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[Rose1625]

My husband and I aren't doing good right now. We had a talk with my sister in law today and things got bad. We been TTC for awhile now and even tho I feel like it's not going to happen I still wish it will. I want a baby so badly and everyone I know has kids so being around them hurts. I think I'm suffering from depression right now. I cry all the time and I'm always sad. There are things I can't talk to my husband about and he gets mad over that. I have no friends here since which just moved here. I love my sister in law but she doesn't understand what I'm going through since she has two kids already. I went to the dr and I'm waiting for test results to come in. But from me not getting my period every month he said I'm might not be able to get pregnant. Hearing that just messed me up more than I already was. Please anyone I really could use a friend right now.

 

[baby_rose]

Omg ur doc should have not aaid that ur not the first nor the last girl who will need some help getting a period and ovulating how long have u been ttc

 

[slg76]

I'm sorry you are having a tough time! Ttc can be so stressful and can strain the best of relationships. Your doctor is certainly jumping to conclusions. Many fertility problems are easily fixed. My doctor told me I would only ovulate a few timesaver year until I went into menopause. Guess what? I'm ovulating every month now! You will figure this out. Remember that you and hubby are a team and want the same thing.

 

[babylaw720]

My husband and I aren't doing good right now. We had a talk with my sister in law today and things got bad. We been TTC for awhile now and even tho I feel like it's not going to happen I still wish it will. I want a baby so badly and everyone I know has kids so being around them hurts. I think I'm suffering from depression right now. I cry all the time and I'm always sad. There are things I can't talk to my husband about and he gets mad over that. I have no friends here since which just moved here. I love my sister in law but she doesn't understand what I'm going through since she has two kids already. I went to the dr and I'm waiting for test results to come in. But from me not getting my period every month he said I'm might not be able to get pregnant. Hearing that just messed me up more than I already was. Please anyone I really could use a friend right now.

Trust me I know completely how you feel. I also have a sister in law with two kids. She got pregnant on the first try with both and has never seen a negative test.... so she doesn't identify well with me. My DH and I have been trying for 10 months with no luck. That is absolutely ridiciculous for your doc to have said you mat not be able to get pregnant. If your missing af sometimes, there is a reason. I went 5 months without af coming around, and turns out I have PCOS, but now theres answers so something can be done about it. If you are missing your periods, their job is to figure out why and fix it. if I were you I would demand some answers. Just know you're not alone. We're all here for you, and even if we don't have the same struggles, we understand the frustration. Chin up. =)

 

[baby_rose]

Babylaw do u get regular periods?

 

[babylaw720]

Babylaw do u get regular periods?

My periods were regular (every 35 days to the hour) until, go figure, we started ttc in august. At that point, my cycles started getting really weird.... Sometimes I would be two weeks late, sometimes a month late (I personally feel that one of the times was an early mc, but cant be sure). And then after december it had stopped coming altogether. My doc thinks that my screwy period was due to the pcos, which coincidentally started to manifest itself when we started ttc. So af came around Dec 7th, and didn't come back until coincidentally about 20 minutes before I took my first metformin pill on May 16....

 

[baby_rose]

Omg no way how crazy mine r regular but started getting wayyy shorter lets see how this cyxle goes

 

[Ashleyt83]

I understand! I cant hardly go to baby showers, I feel so selfish, but seeing all my friends pregnant and having babies is depressing. I'm 31 and have been TTC for 8 months. I really wanted to start 2 years ago, but my DH wasnt willing. I started an antidepressant last month and I think its finally starting to kick in. I got off my BC pills 8 months ago and have had only 4 periods. Its hard... I'm here for you!

 

[Ashleyt83]

oh and I think you should consider switching doctors.

 

[KayeChay]

Your doctor is so ignorant! I'm sorry that he/she said that to you. That makes me soooo mad! I have VERY irregular periods and I haven't had AF in 6 months. Me and DH have been trying since January and when I told my doc that she said she couldn't do anything until we've been TTC for about a year. Which, I know I won't get pregnant (I understand why she said that though). I have no periods and I'm not ovulating! I'm getting really frustrated. I know how you feel..

All my friends have kids and not just one but 2 or 3 and to top it all.. it seemed like they had no trouble at all conceiving, and of course, I'm the one with problems :,(
It's going to be a loooong road for me it seems..

I can only hope, pray, live healthy, and love.

Kaye

 

[carrie_penny]

Don't let them get in your way. Trust me, I have 7 close friends that are expecting including my daughter-in-law (yes, daughter-in-law my stepson is my age). Many are expecting their 2+. I have to make a choice every morning on how I am going to handle it. When my granddaughter was born 2 years ago I spent about a week weepy, not just for my not having kids, but for joy too (she is a stunner and has been since day 1).

After finding myself spinning downward I had to start practicing what I had learning when seeing a therepist in college. You wake up each morning and say a mantra to yourself about who you want to be that day. Something small, short and simple. "I am going to live in joy, not regrets" "Today is a day for joy" "I am going to be my best today" If you feel yourself slipping, take a few minutes somewhere (I used to use the WC at work) and repeat the same mantra from the morning.

This isn't an easy things to do, or to acheive, but taking in other joys daily can help. I still wept when my DIL told me that she was expecting but I was also able to be truly happy for her and my SS.

 

[anchr23]

My husband and I aren't doing good right now. We had a talk with my sister in law today and things got bad. We been TTC for awhile now and even tho I feel like it's not going to happen I still wish it will. I want a baby so badly and everyone I know has kids so being around them hurts. I think I'm suffering from depression right now. I cry all the time and I'm always sad. There are things I can't talk to my husband about and he gets mad over that. I have no friends here since which just moved here. I love my sister in law but she doesn't understand what I'm going through since she has two kids already. I went to the dr and I'm waiting for test results to come in. But from me not getting my period every month he said I'm might not be able to get pregnant. Hearing that just messed me up more than I already was. Please anyone I really could use a friend right now.

I feel you. I really do. I am in the same boat. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for almost a year. Everyone I know is pregnant or just having a kid. My best friend is even pregnant with my nephew. We were trying to conceive at the same time. She tries to console me, but she already has one kid and another one on the way and she just doesn't understand. I try to talk to my husband about it, but he just tells me it will happen and it will be fine and not to worry about it. I am always depressed. I cry a lot when I am alone. I hope it happens soon.

 

[Khatif]

I am sorry to heat that you are going through a though time.

The girls are right your doctor is an idiot, He should not say anything like that until he has very strong proof of that.
Not having AF every month can be caused by so many factors. Don't give up! Wait for the result and see what it says or even look for another doctor who is not jumping to conclusion immediately.

Depression can be a bitch. I know that sadly from first person experience. I suffer from depression for years and I am threated with it for 4 years.
I have just stopped with my antidepression pill because I would like to get pregnant.
Depression can be also a reason while you are not getting pregnant. You may want to visit a professional about it.

Anyway we are here so you can speak to us if nothing else.