Need advice on TTC after a miscarriage, before AF

[MrsRose168]

Pink, I've read that you can't ovulate if you still have tissue remaining. I'm not sure about the safety of TTC with leftover tissue though.

Have you taken anymore HPTs lately? When you get your bloodwork done this week, can they also do an ultrasound to check for tissue?

 

[Pink Petals]

I took in my requisition for later this week and got the bloodwork done early. Want answers! Should hopefully get a call from the doctor soon.

 

[MrsRose168]

Oh good - glad you got in early! Please keep us posted!

 

[Pink Petals]

Mrs. Rose, are you still pretty sure that you O'd? When do you think you will test? Exciting.

According to my BBT app, I O'd on the 28th. I had EWCM and O pain, so totally possible. However, my charting hasn't been perfectly consistent and the graph looks wonky to me. The O pain was the worst on the 29th, so who knows.

We DTD on the 27th and 28th, so fingers crossed. We are staying with the inlaws and DS has been sleeping with us, so we couldn't BD after the 28th.

I took a hpt on the 28th and got a VERY faint positve. Still no bloodwork results, because we are out of town. Might call the doctor today.

 

[Pink Petals]

Blood HCG 2 days ago was 17, so super low!

 

[MrsRose168]

Blood HCG 2 days ago was 17, so super low!

That's interesting that you're O'ing without going below 5 HCG!

I don't temp so I have no way to know for sure if/when I O'd unfortunately. I'm assuming it was the 29th or 30th based on my LH Surge on the 28th. I didn't have sore boobs this time which I normally get when I O so not sure if it's b/c my body is off from the CP or if I didn't O this month.

We didn't BD as much as I would've liked. DH wasn't feeling well for a few days so we only BD'd on 12/25 and 12/28.

I'm not sure when to start testing! Based on my avg 32 day cycle, AF should come 1/7 but that's only 9DPO and a short luteal phase. But I'm obsessed with POAS so I'll probably start on the 7th.

When are you going to start testing??

 

[Pink Petals]

I am also not sure if I O'd this cycle, so we are in the same boat! If I did when I think I did, I am 6 dpo. I have a shorter than average luteal phase (11-12 days usually), so I think I will test on Friday the 8th.

I have also read that you can't get pg until your HCG levels hit zero, but I have found many anecdotal stories on the net of women who did (at low levels), so I am going to hope that I did!

I definitely had a BBT shift, but it wasn't a drastic one. The graph looks wonky to me. I had EWCM and O pain right around the time too. And I was using OPKs, but not frequently enough. I had an almost positive on the 28th and then didn't test on the 29th. The 30th was completely negative, so I might have had a surge in between there.

I am excited to hear your test results!

 

[Pink Petals]

Oh and weird symptom- super sensitive nipples?!

 

[Ltweety]

My Best friend had sore nips when she was in early pregnancy (before a positive bfp)

 

[MrsRose168]

Yes, my boobs and nipples were very sensitive last month before the CP. I'm not having that this month so that's a big reason why I think I might be out this month. We shall see!

Pink, when are you going to start testing?

I couldn't help myself and started testing already, knowing full well I'd get BFNs. Just couldn't resist the urge. I'll be 9dpo tomorrow (I think) so getting into the more realistic range. lol! I'm really over this TWW...it's excruciating!

 

[Pink Petals]

I will test on Friday. I don't think I am pg though. My temps are hovering in the middle now and none of it makes sense anymore. Not even sure if I O'd, but if I did, I am 9 dpo.

Fingers crossed for all of us. We shall see...

 

[Pink Petals]

Ok, so I started spotting tonight. So, definitely not pg.

What is going on?!

 

[JemmaLouise]

Thank you for the advice and support. I am only now peeking out at the real world again, after spending a week weeping and sleeping all day.

My HCG levels are dropping fast, but are not below 5 yet. Last blood test was 4 days ago and level was around 500, but it was 1500 2 days before that and 6500 before that. I am supposed to go for another blood test next week.

Bleeding stopped yesterday, with just some spotting. My BBT is already quite low again. Fingers crossed that this is all happening as fast as it seems.

We BD last night, although I am sure it is too soon!

Mrs. Rose and Jemma, how are things going for you now?

Hellooooo... took some time out because I was going through that angry and resentful stage of miscarriage.

UPDATE

Only just got a negative test 2 days ago after my miscarriage was confirmed on 17th November, bleeding stopped 23rd after medical intervention. Now I am in the limbo stage where I don't know if I am now going to ovulate or if I should expect AF. Been getting period like cramps last couple of days so I am expecting the latter. Luckily boyfriend and I have a very active sex life so I don't need to plan DTD but might get some tests to check for O

 

[MrsRose168]

Ok, so I started spotting tonight. So, definitely not pg.

What is going on?!

Don't count yourself out until you get AF. It could be IB!

AFM, got a BFN this morning. I'll keep testing until AF comes.

 

[MrsRose168]

Thank you for the advice and support. I am only now peeking out at the real world again, after spending a week weeping and sleeping all day.

My HCG levels are dropping fast, but are not below 5 yet. Last blood test was 4 days ago and level was around 500, but it was 1500 2 days before that and 6500 before that. I am supposed to go for another blood test next week.

Bleeding stopped yesterday, with just some spotting. My BBT is already quite low again. Fingers crossed that this is all happening as fast as it seems.

