need some help and advice

[jadesh101]

I don't really post in this forum, not really sure why.

But I have always been one of them mothers that said I would never let my child talk with a dummy in their mouths and let her teeth become arched...

Well 2 years later and I am that Mum

I can't get the sodding thing away from her, she is sooo attached to her dummy, and I have noticed her teeth have a tiny tiny arch, I am so disappointed in myself but I can't get it away from her and she keeps finding more when I take the one she has away from her.

What should I do ?

 

[OmarsMum]

Omar is more attached to his dummy those days, he always finds one around & put it in his mouh, he even goes to the bedroom to search for one. I collected them all & kept them out of side, if he's tired & asks for one, I ask him to sit still on the sofa or bed & sit quietly to get one, if he starts to talk with the dummy in his mouth, I ask him to give it to me or I will not listen.

He used to have it for naps & bedtime only, but somehow he started to use it during the day, I'm planning to limit it's use again to sleep only. He was not feeling well few weeks back, & he started to use it during the day xx

 

[eddjanuary10]

Ihsan never had a dummy so I can't offer any great advice. I used to be his dummy in that he would want to bf sometimes just for the sake of it lol, I had to distract him with other things like stories,games,puzzles each time he wanted to bf when i knew he wasn't hungry (he was 17months old and 3meals a day!), now he bf's only morning, nap and evening. Could you try distracting her like if she is looking for a dummy say 'its time to play a game' and try to make her forget the dummy until she is really tired and you know she will only want it to sleep? Its so easy to give in when all they want is what they are used to be it boob,dummy... but they soon get used to not having it too so don't feel rotten change is part of life and your doing it for her own good x

 

[slf2010]

I know with my niece she left it for santa which worked- as it will be soon christmas could this work? x

 

[MikaylasMummy]

=( i didnt want to read and run.im just so thankful my kids refused dummies and just used breastfeeding!i have seen friends struggle with this.i assume youv tried every trick to take it away..since its coming up to christmas(sort of) maybe you can give it to santa..make up a story about how santa takes the dummy when the baby is ready?throw all the dummies out and dont have a backup..weaning my baby from breast to bottle meant cold turkey no breastfeeds for a day as he refused anything but..you will obviously have a hard time for a while.but if you are that worried about it it might be the only way to go..a friends boy had a dummy til he was over three..he has a lisp but i think he is slowly growing out of it..i dont think his teeth are bad.but i do think that the dummy should go sooner rather than later.x

 

[hattiehippo]

Tom is still really attached to dummies at 21 months and I really struggle with taking it away. He's getting better at giving it to me when I ask but there's times when he just won't without me physically removing it from him which results in him totally losing the plot. H always has to have 1 in the car and to go to sleep.

I'm trying to reduce how much he has it during the day and then have the dummy fairy visit when he's a bit bigger cos I think he's too little still to understand them going for ever.

 

[Livornese]

Mine she threw it away into the bin. Don't feel guilty. Try telling her that now she is old to have the suter and if she trow it you will give her an icecream

 

[hellohefalump]

I don't have first hand experience because my daughter never had a dummy, and my son gave his up on his own at 5 months old! But my health visitor reccommends the 'dummy fairy'. You bury all the dummies in the garden, then the dummy fairy comes overnight and leaves a present in return for the dummies, which she then gives to the little babies who need them.

 

[keepontrying]

you could try the dummy fairy?

the dummy fairy comes and takes dummy from big girls for the little babies who need them!
you buy a special bag, wrap the dummy, put it on the doorstep together one evening. The next morning you check and find that the fairy has left a present and a note that you read to your little one to say a big thank you for being a big girl and helping the babies.

You then take the time to tell everyone about the dummy fairy, you phone gran and grandpa, tell daddy the neighbours, the woman at the check out ... anything to give praise and recognition to your daughter.

then each time she moans for her dummy, you remind her... you give her the big girls present and stay firm.... through tears and tantrums you must stay firm

good luck xxx

 

[Laura--x]

I took Maisies dummy off her just 3 days ago. She would have it all day if i let her, she was so attatched too it and i just sat there at about 6pm one night and said ' maisie not having her dummy no more' and actually threw them all away that night. I went into bed with her and i told her the fairy was coming tonight to have maisies dummy, and give it to other little girls who need it more than maisie. I told her the fairies had told me that if she was a really big girl and slept without her dummy that night, that the fairies would give mommy some money in the morning to take her shopping to pick herself a toy for being a really good girl.

I was dreading it tbh but she has been really good. She randomly tells people that the fairies have her dummy, and on the occasions where she does ask for it, i just keep tellling her the fairies took it away,and how proud they are of her for being so good.

Its worked really well so i suggest definately going along those sort of lines. its worked a treat for us!

 

[sun]

I let my son sleep with a dummy, but I am very firm that he does not have it during the day. He will ask for it during the day though - especially for extra comfort after he's been unwell or after a change in routine where we let him have it, like a very long car trip. I was also not going to let him have a dummy for this long, but we dread getting rid of it for sleeping. We don't have that many though - I think 3 - so we always keep them away from him until he gets his teeth brushed then he knows it's time for sleeping and can have a dummy.

I would stop the dummy first during the day though. Use lots of distraction, etc - then work on the night once the day is gone. Some women on here have mentioned a "dummy area" where they attach the pacifier string to a toddler chair or something so their LO can use it but can't play with it. Never tried this though so I don't know how it works.

As for night, well we're still procrastinating on that one ourselves. My son wouldn't understand the "dummy fairy" yet, so I am thinking we'll just go cold turkey one day. The problem is we just keep putting it off - especially with #2 on the way! I would like him to be over it before #2 gets here in case it causes problems with her having one, but due date is getting closer and we still haven't done anything.

hugs

 

[Bunnipowder]

I took DD to the dentist last week she will be 2 in November and she insisted on walking in there with her dummy in, thought the dentist would of give me an ear bashing. But he said once she's asleep take it out as that's when it causes problems with her teeth when there sleeping, I assume thats when they grow.

 

[jadesh101]

OK right, I will try the fairies, she might not understand it fully just yet but fingers crossed.

When she does have it I say to her give it to Mummy while you play and she does. Or I will say Keira dummy is yukky and only for babies and she will normally take it from her mouth and say ' babies dummy ' and put it down for a while.

I don't think I am trying hard enough, we also have baby #2 on the way also potty training aswell ggrr all so much at once

 

[xxEMZxx]

This is one of the reasons I took Liam's dummy off him. His top teeth have started to come out a tiny bit (although saying that me and all my bro/sis and my mum have overbite's so maybe it's genetic?) but I became so paranoid that I made sure Liam only had his dummy at night time/naps from about 11 months and this weekend have gone cold turkey on his dummy at night. Luckily he has taken it so well and not had any problems but I would suggest just getting rid of every dummy in the day (hide them) and hopefully she will soon forget about them. x

 

[sparkle_1979]

oh the dreaded dummy Ruby is so attached to hers. We were doing great in the day until little sister arrived and then she had it back as she was not coping very well with the change.

I have no idea how to get it off her at night as she has it in all night and if she cant find it in her sleep gets so upset.

I'm going to go cold turkey again in the day next week and am prepared for lots of tantrums...

Ruby will be two next mth and I dont want her walking around with it then x

 

[jadesh101]

thanks ladies, and also good luck to the ladies that are dummy weaning