mnonie
A wee bit preggo :).
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hi
I should prob start by explaining my twin sister is getting married in July this year, we have always been very close and she has been very supportive of me and OH having wee bump. Her and her fiancee having been trying for about a year to have a LO but nothing has happened, however she found was pregnant about a week ago but over the last few days has had a very heavy bleed . she was so pleased at the prospect of a LO. TBH I know that most people would have been upset at there sister being pregnant as well but I was actually so pleased for them. I was told I couldn't have kids so this little one is very much our little miracle, but i kinda feel guilty now not just because of the miscarriage but we've had so much support from both sides of the family however her fiancee's family really don't approve of her and very much push her out and she was so worried they'd do the same to the her LO. His family have made it very clear, she is a horse rider and very outdoors sort of person, I think they expected him to end up with someone more prim and proper .
Our other issue is I'm very worried about how to ensure my OH's mum doesn't feel pushed out by his step mum (who he doesn't get on with). his mum is so excited about the wee one, but his step mum who has never planned much of a role in the OH's life is now planning on coming up for 6 weeks bth I don't want her here she is welcome later but not when the baby is just born. Every inch of the way she has compared our bump and baby to her nephew which isn't fair they are different people, FIL is totally useless tbh his sons seems to put him out. I just want OH's mum to feel like LO gran, I don't mind his step mum being involved but she has never really been there before. any ideas?
sorry I just didn't know where i could post this, its starting to really get to me thanks
I should prob start by explaining my twin sister is getting married in July this year, we have always been very close and she has been very supportive of me and OH having wee bump. Her and her fiancee having been trying for about a year to have a LO but nothing has happened, however she found was pregnant about a week ago but over the last few days has had a very heavy bleed . she was so pleased at the prospect of a LO. TBH I know that most people would have been upset at there sister being pregnant as well but I was actually so pleased for them. I was told I couldn't have kids so this little one is very much our little miracle, but i kinda feel guilty now not just because of the miscarriage but we've had so much support from both sides of the family however her fiancee's family really don't approve of her and very much push her out and she was so worried they'd do the same to the her LO. His family have made it very clear, she is a horse rider and very outdoors sort of person, I think they expected him to end up with someone more prim and proper .
Our other issue is I'm very worried about how to ensure my OH's mum doesn't feel pushed out by his step mum (who he doesn't get on with). his mum is so excited about the wee one, but his step mum who has never planned much of a role in the OH's life is now planning on coming up for 6 weeks bth I don't want her here she is welcome later but not when the baby is just born. Every inch of the way she has compared our bump and baby to her nephew which isn't fair they are different people, FIL is totally useless tbh his sons seems to put him out. I just want OH's mum to feel like LO gran, I don't mind his step mum being involved but she has never really been there before. any ideas?
sorry I just didn't know where i could post this, its starting to really get to me thanks