We BD last night, although I am sure it is too soon!

Mrs. Rose and Jemma, how are things going for you now?

Hellooooo... took some time out because I was going through that angry and resentful stage of miscarriage.

UPDATE

Only just got a negative test 2 days ago after my miscarriage was confirmed on 17th November, bleeding stopped 23rd after medical intervention. Now I am in the limbo stage where I don't know if I am now going to ovulate or if I should expect AF. Been getting period like cramps last couple of days so I am expecting the latter. Luckily boyfriend and I have a very active sex life so I don't need to plan DTD but might get some tests to check for O

Hi Jemma, welcome back. I'm sorry that you had such an awful experience. Was remaining tissue causing the bleeding to last so long?

 

[JemmaLouise]

Hello Mrs Rose, not sure what it was but didn't go back to the EPU as it's the next town over which isn't easy to get to when you don't drive and my GP was useless. I just let it take its course

Any advice for post miscarriage limbo?

 

[MrsRose168]

Hello Mrs Rose, not sure what it was but didn't go back to the EPU as it's the next town over which isn't easy to get to when you don't drive and my GP was useless. I just let it take its course

Any advice for post miscarriage limbo?

Girl, I wish I had some inspiring words of wisdom but I really don't. This is Cycle #3 TTC #1 and my first MC so it's all pretty new to me. I've pretty much just been focused on TTC again and learning about what we can do to increase our chances...especially because DH has low sperm count and I'm 33. I joined the forum after my MC and wow, have I learned a lot these past few weeks! I was off over Christmas so I had too much time on my hands to lurk around here but I have to say, it's made me feel better to talk to others in similar situations. It's been a good support system especially because I try to keep DH out of all the craziness. If only he knew what all we go through!

We're here for you if you need anything!

 

[Pink Petals]

Thank you for the advice and support. I am only now peeking out at the real world again, after spending a week weeping and sleeping all day.

My HCG levels are dropping fast, but are not below 5 yet. Last blood test was 4 days ago and level was around 500, but it was 1500 2 days before that and 6500 before that. I am supposed to go for another blood test next week.

Bleeding stopped yesterday, with just some spotting. My BBT is already quite low again. Fingers crossed that this is all happening as fast as it seems.

We BD last night, although I am sure it is too soon!

Mrs. Rose and Jemma, how are things going for you now?

Hellooooo... took some time out because I was going through that angry and resentful stage of miscarriage.

UPDATE

Only just got a negative test 2 days ago after my miscarriage was confirmed on 17th November, bleeding stopped 23rd after medical intervention. Now I am in the limbo stage where I don't know if I am now going to ovulate or if I should expect AF. Been getting period like cramps last couple of days so I am expecting the latter. Luckily boyfriend and I have a very active sex life so I don't need to plan DTD but might get some tests to check for O

Don't think you are out because of AF cramps! When I was pregnant with my son, I had AF cramps for the first 6 weeks. In fact, I had all the usual signs of pms and was surprised to see a BFP. Nothing was different until probably a week after my BFP. Lots of luck.

I am out I think. I have had medium flow consistently since yesterday. I am sooo confused! Is this the miscarriage? An early period? It has been only 22 days since the miscarriage started and 2 weeks since the first round of bleeding stopped. Should I consider this a new cycle for charting purposes?!

TMI but the blood is very brown?! What is going on? So frustrated!

 

[Pink Petals]

My advice for post-miscarriage limbo? Binge watch a really good show. It's a goid distraction. We've been into Orange is the New Black.

 

[MrsRose168]

Thank you for the advice and support. I am only now peeking out at the real world again, after spending a week weeping and sleeping all day.

My HCG levels are dropping fast, but are not below 5 yet. Last blood test was 4 days ago and level was around 500, but it was 1500 2 days before that and 6500 before that. I am supposed to go for another blood test next week.

Bleeding stopped yesterday, with just some spotting. My BBT is already quite low again. Fingers crossed that this is all happening as fast as it seems.

We BD last night, although I am sure it is too soon!

Mrs. Rose and Jemma, how are things going for you now?

Hellooooo... took some time out because I was going through that angry and resentful stage of miscarriage.

UPDATE

Only just got a negative test 2 days ago after my miscarriage was confirmed on 17th November, bleeding stopped 23rd after medical intervention. Now I am in the limbo stage where I don't know if I am now going to ovulate or if I should expect AF. Been getting period like cramps last couple of days so I am expecting the latter. Luckily boyfriend and I have a very active sex life so I don't need to plan DTD but might get some tests to check for O

Don't think you are out because of AF cramps! When I was pregnant with my son, I had AF cramps for the first 6 weeks. In fact, I had all the usual signs of pms and was surprised to see a BFP. Nothing was different until probably a week after my BFP. Lots of luck.

I am out I think. I have had medium flow consistently since yesterday. I am sooo confused! Is this the miscarriage? An early period? It has been only 22 days since the miscarriage started and 2 weeks since the first round of bleeding stopped. Should I consider this a new cycle for charting purposes?!

TMI but the blood is very brown?! What is going on? So frustrated!

I bet the brown blood is just some leftover from the MC but if it's a medium flow, it's probably AF. Is there any regular blood or is it all brown? I've read over and over that cycles can change pretty dramatically after a MC so perhaps your cycles will be shorter now? Or it could just be a one off. All of this not knowing is maddening.