Molae06
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Me and dh passed our 7 year ttc mark last month. On the 4th of July, dh's b-day, during the b-dy party I threw for him, my little brother and his gf announced they are expecting. It's no secret we have been ttc and what a struggle it's been, so I don't see how this was even deemed an appropriate time to announce.
My problem lies here, my brother and his gf do not have jobs, they live with and off of my parents, neither of them have their GED, my brother quit high school in 10th grade and his gf dropped out right after 8th grade, they have $0, they both had been drinking everyday/night and smoking weed all day/night, and....wait for it...they've been together 3 months.
They both know how babies are made, she actually had a baby that she gave up for adoption 3 years ago, and they told us all this was done on purpose, what they wanted and were trying to do.
My major problem lies here, on the 6th, my sister and mom "suggested" to me that they think me and dh should adopt the baby, I told them that's all up to them, that I can't force anyone to do anything. I really didn't want anyone putting that in my head, even though I was already thinking it. So yesterday was when everything really sunk in and my dad and I got into a huge fight and I don't think I am ever going to talk to my mom, dad, brother, his gf, any of them ever again. So my mom texted and said "They want you to adopt the baby, are you and dh still interested?" of course my heart jumped for joy and I texted back right away "Of course, if that's what they are thinking, we would be more than happy", about 15 mins goes by and i get a text back from my mom saying "Sorry, I was just talking stupid, it was a joke". Really?? What kind of joke is that? I still can't believe she said something like that. Meanwhile I flipped out on my dad and told him to quit encouraging his son and "other daughter" (that's what he calls her, he has known her for 3 mos.) so that my mom is now going to have yet ANOTHER person to support. My dad went on and on about how I need to "pull my head out of my ass and grow up and understand that life isn't fair" he also said all I sound like to everyone is "poor me, poor me" and want everyone to feel sorry for me. He told me everything is on "God's time" and if "God wanted it to happen it would" and that spending thousands of dollars on fertility treatments trying to change fate is stupidity. I don't think I have ever felt actual hate for my family until now. I actually hate them. No one understands. They don't get it. And for that, I absolutely fucking (excuse my language), hate them. What should I do?
Also, my dad also suggest that I "talk to someone" I said like who and he said your cousin, because she had the same problems as you, but eventually the baby came when the timing was right, it is all about the right timing. Back story, my cousin had a cyst on her ovary and had it removed in high school, got pregnant by a guy she was with for a little under a year, that was the reason they got married and she has had a baby like clock work about every year and a half, she has 3 kids now, NO FERTILITY PROBLEMS whatsoever. This is where more of my hate comes from, how can they compare someone who is as fertil as a flipping guinea pig to me? Saying "she had the same problems"...there are no problems, I think they are all delusional.
My problem lies here, my brother and his gf do not have jobs, they live with and off of my parents, neither of them have their GED, my brother quit high school in 10th grade and his gf dropped out right after 8th grade, they have $0, they both had been drinking everyday/night and smoking weed all day/night, and....wait for it...they've been together 3 months.
They both know how babies are made, she actually had a baby that she gave up for adoption 3 years ago, and they told us all this was done on purpose, what they wanted and were trying to do.
My major problem lies here, on the 6th, my sister and mom "suggested" to me that they think me and dh should adopt the baby, I told them that's all up to them, that I can't force anyone to do anything. I really didn't want anyone putting that in my head, even though I was already thinking it. So yesterday was when everything really sunk in and my dad and I got into a huge fight and I don't think I am ever going to talk to my mom, dad, brother, his gf, any of them ever again. So my mom texted and said "They want you to adopt the baby, are you and dh still interested?" of course my heart jumped for joy and I texted back right away "Of course, if that's what they are thinking, we would be more than happy", about 15 mins goes by and i get a text back from my mom saying "Sorry, I was just talking stupid, it was a joke". Really?? What kind of joke is that? I still can't believe she said something like that. Meanwhile I flipped out on my dad and told him to quit encouraging his son and "other daughter" (that's what he calls her, he has known her for 3 mos.) so that my mom is now going to have yet ANOTHER person to support. My dad went on and on about how I need to "pull my head out of my ass and grow up and understand that life isn't fair" he also said all I sound like to everyone is "poor me, poor me" and want everyone to feel sorry for me. He told me everything is on "God's time" and if "God wanted it to happen it would" and that spending thousands of dollars on fertility treatments trying to change fate is stupidity. I don't think I have ever felt actual hate for my family until now. I actually hate them. No one understands. They don't get it. And for that, I absolutely fucking (excuse my language), hate them. What should I do?
Also, my dad also suggest that I "talk to someone" I said like who and he said your cousin, because she had the same problems as you, but eventually the baby came when the timing was right, it is all about the right timing. Back story, my cousin had a cyst on her ovary and had it removed in high school, got pregnant by a guy she was with for a little under a year, that was the reason they got married and she has had a baby like clock work about every year and a half, she has 3 kids now, NO FERTILITY PROBLEMS whatsoever. This is where more of my hate comes from, how can they compare someone who is as fertil as a flipping guinea pig to me? Saying "she had the same problems"...there are no problems, I think they are all delusional.