Need advice

[Midnight_Fairy]

Hi, I am newly pregnant. I have had a loss at 6 weeks and a loss at 15 weeks. Both awful. I am now to scared to get excited, scared to tell anyone, every pain or ache I worry and I blame myself if anything would happen. Is it normal to be this worried?? x

 

[livinginhope]

I'd say it's absolutely normal to be so scared - I had two losses, at 10 and 8 weeks (the second being a MMC which my body hung onto until an ERPC at 12 weeks). When I got pregnant this time, I didn't want to tell anyone (apart from OH!) and I was terrified history would repeat itself.

I had an 8 week scan and saw a heartbeat, but that reassurance wore off after a couple of days, and it wasn't till my 12 week scan I really believed it was happening (and I was bricking it then too, as I'd had pain for a few days and was convinced that was a bad sign - it wasn't). Even after that second good scan I started thinking something horrible might've happened and I wouldn't know... so at 15 weeks I got a cheapie doppler from Amazon, and now if I feel a bit paranoid I just listen to the hb.

But as for blaming yourself, aw honey please don't, from what I've been told the vast majority of early MCs are because of a problem with the baby, and certainly aren't anything to do with anything the mum does. So please lighten up on yourself here!

I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for a sticky bean for you...

*hugs* XXX

 

[rosebud111]

Hi Midnight, I am so sorry for your losses and also congrats on your new BFP!! I have had some similar experiences and feel the exact same way. I have only told DH and my mom but I don't want to tell anyone else until 12 weeks and even then I don't plan to announce it. I have even become stand offish and am avoiding my friends and even my sister. I want to just avoid everyone until I know all is well! I hate being this way but I guess it's just what I feel I need to do right now. I even feel like me telling people will "jinx" it so that's another reason. I'm crazy!

Glad there are others who feel the same way. Let's pray the next few weeks go by quickly!

 

[jennyh37]

i also am going through the same, i ve had 2 miscarriages and it has taken me 8 months to get my bfp, and now i have i am so nervous, i dont really even know how far along i am, i was 2 days late in may, then spotted for 2 days, now this month i have the bfp. but im so scared that if i go for a scan that something will be wrong with baby. i have been told that a 3rd miscarriage is rare, but it dont really help. with the last 2 miscarriages i didnt really feel pregnant, and i do with this one, but i dont know that if i do because i really want this baby so much i dont know if its in my head.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I feel different this time too and I am dying to go out and look at baby stuff and names but I cant bring myself to rise to maybe a big fall

I cant tell anyone, I am not THAT close to anyone really, I dont like to show emotions to much etc and I have kept myself to myself a bit. I just want to know that this way is a normalish way to feel as I feel a bit bad not getting excited in a way that I did with my other 2. x