I have been a single mother since the start. My son is now about to be 3 in Nov. My sons father and i went through a lot of hard things. We were young and very immature and selfish. When i was pregnant i began dating someone and my sons father wanted to try and work things out, but i was already dating someone. Then when my bf and i broke up i wanted to work things out with him, and he began to date someone. We went through a very nasty court battle and i put it in our custody order that to have overnight guests of the opposite sex they have to be married. so he married his gf. well, now 2 years later we get along fairly well. and have talked about things. and have discovered we both still have feelings for each other and agree the marriage he is in was a mistake. however, he seems to be afraid to get a divorce. i cant date any guy without comparing them to my sons father and eventhough he is married and i find him immature and selfish at times still i cant move on. i need help on how to move on. obviously he isnt going to get divorced now matter how much he says he wants to. so i know i need to move on, i just dont know where to start.
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I don't think the feelings you have for each other are genuine, but rather feelings based on sentimentality and wishful thinking.
You said it yourself , he won't get a divorce. And even if he did , you know he is selfish and immature and that gets to you already, so it'd never last. And if he was serious about making you all a family it would've happened long before now. He has a new family now and you don't want someone that is willing to disrespect his wife like he is by saying to you what he does about the marriage being a mistake, and not to mention leading you on.
I'd suggest just being realistic and not let yourself be carried away by sentimentality or day dreams.
You guys created a wonderful child together, that is more than enough. Focus on your child and move on with your life, you will meet someone you can have mutual respect for one day and build the family you always dreamed of.
You said it yourself , he won't get a divorce. And even if he did , you know he is selfish and immature and that gets to you already, so it'd never last. And if he was serious about making you all a family it would've happened long before now. He has a new family now and you don't want someone that is willing to disrespect his wife like he is by saying to you what he does about the marriage being a mistake, and not to mention leading you on.
I'd suggest just being realistic and not let yourself be carried away by sentimentality or day dreams.
You guys created a wonderful child together, that is more than enough. Focus on your child and move on with your life, you will meet someone you can have mutual respect for one day and build the family you always dreamed of.
