need advice.

[mum2B]

ok.. so i am 18 years old and am 17 weeks pregnant with my first baby.. about a year ago i moved from everything I knew to be with my boyfriend 8 hours away from my family, friends... everything.. Now I can't be happy here because my boyfriends dad is always trying to gang up on me calling me down saying that my bf is happier when im not around.. but saying that I cant leave him.. I am just so un-happy, stressed, everything!! I dont think it is good for the baby being under so much stress all the time.. I really think I am depressed.. I do have the chance to move back with my family.. where i truly think i will be happier.. but last night his dad said " if you move my son down there , you and your parents will regret it". WTF is wrong with this man.... I am just so confused! I dont no whether to move back with my family or my boyfriend mentioned us moving to a completely different place away from both families.. I am so torn.. crying all the time.. everything is just wrong.. i need some advice.. what you any of you do??

 

[thelilbump]

you do what you've go to do. You'll probably find this guy is just giving empty threats. you need to deicde where you are going to be most comfortable, i know making a decision either way and then carrying it out isn't easy bit you need to look after yourself and your baby now. Good luck whatever you decide x

 

[nikky0907]

His dad sounds like a complete isiot who is harrassing you. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him how unhappy you are and it's not a home you are comfortable with bringing your child in.
Try and figure out the finances and whether you guys would be able to afford living on your own?

 

[mum2B]

we do live on your own.. that is the problem, we live on our own and his father still feels that he has every right to run our lives!! i am so upset about all of this!

 

[xarlenex]

What kind of man is he threatening an 18 year old!! That is truely shocking! Its sounds like you'd be far better off away from them. Does your boyfriend no he says this stuff to you?

 

[Beth_18]

 

[booflebump]

I cant believe your boyfriend is protecting you from this abuse - if he knows what is going on and is choosing not to help you - I think you should be moving home to your parents for a safe and happy environment for you and your bubba x

 

[xBlackBeautyx]

Honestly I'd go home. You'll be 8 hours away from what is clearly a mentally unstable man so what could he do? Bareing in mind he'll be on your territory with your family as protection. If he threatens you, I'd go to the police and look at getting a restraining order if you are worried.

 

[butrfly]

Honestly I'd go home. You'll be 8 hours away from what is clearly a mentally unstable man so what could he do? Bareing in mind he'll be on your territory with your family as protection. If he threatens you, I'd go to the police and look at getting a restraining order if you are worried.

i agree with Blackbeauty. you have to think about what's best for you and your baby. cors, if you and our OH decide to just pack up and go somewhere both your families aren't. that's a good idea, too.

hope it works out well for you.

 

[MoonMuffin]

I know it's not the same, but my and my DH are living with his mom and she is so nasty all the time, I don't even leave our room unless I know she's upstairs. I'm, staring to become really depressed, it wears on you being treated badly every day. I've tried confronting her but then she just get even more nasty say how I'M nasty (ugh). And she's constantly threatening to throw us out on the street (knowing full well we can't afford to even rent an apartment-DH has is an animator but with the economy the way it is he can't get work...he has gotten a job in retail but it barley covers our bills). My parents would put us up for a while but not long.

I think that if you have an opportunity to get away from this man then do it. The last thing you need right now is to be stresses out and scared. If he continues to threaten you, get a tape recorder or something and record these threats and go to the police. If you think you will be happiest close to your family then go there, and it is really nice to have family around to help you out after your LO is born.