Well as you all know, it's not long till Christmas.
It's mine and OH's first Christmas together, and will be our first Christmas with our LO also.
We had set a budget of £500 on presents for each other (which I'd already planned to go over by £100
) but my OH is struggling to save his money in time for Christmas as he gets paid monthly and has a lot of things already due to come out of his bank at certain times between now and Christmas.
So he asked if we could lower the budget, I said he can lower how much he spends on me, but I don't want to lower how much I'm spending on him. But he doesn't think this is fair.
Fair enough if it was always like this I'd be like yeah we'll lower it together, but he buys me things a lot anyway and not long ago he spent £470 on a pair of gorgeous Christian Louboutin heels for me (which sadly, I have only worn once so far!) and the fact that I was so excited to buy him lots of things he really wants makes me gutted that he wants to lower it - not the fact that I'll get less, because that really doesn't bother me.
He doesn't like the idea of me spending more on him at Christmas, but I really don't care how much my presents are worth, it's the fact that it's things that I love from the man I love that counts iykwim.
And tbh, I'll get waaay more presents from him than he will from me, because I have asked for lots of Me To You bears (big child, I know) and some charms for my bracelet and then the rest he can do what he likes with, whereas he is into collectables, like really expensive collector's edition DVDs and games, etc. so obviously he will have less presents overall than I will.
I really want to buy him all the ones I'd planned on as he means everything to me and it's our first Christmas together. Also, bubs will only be a month old so won't be able to get many "useable" presents, so it's our last chance to really spoil each other at Christmas (as obviously bubs will be bigger next year).
I begged him to let me keep the budget the same on my part and lower it for himself, and he replied "fine, I'll just have to scrape and struggle then" meaning if I won't lower it, neither will he.
This made my already highly-emotional self cry because I feel so guilty, so I said that we would lower it, but me crying made him angry, so now he's off to work in a bad mood and I feel like shit for just wanting to spoil him.
I don't really need any advice or anything, I just really needed to get that out. Sorry xx
It's mine and OH's first Christmas together, and will be our first Christmas with our LO also.
We had set a budget of £500 on presents for each other (which I'd already planned to go over by £100
) but my OH is struggling to save his money in time for Christmas as he gets paid monthly and has a lot of things already due to come out of his bank at certain times between now and Christmas.So he asked if we could lower the budget, I said he can lower how much he spends on me, but I don't want to lower how much I'm spending on him. But he doesn't think this is fair.
Fair enough if it was always like this I'd be like yeah we'll lower it together, but he buys me things a lot anyway and not long ago he spent £470 on a pair of gorgeous Christian Louboutin heels for me (which sadly, I have only worn once so far!) and the fact that I was so excited to buy him lots of things he really wants makes me gutted that he wants to lower it - not the fact that I'll get less, because that really doesn't bother me.
He doesn't like the idea of me spending more on him at Christmas, but I really don't care how much my presents are worth, it's the fact that it's things that I love from the man I love that counts iykwim.
And tbh, I'll get waaay more presents from him than he will from me, because I have asked for lots of Me To You bears (big child, I know) and some charms for my bracelet and then the rest he can do what he likes with, whereas he is into collectables, like really expensive collector's edition DVDs and games, etc. so obviously he will have less presents overall than I will.
I really want to buy him all the ones I'd planned on as he means everything to me and it's our first Christmas together. Also, bubs will only be a month old so won't be able to get many "useable" presents, so it's our last chance to really spoil each other at Christmas (as obviously bubs will be bigger next year).
I begged him to let me keep the budget the same on my part and lower it for himself, and he replied "fine, I'll just have to scrape and struggle then" meaning if I won't lower it, neither will he.
This made my already highly-emotional self cry because I feel so guilty, so I said that we would lower it, but me crying made him angry, so now he's off to work in a bad mood and I feel like shit for just wanting to spoil him.
I don't really need any advice or anything, I just really needed to get that out. Sorry
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