Hey girls.
I have wanted a baby stronly for about a year now and I have never had a desire like this before- it is all I think about. Each month, I find myself disappointed when I get my period even though I know there is a slim to zero chance that I could even be prego. I just feel silly and for the last few months I have actually found myself crying in the bathroom when I get my period. Is that not crazy?
Let me back up a bit. My husband and I were HS school sweethearts and dated for 8 years before we got married (7 yrs before he proposed!). We got married in March of 2006 and have now been married for just over 2 yrs. This would be a 10 yr. relationship all together. He has his bachelors degree and I have an associates degree. I have worked full time since 18 and he had rich parents that paid for everything including his schooling so he got help and I did not so I was unable to finish just yet. We are both very into our careers and despite only having a 2 yr degree I have done quite well for myself in my career. He has his dream job as well. We just built our dream home (large house) and moved in this past January. Life is good and most would say I have nothing to complain about and think that my DH has given me everything i ever wanted. BUT! I cannot turn off this desire to be a Mommy and it hurts so much! My DH thinks that we need to wait (just like I have had to wait for the proposal and then the wedding). I feel like I always have to wait and follow his plan for almost half of my life. We have just both gone back to school- he went into the masters program and me into the bachelors program. I work super long hours at work and now I am going to school now as well because he says that when I graduate, then we will have a baby! At this point this is the only reason that I am back in school. I am working 80 exhausting hours a week for my career and going to school all week because I know at the end of this tunnel I will get a baby. He says we need to be financially able to before having a baby. But we are ok financially and should be lucky to have what we have- we worked very hard for it. The truth is I love my house but I do not come from much of monetary value and would give it all up for a baby. This big house was his idea and I did not know at the time that he planned this lifestyle for us that it would be a trade up! I believe that all a family needs is love and I would give up everything in a New York min. to have a baby! He was raised in a family where you were judged and respected on your education and that determined your worth in the world. I grew up with a lot of love and understanding and you were judged on how you make others feel and how you loved others. I have so much love to give.... He keeps saying something and going back on it.. he sits there and says "I cannot wait to have kids" and he has already named them and talks about it all the time and it just tears me up. We have a room in the house we call "the baby room." It is empty but that is what we call it and he tells everyone when they come over about that room. But then makes me wait. I am very loyal (he is my one and only) and I would never go behind his back or anything. But, lately I have wanted a baby so bad it is making me crazy and I have had thoughts of getting one on my own. I am not this type of person though...its just emotions right now. Every time I hear of another one of my friends or family members is prego I become so happy for them and sad for me all at the same time. I cannot even look at other babies without picturing my own and what he/ she would look like. I too can't even sleep properly anymore because I want a baby that badly. I'm sick of feeling like this, it's taking over my whole life. Emotionally I cannot turn it off or get him to understand my feelings or even talk about it. I still have a year left of school and cannot emotionally go through these fellings everyday for a year...I don't know what to do. I do not want the baby until he wants one with me and we do it right and plan it. But! I am going crazy here.........
Please help!
I have wanted a baby stronly for about a year now and I have never had a desire like this before- it is all I think about. Each month, I find myself disappointed when I get my period even though I know there is a slim to zero chance that I could even be prego. I just feel silly and for the last few months I have actually found myself crying in the bathroom when I get my period. Is that not crazy?
Let me back up a bit. My husband and I were HS school sweethearts and dated for 8 years before we got married (7 yrs before he proposed!). We got married in March of 2006 and have now been married for just over 2 yrs. This would be a 10 yr. relationship all together. He has his bachelors degree and I have an associates degree. I have worked full time since 18 and he had rich parents that paid for everything including his schooling so he got help and I did not so I was unable to finish just yet. We are both very into our careers and despite only having a 2 yr degree I have done quite well for myself in my career. He has his dream job as well. We just built our dream home (large house) and moved in this past January. Life is good and most would say I have nothing to complain about and think that my DH has given me everything i ever wanted. BUT! I cannot turn off this desire to be a Mommy and it hurts so much! My DH thinks that we need to wait (just like I have had to wait for the proposal and then the wedding). I feel like I always have to wait and follow his plan for almost half of my life. We have just both gone back to school- he went into the masters program and me into the bachelors program. I work super long hours at work and now I am going to school now as well because he says that when I graduate, then we will have a baby! At this point this is the only reason that I am back in school. I am working 80 exhausting hours a week for my career and going to school all week because I know at the end of this tunnel I will get a baby. He says we need to be financially able to before having a baby. But we are ok financially and should be lucky to have what we have- we worked very hard for it. The truth is I love my house but I do not come from much of monetary value and would give it all up for a baby. This big house was his idea and I did not know at the time that he planned this lifestyle for us that it would be a trade up! I believe that all a family needs is love and I would give up everything in a New York min. to have a baby! He was raised in a family where you were judged and respected on your education and that determined your worth in the world. I grew up with a lot of love and understanding and you were judged on how you make others feel and how you loved others. I have so much love to give.... He keeps saying something and going back on it.. he sits there and says "I cannot wait to have kids" and he has already named them and talks about it all the time and it just tears me up. We have a room in the house we call "the baby room." It is empty but that is what we call it and he tells everyone when they come over about that room. But then makes me wait. I am very loyal (he is my one and only) and I would never go behind his back or anything. But, lately I have wanted a baby so bad it is making me crazy and I have had thoughts of getting one on my own. I am not this type of person though...its just emotions right now. Every time I hear of another one of my friends or family members is prego I become so happy for them and sad for me all at the same time. I cannot even look at other babies without picturing my own and what he/ she would look like. I too can't even sleep properly anymore because I want a baby that badly. I'm sick of feeling like this, it's taking over my whole life. Emotionally I cannot turn it off or get him to understand my feelings or even talk about it. I still have a year left of school and cannot emotionally go through these fellings everyday for a year...I don't know what to do. I do not want the baby until he wants one with me and we do it right and plan it. But! I am going crazy here.........
Please help!