New here, was WTT for 7 years then relationship failed. looking for support :)

[Stargazing]

Hi everyone I'm a bit shy but wanted to introduce myself and hopefully find people in the same situation.

I am 26 and have been desperately wanting children for 7 years now. I was always responsible and waiting so I could travel, buy a house, save, go to university etc. And I did all those things.

However after 7 years of waiting, my partner and I were due to TTC 4 months ago.... but the relationship took an unexpected turn and ended painfully 8 months before TTC date.

So although i'm young, I am really grappling to cope with being ready in every single way (mentally, emotionally, financially, the right age and stage in life) however I have found myself single again. The most important piece of the puzzle is missing... and I don't want to wait any longer. Especially years longer.

I also have PCOS and multiple other health issues so was hoping to start trying soon.

Slight vent there, but that's the story.

I look forward to making some friends on here!

Thanks so much for reading

 

[Rachael1981]

Sending you massive hugs

 

[Stargazing]

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Sending you massive hugs

thanks so much

 

[Lunabelle]

Oh I can understand how frustrated you must be when every single fiber in your body wants a baby. I have been there too. And the reward is amazing, you almost forget about all the pain there was with WTT and while TTC. Well most days you forget.

I also read your other thread where you mentioned you have planned to use a sperm donor if you don't find a partner in the next 18months. I think it is great that you are taking your life in your hands and making sure that you don't miss out on the greatest gift of all just for waiting too long (although you still have plenty of time).

If you manage to find a partner who is equally keen to start a family then great, the child will have a father (otherwise have u got a close male figure that would be a part of the child's life?) and it sure will make those night feedings easier, especially if you need to juggle it with working too at the same time.

But if not, then just make sure you have a great support network and you will be fine. You can always find a partner, but there is a limited time to have children. Good on you for making this decision!

 

[Stargazing]

Oh I can understand how frustrated you must be when every single fiber in your body wants a baby. I have been there too. And the reward is amazing, you almost forget about all the pain there was with WTT and while TTC. Well most days you forget.

I also read your other thread where you mentioned you have planned to use a sperm donor if you don't find a partner in the next 18months. I think it is great that you are taking your life in your hands and making sure that you don't miss out on the greatest gift of all just for waiting too long (although you still have plenty of time).

If you manage to find a partner who is equally keen to start a family then great, the child will have a father (otherwise have u got a close male figure that would be a part of the child's life?) and it sure will make those night feedings easier, especially if you need to juggle it with working too at the same time.

But if not, then just make sure you have a great support network and you will be fine. You can always find a partner, but there is a limited time to have children. Good on you for making this decision!

Thanks so much for your reply! yes, I can't explain how frustrating it is. Especially when i'm finally ready. Everything i've done in my life is for this... and I was so close before it all ended.

I have met a lot of men who want kids right away, however just not the right one for me. I don't want to have a child with someone simply because i'm in a hurry. I don't want to risk split custody and all that negativity. I suppose the PCOS and previous early miscarriage is on my mind in terms of time. I wasn't ovulating for a long time.

I won't be working as I run a business part time from home, however I do have other friends close by with babies/children. Yes I have a male figure, which is a good point actually! thanks.

Finding a man is easy, but finding the right man feels impossible!

I see you have one little one! that's exciting, are you expecting again? I can't wait to have a purpose in life. You are very lucky

 

[Lunabelle]

That's a very good point! Having a child with the wrong man is definitely not a good idea. Plus a divorce can be quite traumatic for a child.

You are very brave to be ready to do it on your own, but sounds like you have the ideal conditions for it with running a part-time business. Best of both worlds as you will still have time to spend with the baby too. You are very lucky to be able to do it on your own. You don't need a man, but that's usually when you end up finding one - when you're not looking.

I have one little toddler and I am WTT for our second one at some point between September-January. One day you too will have your little bundle of joy.

 

[Sam 121]

Hi everyone I'm a bit shy but wanted to introduce myself and hopefully find people in the same situation.

I am 26 and have been desperately wanting children for 7 years now. I was always responsible and waiting so I could travel, buy a house, save, go to university etc. And I did all those things.

However after 7 years of waiting, my partner and I were due to TTC 4 months ago.... but the relationship took an unexpected turn and ended painfully 8 months before TTC date.

So although i'm young, I am really grappling to cope with being ready in every single way (mentally, emotionally, financially, the right age and stage in life) however I have found myself single again. The most important piece of the puzzle is missing... and I don't want to wait any longer. Especially years longer.

I also have PCOS and multiple other health issues so was hoping to start trying soon.

Slight vent there, but that's the story.

I look forward to making some friends on here!

Thanks so much for reading

Hello, I'm sorry to hear about your relationship......I was with someone for a long time and we split up a few years ago. Im 34 now, and thinking of going down the sperm bank route if I havent met anyone in the next few years. I have always wanted children so will do it one way or another. The frustration is horrid. Big hugs. XXXX

 

[Stargazing]

Hello, I'm sorry to hear about your relationship......I was with someone for a long time and we split up a few years ago. Im 34 now, and thinking of going down the sperm bank route if I havent met anyone in the next few years. I have always wanted children so will do it one way or another. The frustration is horrid. Big hugs. XXXX

Hi Sam! thanks for your reply. I'm sorry to hear about your break up too. it sucks that you spend some of your best fertile years in a relationship that ends! did you two plan on kids? It's so good to get support from people who are in the same situation. The loss and disappointment is had to deal with.. I would have been pregnant now if the relationship didn't end, and I still love him a lot.

If you look at my ticker i'm doing the same thing. On this date next year if I am still alone I will start to look into sperm donation. It's not what I want by any means. But I don't want to sit waiting forever- i've already waited 7 years! i'll be sad if that's what it comes to but eventually i'm sure i'll have no regrets i've never heard anyone say they regret their kids!

 

[mridula]

Hi everyone I'm a bit shy but wanted to introduce myself and hopefully find people in the same situation.

I am 26 and have been desperately wanting children for 7 years now. I was always responsible and waiting so I could travel, buy a house, save, go to university etc. And I did all those things.

However after 7 years of waiting, my partner and I were due to TTC 4 months ago.... but the relationship took an unexpected turn and ended painfully 8 months before TTC date.

So although i'm young, I am really grappling to cope with being ready in every single way (mentally, emotionally, financially, the right age and stage in life) however I have found myself single again. The most important piece of the puzzle is missing... and I don't want to wait any longer. Especially years longer.

I also have PCOS and multiple other health issues so was hoping to start trying soon.

Slight vent there, but that's the story.

I look forward to making some friends on here!

Thanks so much for reading

That is not expected at all... may God give all the strength to you girl!
You must definitely consider marriage and get going with baby #1 soon Wish you good luck

 

[Stargazing]

That is not expected at all... may God give all the strength to you girl!
You must definitely consider marriage and get going with baby #1 soon Wish you good luck

Thank you!! yes marriage would be lovely but I think a man is needed first haha
x