Negative feelings towards In laws

[Enasy]

We live in a flat attached to my in-laws house, since my baby was born last september they do nothing but irritate me. i cant even put my finger on why. I hate being around them, everything they say grinds on me. The way they talk to our 10month old baby. they cant keep there hands off him, they wont just leave him to play (he is a very independant guy and loves exploring) i feel a horrible sense of dread/anxiety when they go near him.

I am a stay at home mum and have not felt comfy leaving him with anyone. My family live 100 miles away i wouldnt feel comfy with them baby sitting either not even my own mum but i dont feel the same anxiety around them that i do with the in laws when we visit.

Its driving me crazy I dont want to feel like this but i dont trust them, i see how they are with there other grandkids and hear stories from my other half as to how they were when he was a kid. We would like to try for another child at the end of the year and all i can think about is who would look after our son while i was in hospital. I have to have c sections so im in for 2 nights. may have to do it alone while hubby stays with our son

 

[staralfur]

What is it that you've heard about how they are with other kids that concerns you exactly?

I know it can be difficult thinking about leaving your LO overnight with someone but by the sounds of it it's still a year or more away before you'll have to consider it so I'm not sure that's worth worrying about right now. Even still, not being able to keep their hands off of him doesn't sound like something that would terrify me when leaving my LO with someone, which is why I ask what other behaviour bothers you.

 

[calm]

I have posted endless times about my inlaws. I can understand you, my grind on me too, they are also constantly picking my two up when I prefer they would let them play and explore. It wouldn't be such an issue but they are here everyday (live a few metres away). I am trying hard with mine, but its hard work! I don't have anxiety with my own parents either. I do however let my in laws babysit my two, they do love the kids and are paranoid/anal enough for no harm to come to them. I do find it hard letting go though, can totally understand you

 

[Enasy]

They have 2 other grandkids who are 8 and 10 and the way they are with them horrifies me. they shout constantly, telling them off about everything. they argue with each other infront of the kids. They constantly argue with me about the healthy diet i keep my baby on "cant he just have a couple of chips??" they go on about it so much i wouldnt trust them to not give him something if i had to leave him with them. they are just too full on for me, they make me feel uncomfy