I am afraid to, because I am not sure things are working right yet. I have been getting morning sickness and sore boobs again. What's with that? Also, had the positive hpt 2 days ago. BBT is still low. Waiting for next blood test, end of next week.

Not looking forward to returning to work in January. A close coworker and friend got pg around the same time I did. I am happy for her and all but it is just hard. I am going to have to watch her through the whole thing and announcing it, etc. Our dates would have been pretty close so it is going to be tough.

 

[Sophiejash]

Hi ladies, I didn't want to read and run so thought I'd offer you some hope. I mc'd back in September, it was heartbreaking so I completely understand what you're going through. We started DTD straight away as I felt the only thing to help me heal was to get pregnant straight away. Well it didn't happen before af arrived but she only came once and I fell pregnant. I'm currently 10 weeks and all good so far. I believe you are more fertile after a mc so fingers crossed for you all that you get your rainbow babies very soon X

 

[Pink Petals]

Hi ladies, I didn't want to read and run so thought I'd offer you some hope. I mc'd back in September, it was heartbreaking so I completely understand what you're going through. We started DTD straight away as I felt the only thing to help me heal was to get pregnant straight away. Well it didn't happen before af arrived but she only came once and I fell pregnant. I'm currently 10 weeks and all good so far. I believe you are more fertile after a mc so fingers crossed for you all that you get your rainbow babies very soon X

Thank you and congratulations! That does instill hope.

 

[MrsRose168]

Pink Petals, that's really weird. Maybe you are pregnant again? Or maybe you could be ovulating? You should do an OPK test just to double-check! Keep us posted!

 

[Pink Petals]

Don't think I could already be pregnant again, but that'd be sweet!

I am worried that there might still be tissue in there.

 

[Dolphinleigh]

my MC started last Friday night the 18th, 19th bloodworkshowed hcg levelwas around 1000 (i was at 11 weeks, 2 days so should have been in the 100000 range) had utlrasund sunday, baby stopped developing 8 weeks 4 days, i have been doing natural this time, spotting last 2 days, started opks and today, this afternoons opk was just as dark as control line then tonights back to lighter, so i have been feeling left o pain all day, we dtd 2 days ago and going to try again tonight, just incase its a real ovulation, but will continue to opk test

as for doing, well i have 2 girls that nee their mama so brave face most of the time, irratable sometimes. but not as bad as last years MC, so thats better.

 

[MrsRose168]

my MC started last Friday night the 18th, 19th bloodworkshowed hcg levelwas around 1000 (i was at 11 weeks, 2 days so should have been in the 100000 range) had utlrasund sunday, baby stopped developing 8 weeks 4 days, i have been doing natural this time, spotting last 2 days, started opks and today, this afternoons opk was just as dark as control line then tonights back to lighter, so i have been feeling left o pain all day, we dtd 2 days ago and going to try again tonight, just incase its a real ovulation, but will continue to opk test

as for doing, well i have 2 girls that nee their mama so brave face most of the time, irratable sometimes. but not as bad as last years MC, so thats better.

FX for you that you're O'ing so soon, Dolphinleigh! Keep us posted!

 

[Pink Petals]

Does anyone know if it is safe to TTC even before you are sure the tissue is all gone? We have been BDing but to be honest, I am not 100% on the tissue being all gone what with the positive hpts.

Could you even ovulate if there were tissue left?