Farmgirlalee
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My SO and I decided to stop preventing this summer when there was a SNAFU with my birth control pills and the doctor forgot to call in a my refill. We decided to go with the "if it happens, it happens" idea. And then it didn't and didn't and didn't. My first born child is my daughter who will turn 10 in March. I had her at 24 after two early miscarriages. My ex husband and I did not have the greatest sex life so preventing wasn't really an issue. Now I am with my SO who is amazing and I am looking forward to spending the rest of my life with him and we both really would like to add to our family. His son turns 10 in just a few weeks so we basically have two the same age and would like to have at least two of our own together close in age.
So its been five months of trying but not thinking about it much. I've somewhat been keeping an eye on when my phone says should be fertile days but again I haven't been doing any temping, or ovulation monitoring or anything like that. In fact I really don't know much about it. So since I just got AF yesterday I am going to start monitoring my self a bit closer and trying to learn as much as I can.
My daughter was a surprise and wasn't planned, I guess I was hoping that this time around it would just happen. If we miss again this cycle I am going in to get my hormones checked. My sister who is 3 years older than me is infertile, but my oldest sister is having her 4th child at 43 and just had one not quite two years go after a 14 year gap, so it's hard to get a read on what my potential fertility might be just from family history.
Another factor is that my SO has ADHD and is on adderall. I have read that can affect sperm count and he recreationally drinks which I have heard can affect sperm count as well. If I check out okay in the fertility department we are going to have to see if he can be weaned off his medications for a time.
I guess I am feeling discouraged especially since I was a week late for this period and had gotten my hopes up. I am rarely late by more than a day or two so I am wondering if I perhaps had a really really really early miscarriage, just early enough to delay the period, but not enough pregnant to show on the test I took. IDK.
Sorry for rambling for so long. I don't even want to tell friends or family that we are trying. It just seems to hard to see their expectant faces all the time and have to say "No not yet".
So its been five months of trying but not thinking about it much. I've somewhat been keeping an eye on when my phone says should be fertile days but again I haven't been doing any temping, or ovulation monitoring or anything like that. In fact I really don't know much about it. So since I just got AF yesterday I am going to start monitoring my self a bit closer and trying to learn as much as I can.
My daughter was a surprise and wasn't planned, I guess I was hoping that this time around it would just happen. If we miss again this cycle I am going in to get my hormones checked. My sister who is 3 years older than me is infertile, but my oldest sister is having her 4th child at 43 and just had one not quite two years go after a 14 year gap, so it's hard to get a read on what my potential fertility might be just from family history.
Another factor is that my SO has ADHD and is on adderall. I have read that can affect sperm count and he recreationally drinks which I have heard can affect sperm count as well. If I check out okay in the fertility department we are going to have to see if he can be weaned off his medications for a time.
I guess I am feeling discouraged especially since I was a week late for this period and had gotten my hopes up. I am rarely late by more than a day or two so I am wondering if I perhaps had a really really really early miscarriage, just early enough to delay the period, but not enough pregnant to show on the test I took. IDK.
Sorry for rambling for so long. I don't even want to tell friends or family that we are trying. It just seems to hard to see their expectant faces all the time and have to say "No not yet".