Schraderswife
Mom to 8 Little Loves
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I aplogize from the bottom of my heart to be posting on here but I need an honest opinion. There were four of us cousins pregnant at the same time. I just found out that one of my favorite cousins lost her baby yesterday. She started to run a really high fever and hadn't felt her baby move so she went to the ER. They did an ultrasound and told her that her baby had died; she was 27 weeks. They induced her and she had to endure 17 hours of labor to deliver her daughter. She is understandably pissed at the world right now. She refuses to talk to anyone and starts to scream and curse at anyone who tries. My sister went through a very similar experience with twin boys at 22 weeks so she can relate very well to what she is going through. My question is, the funeral. I want to go and show her how much I love her and pay my respects. I want her to know that I understand this was her child, not just "a miscarriage" like so many people call it. But I am scared me being pregnant is going to be nothing more than a slap in her face and she will be angry with me for showing up. I was pregnant with my oldest son when my sister lost her twins and because we were so close, she very frankly told me, "I cannot be happy for you when I didn't deserve to lose my babies." I can't say I don't understand that and just want to do what is right. What IS right? Do I send her a card and flowers and stay away? Or do I go and hope she doesn't go off on me with all of the anger and resentment she has right now? Please be honest ladies!!! Thank you so much!!