sil
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Hi ladies,
Thanks in advance if you make it through this
I am currently 14 weeks pregnant with my second child. I have a sweet, wonderful, loving DS. When I was pregnant with DS I honestly didn't care what gender the baby would be as long as he/she was healthy. I was excited to have a boy and happy when he arrived.
However, this time I am dying for a girl. This is likely our last child (we really only plan on having 2 and are pretty set on it), and I can't help but feel disappointed at the possibility of having another boy. What makes it seem more likely is that boys are EVERYWHERE .. I have a brother, my dad had 2 brothers, my DH has a brother, my brother has 2 sons, and I have my one DS. I am literally the only girl in the family (besides my mom and DH's mom of course).
To make things worse, everyone else seems to be on the same page. His parents and my parents are hoping to finally have "a princess" and make their opinions known. They constantly talk about girls. It makes me think about girls and how nice it would be to have one of each gender and I am just honestly terrified of how both me and everyone else will feel if it is a boy again. At my 12 week scan (12w5d actually), I believe baby / nub looked like another boy and I posted in gender prediction and I had EVERYONE, 2 pages worth, say boy as well. I just feel like it will be.
Then I feel incredibly guilty for feeling this way. I feel horrible that I can't just be happy with a healthy baby again. I know raising 2 brothers close in age would be nice as well, but I just can't feel as excited about raising another boy. Then the guilt kicks in again. The guilt is almost crippling. I worry that if I feel this bad and I don't even KNOW the gender yet, how will I feel if my prediction/guess for a boy came true? I feel like a horrible mother
We find out the gender in 2 weeks and I am both excited and extremely nervous. I just don't know how to feel.
Thanks for listening if you made it through and letting me vent. Hugs to everyone, and I hope you have happy and healthy pregnancies.
Thanks in advance if you make it through this
I am currently 14 weeks pregnant with my second child. I have a sweet, wonderful, loving DS. When I was pregnant with DS I honestly didn't care what gender the baby would be as long as he/she was healthy. I was excited to have a boy and happy when he arrived.
However, this time I am dying for a girl. This is likely our last child (we really only plan on having 2 and are pretty set on it), and I can't help but feel disappointed at the possibility of having another boy. What makes it seem more likely is that boys are EVERYWHERE .. I have a brother, my dad had 2 brothers, my DH has a brother, my brother has 2 sons, and I have my one DS. I am literally the only girl in the family (besides my mom and DH's mom of course).
To make things worse, everyone else seems to be on the same page. His parents and my parents are hoping to finally have "a princess" and make their opinions known. They constantly talk about girls. It makes me think about girls and how nice it would be to have one of each gender and I am just honestly terrified of how both me and everyone else will feel if it is a boy again. At my 12 week scan (12w5d actually), I believe baby / nub looked like another boy and I posted in gender prediction and I had EVERYONE, 2 pages worth, say boy as well. I just feel like it will be.
Then I feel incredibly guilty for feeling this way. I feel horrible that I can't just be happy with a healthy baby again. I know raising 2 brothers close in age would be nice as well, but I just can't feel as excited about raising another boy. Then the guilt kicks in again. The guilt is almost crippling. I worry that if I feel this bad and I don't even KNOW the gender yet, how will I feel if my prediction/guess for a boy came true? I feel like a horrible mother
We find out the gender in 2 weeks and I am both excited and extremely nervous. I just don't know how to feel.
Thanks for listening if you made it through and letting me vent. Hugs to everyone, and I hope you have happy and healthy pregnancies.