New to the board, 1st pregnancy but concerned...

[dizzy2012]

Hi
We found out we were PG just after christmas and are thrilled! Kept it to minimum family as yet but didn't really have any concerns. Been to midwife earlier this week but no scan or anything yet - have a date in feb now tho!

But was just reading a very sad thread about people who had gone for their 12wk scan to be told that the baby had stopped growing at say 6, 7 or 10wks..... obviously this is awful for those who have already been through it but I now seem to have it in my head that this cwill happen to me.

This question may be niaive stupid but is there any way I would know if this happened? Like would i stop putting on weight or would my period come?? scan not for another 4wks so am going to be panicking...Or if i did a digital PG test every week, would this show I was still pg or would this still give a positive result if the baby had stopped growing???

Hopefully you ladies can give me some pointers or it will be a very long 4 weeks...

x

 

[tinytabby]

Didn't want to read and run. I guess this is everyone's fear.

I try and comfort myself with the thought that it's not very common - you're more likely to have a miscarriage that you would notice. And by 8 weeks your chances of miscarriage is much lower. There's a thread with some reassuring stats further down the page.

 

[josephine3]

Sometimes i think there is no way to tell, thats why its known as a missed miscarriage! Its hard not to worry tho Im still waiting for my scan too.

 

[tinytabby]

Here's the thread I thought was reassuring.

https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnan...miscarriage-some-facts-help-reduce-worry.html

Fingers crossed for lovely healthy beans!

 

[KELLYBD]

Hi

Everyone new mum to be faces all these worries, you just have to stay positive that all is ok with your little one. Believe me the worrying NEVER stops, even when they are here safe in your arms, you will be checking their breathing, paranoid when they cough on their milk etc. It's all part of being a Mum

I had complications with my lil boy towards the end and believe me I FELT it, I had a grumbling feeling something wasn't right and at 28 weeks I found out he had problems and was losing weight, BUT alot of positive thinking and telling him, he'd be fine and with his mummy soon, and he's now a happy bouncy 4 1/2 month old.

Some might think it dumb but I talked to my lil ones from day dot and I think it helps keep you positive if you talk to them like they are listening.

Keep calm and don't stress your little one needs a quiet, calm environment not a stressed out Mummy. Wishing you all the best for a healthy and happy journey, Kel xx

 

[Krystal 123]

Thanks for posting the link .... Was very reassuring xx

 

[dizzy2012]

Thanks girls - know it sounds daft but it's ood to know im not the only one worrying..
Tinytabby - that link really is reassuring, thank you.

KellyBD - you're so right about being calm - need to take that on board a little more and som positive thoughts between me and bump, methinks - just keep saying that come christmas this year, we'll be happy family of 3!!!!

 

[KELLYBD]

Believe me hunny it will be here before you know it! I can't believe it's nearly a year since I found out I was pregnant last time, and here I am again waiting for another one! Your ticker will fly by you'll spend all your time waiting to get to the 2nd Tri and before you know it your in the 3rd and packing your hospital bag.

Enjoy it, I LOVED having my bump and people fussing over me it was fab, you'll have a lovely 1st Christmas too xx

 

[loveandbabies]

Try not to worry hun! MMC are pretty rare, you just tend to hear about them because they are so devistating! People are more apt to post things when the need support then when everything is going just perfectly! From the stats I can find, MMC only account for 10% of all miscarriages. That is a TINY portion of all pregnancies since 80-85% of all pergnancies end in a happy bundle of joy!

 

[Raincloud]

You're definitely not the only one worrying. I have my first scan this sunday, and I'm terrified that there won't be a heartbeat. I just want to know that this baby is okay.