DaisyDoodles
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I'm due my second baby at the end of June, my first was 16 years ago and he was born at 37 weeks weighing 5lb 1oz.
Because of my sons low birth weight I was automatically scheduled extra growth scans and had my 28 week one yesterday... as with every appointment LO has measured correctly for her dates and I've had no problems other than a bleed at 9 weeks so when the consultant said everything was fine and I should book my hospital tour I told her I wanted a homebirth and OMG, her whole attitude just changed!!
She told me that having the baby at home when I'd already had a low birth weight baby was in her opinion dangerous, if LO needed resucitating (which wasn't needed with my son) then the MW's wouldn't have the equipment they needed whereas the hospital has everything to hand and she wouldn't recommend it! - I tried arguing that I only live 5 minutes from the hospital and that I was under the impression that MW's were trained to resucitate, but seeing as she'd just told me that there were no complications with the pregnancy, I didn't see that there was anymore risk for me than anyone else that gave birth at home at which point she snapped that she was putting it in my notes that she had advised me against it and shooed me out of the door!
I'm totally gutted and angry at her response, everything about this pregnancy is different to my first, this one was very much planned and prepared for whereas with my son, I was 5 months pregnant before I found out, I now work from home and can rest as and when I need whereas before I was running a pub and working 18 hour days...and diet wise.. with my first I lived on coke and crisps whereas this time I'm eating a completely healthy diet, the only thing healthwise they have against me is that I have rheumatoid arthritis, but even that has been under control for several years with no medication and up until I fell pregnant I ran on a regular basis with no problem at all!
I now have to try and convince my MW on Wednesday to support me and let me have a homebirth, but don't know whether she can go against the consultants advice? I managed to stay calm yesterday and get out of the consultants office before I burst into tears but I had my husband with me whereas Wednesday I'm going to have to go alone so need to be prepared!
Am I wrong in thinkning that a MW would be able to resucitate if needed? Our area has a dedicated homebirth team, so I was expecting it to be quite straightforward booking it!
Any advice on what I can expect or arguments I can use to help my case would be greatly appreciated, I desperately want to avoid going to hospital if at all possible.. obviously I would if there was a problem with LO but I get stressed enough just going for appointments!
Because of my sons low birth weight I was automatically scheduled extra growth scans and had my 28 week one yesterday... as with every appointment LO has measured correctly for her dates and I've had no problems other than a bleed at 9 weeks so when the consultant said everything was fine and I should book my hospital tour I told her I wanted a homebirth and OMG, her whole attitude just changed!!
She told me that having the baby at home when I'd already had a low birth weight baby was in her opinion dangerous, if LO needed resucitating (which wasn't needed with my son) then the MW's wouldn't have the equipment they needed whereas the hospital has everything to hand and she wouldn't recommend it! - I tried arguing that I only live 5 minutes from the hospital and that I was under the impression that MW's were trained to resucitate, but seeing as she'd just told me that there were no complications with the pregnancy, I didn't see that there was anymore risk for me than anyone else that gave birth at home at which point she snapped that she was putting it in my notes that she had advised me against it and shooed me out of the door!
I'm totally gutted and angry at her response, everything about this pregnancy is different to my first, this one was very much planned and prepared for whereas with my son, I was 5 months pregnant before I found out, I now work from home and can rest as and when I need whereas before I was running a pub and working 18 hour days...and diet wise.. with my first I lived on coke and crisps whereas this time I'm eating a completely healthy diet, the only thing healthwise they have against me is that I have rheumatoid arthritis, but even that has been under control for several years with no medication and up until I fell pregnant I ran on a regular basis with no problem at all!
I now have to try and convince my MW on Wednesday to support me and let me have a homebirth, but don't know whether she can go against the consultants advice? I managed to stay calm yesterday and get out of the consultants office before I burst into tears but I had my husband with me whereas Wednesday I'm going to have to go alone so need to be prepared!
Am I wrong in thinkning that a MW would be able to resucitate if needed? Our area has a dedicated homebirth team, so I was expecting it to be quite straightforward booking it!
Any advice on what I can expect or arguments I can use to help my case would be greatly appreciated, I desperately want to avoid going to hospital if at all possible.. obviously I would if there was a problem with LO but I get stressed enough just going for appointments!