New (ish) here

[m.knight]

Hello all. I used to come on BnB about 18 months ago when we had been trying for 6 months or so. I posted loads on the 2WW board. Then after a while, and after seeing everyone else get pregnant, I gave up and didn't use this site.

It's been 2 years now and we know that it is unlikely we will conceive in the traditional way. In the summer we started seeing a fertility doctor on the NHS. I was diagnosed with pcos (this was after being sent for 3 wrong blood tests!) and the best advice they gave was "just keep trying and relax about it". Pfffft. Totally useless. We also know that DH has... Performance issues. He can ejaculate, just not in me. Can't do it. Do matter what.

So we made the decision to go private, even though we don't really have that sort of money. They've been fab so far. So understanding and were going to have IUI in the new year. Husband asked the question when we were there, would turkey basting work. The doctor gave us everything we would need to do it, and we've tried that for the last 2 months.... One unsuccessful, and the other.... AF is due today or tomorrow.

Anyway, I am struggling to cope with this by myself. Hubby is great, he wants this as much as I do but no one, and I mean nobody at all, understands what we are going through. All we get is "just relax about it" or "it'll happen when the time is right" and I'm sorry I just want to slap people that say that!!!!!! I feel so alone in this, even though I know I'm not.

So this is just a post to say hello, and also I am wondering if anyone else is having similar problems to us, and what you are doing to help?

Thanks for listening

 

[jellybeanxx]

Welcome... Well welcome back!
I know what you mean about wanting to slap people who tell you to relax, they clearly have little understanding about fertility.
Hope you get your bfp soon, in the mean time you're in good company x

 

[cupcaker]

Hi, I remember talking to you all those months ago and I'm really sorry to hear you are still having a struggle at the moment. It sounds like you are doing all you can, and the private clinic sounds like it could really help you. I wish you tons of luck, you really deserve that positive news soon. I know 'easy for me to say' as I did fall pregnant but I genuinely mean it, I really hope things work out very soon for you xx

 

[foquita]

i don't know you from before but welcome back I definitely know how it feels to be the last one to get pregnant, almost everyone I have made friends with on here is pregnant now and it's so difficult!

as for other people's comments, do they know that you are having fertility treatment? we are very open about it and everyone knows about our problems so I find that they don't really make comments like that because they know that we are having treatment. I would want to punch people who said that too

I really hope AF doesn't arrive for you and your second IUI has worked

 

[foquita]

sorry, I just realised that you haven't had IUI yet, I misread! I hope your second try at at home insemination has worked and you don't have to resort to IUI