Need encouragement

[MommyFirefly]

I feel so sad for my LO. I love him/her so much but I feel so sad. My husband and I weren't trying for a baby. I had always been told that there was no way I could ever have a child. No reason was given, just that I couldn't. That was devastating in its own way. When I found out I was expecting, I was over the moon. Still am. But the realization of everything is starting to hit me. We have no clue what we're going to do.

I'm due late Nov and we have no clue where we will be living then. Our apartment complex will not allow us to renew our lease in October because it's a 1 bedroom apartment. Apparently, it's in their policy for 1 bedrooms to be reserved for under 2 people. Infants aren't included in that. We're looked at some other places but it's not like anyone wants to lock anything down for us until October. Not to mention that every person we've spoken to starts to grimace when we say we are expecting. That usually kills the deal there. We thought about just not mentioning it but that feels so dishonest.

I don't want to buy anything else for the baby because I have no idea what the future holds. My mom has offered to let us live with her, but then she says negative things about my OH or says that she will "take over" the baby. OH's mom says she doesn't want a baby in her house, which I can understand. Plus her stepdaughter and stepdaughter's 2 kids under 2 just moved out.

I'm sorry this is so long. I just needed to vent and I don't have anyone in my life who will listen without making me feel like more of a failure to my child.

 

[jadza]

Oh don't feel like that! I'm sure it will all work out ok. I'm in a similar situation, we have to move in late September and I'm due late November/early December. I'm surprised about people reacting negatively about you being expecting. Here is Australia, couples will often lose out on getting houses or units cause they give preference to families! Best of luck!

 

[SonAmyMom]

It may be good to review the fair housing act ... I don't think places can discriminate against you because of pregnancy (other than size limitations, like only 2 people in a 1 bedroom).

It really is quite early to start apartment shopping. Most places around here want people who will be moving in within a month, and since your place won't renew the lease they shouldn't be surprised at only a 30 day notice. Still, I understand your concern ... I like to have things planned well in advance, too.

Try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. Do what you can now (start gathering boxes, for example, over the next few months so you don't have to buy them) and try to not stress over what you can't do yet.

Congratulations your pregnancy!