New Pregnancy

[Goodvibes0719]

I don't know if this can go here or not. But it seems like this one gets more traffic than others. I also like this board. Anyway. I am pregnant with another baby, and I just gave birth 7 months ago. So technically, they will be 16 months apart. Has anyone else been through this? And did you ever sleep again? Haha. My 7 month old still doesn't sleep through yet. I read someone say something about the minute rule. Let them cry out a minute on night one, then feed them, then two minutes and feed them, etc. How did you get yours to sleep?

 

[george83]

This was me this time last year!!! I now have a 4 year old, 20 month old and a 5 month old (my third was a month early so the 16 month age gap I was already dreading then became 15 months). Being completely honest I wouldn't plan to do it again but now it's happened I love it. I constantly feel guilty that nobody gets enough quality attention but my boys all love each other so much. Ds2 is always wanting to hold ds3 and trying to kiss him, when they are sat side by side in the pushchair he's very protective of him and starts rubbing his head if anybody gets too close to warn them off - it's adorable!!

I rarely get any sleep but that's mainly because ds2 is still a bad sleeper ds3 hasn't really changed that or made it particularly worse. If I want to go anywhere special for the day I try to make sure I'm fully organised the night before but we still have to be out of the house for half 8 each day for school and we've coped so far. Ive found it easy ish to get them to nap at the same time the majority of days especially now ds3 is older and at school so I can get on with housework etc although I do like it when they sleep separately so they still get some one to one time.

My oh isn't very helpful so I struggle to get any 'me' time at all even for a bath or to wash my hair which I some times struggle with though.

 

[Ecoden]

Congrats! I have not gone through this but my DD is 6 mo and I can imagine my concerns if I found out I was pregnant again. DD was a great sleeper from 6 weeks -4 months then was waking every 30 min-I'm not kidding. Our mistake was we never let her cry even for 30 sec. We hired a sleep trainer and got her on a good age appropriate routine (we were feeding her too often) and that alone helped her night sleep a ton! Eventually because things had been pretty rough getting no sleep for so long so we did full Weissbluth CIO because the gradual stuff just confused her and made her more mad. She is so much happier now that she sleeps 7pm-6:30am even though it was very hard on her dad and I for a couple days. It was totally worth it though. She never cried for than 20 min (feels like hours) and it has saved the sanity of our family. I still in my heart don't believe in CIO (I get that this is contradictory but i can hold 2 ideas in my head at the same time) but it was necessary for us. If CIO is something you'd consider for your family I would do it sooner rather than later. My sleep trainer said it just gets harder the older they get.

 

[Kirsty3051]

Congratulations

We have a 9 month old little boy (he'll be 10 months in just over a week) and an 11 day old baby. Our older boy has slept through the night since he was 2 weeks old, the 'new baby' - not so much. You'll sleep again. It's hard work but sooo worth it, I promise. Take every day as it comes.

 

[george83]

Congratulations

We have a 9 month old little boy (he'll be 10 months in just over a week) and an 11 day old baby. Our older boy has slept through the night since he was 2 weeks old, the 'new baby' - not so much. You'll sleep again. It's hard work but sooo worth it, I promise. Take every day as it comes.

Congratulations! What a wonderful family you must have, Im sure your two will grow up to be inseparable, I'm actually a little jealous!

 

[Rainstorm]

My eldest is almost two. He fell asleep on his own for the first time six months ago. Throughout the first year I was sleep deprived, and when we found out I was preggo again we tried everything till he finally got around to it. I breastfed him to sleep during the first year, which was a mistake I hope to avoid this time around... We'll ser

 

[SarahBear]

Good luck, that's a close age gap! As far as sleep goes, that can be a challenge with any age gap. What you have going for you with the gap is that your older child will still be napping. You also won't have to worry about jealousy because your kid will be too young to understand what's going on and then after a bit she won't remember having been an only child.