need some pma please

[chachadada]

Hey ladies,
Had a bleed on Friday-Mon was light but scared th shit out of me!
After a so called friend put me on a downer by saying 'if you do mc again don't try again cause it's not worth it and some ppl just don't know when to give up!' I have felt so much worse I can not believe she said that to me and out of nowhere, it is clear she thinks I should'nt have ttc again after my loss but I don't think any1 hs the right to tell anyone when it's ok to try again, I will NEVER forget my 1st little angel and always love forever and no 1 can take that feeling of sadness away.

Anyways I feel even more anxious and worried since she said that to me, my scan is this Thursday and I had the whole pma but now i am just bricking it again!

 

[Smiler13]

Hang on in there chachadada.

Really sorry your friend said that, she is bang out of order. People really are clueless sometimes.

Hope the scan on Thurs puts your mind at rest. Best wishes.

 

[Smiler13]

Meant to add that I find really trashy, escapist TV / rented DVDs (e.g. of American series that I like) and novels helpful in passing the time and getting my mind off things, especially if DH is working and am on my own.

 

[chachadada]

thanks huni great idea xx

 

[Bingo]

What a bloody stupid thing to say. Maybe you need to educate her on the numbers of women who have MMC's and MC's. She obviously doesn't realise just how common it is. If something doesn't pan out the way we want, should we always just give up? Or give up hope?

Maybe I'm being harsh, sometimes I think people just don't know what to say and end up saying the wrong thing. It's also very difficult for people who haven't experienced a miscarriage to understand how devastating it is. I know I didn't understand until I had one myself.

 

[chachadada]

What a bloody stupid thing to say. Maybe you need to educate her on the numbers of women who have MMC's and MC's. She obviously doesn't realise just how common it is. If something doesn't pan out the way we want, should we always just give up? Or give up hope?

Maybe I'm being harsh, sometimes I think people just don't know what to say and end up saying the wrong thing. It's also very difficult for people who haven't experienced a miscarriage to understand how devastating it is. I know I didn't understand until I had one myself.

i had a close friend who sadly lost her son then the following yr her daughter, i felt so sorry for her but never felt the pain until i went through loosing my baby and then understood the pain she went through and twice as well, even worse! But i still never threw stupid un needed advise at her, it was not my place, what hurt me the most is that my friend asked me when i was going bk to hospital and instead of being supportive she thought the worst and then went on to tell me if i have lost another to not bother trying again, I didn't even ask what she thought let alone needed to hear that bullshit, i can't for get this cause she has kids and chose to abort 2 babies cause she was not sensible enough to use protection !!! sorry i am so pissed as u can tell for your comment

 

[Las78]

Honey, first thing - ignore your (so called) friend! Honestly some people really annoy me (sorry the hormones are getting the better of me now). She is lucky to be able to live in the ignorance of what a mc does to a woman, I hope she never has to find out.

Sending you lots of positive vibes hun, try and keep strong, as hard as it is, just a couple more days for the scan x

 

[nickynoonoo]

Hi just wanted to say she is no friend of yours, why would anyone recommend to somebody not to bother again!! What a nutter.

I am on pregnancy #4 in 9 months, and the doctors tell me to keep trying! They would be the ones telling me not to if there was good reason too, not some so called friend. How awful

 

[Jellyt]

Some people are ridiculous! I'm sorry your 'friend' was so tactless, she obviosuly just has no idea. I wish you lots of luck for your scan xxx

 

[chachadada]

thanks girls, u are all so right! fingers crossed tomorrow goes well to all of u xx

 

[Smiler13]

Best wishes for tomorrow.

 

[cazza22]

Babe im sorry she said this to u just ignore those kind of comments its the last thing you need to hear at times of worry and stress she should know that as your friend the muppett GGGRRRRR!! I just wanted to let you know that im thinking of u n bubs tomorrow ((((((((hugs)))))))) I know ur gonna be fine sweetie pie keep smiling n stay as positive a can be ok Lov N hugs Caz xxxxxxxxxx Ps PM me if u need a chat ok x x x x

 

[lottie7]

All the luck in the world. Most women who have miscarriages go on to have healthy happy babies and you will be one of them. Stay strong. Let us know how you get on as I'll be thinking of you.

xx