New to the site! TTC #1 in my 20s

[Lilly_m]

Hi ladies! I'm 26 and Dh just turned 31. We've been ttc for 6 cycles now. I have pretty regular 28 day cycles! I'm currently 3dpo, I've been charting my temp for 3 months now but that's about it. No opk 's yet! Everybody I know has had no problems conceiving, and I know it's normal to take up to a year but it's really starting to take a toll on me!

 

[wifeybby]

Hi Lily! Welcome! :wave:

I subscribed to this thread so that I could access it faster, do you guys know how that works? I don't see it anywhere; I always have to search for it..

abennion, have you tested?! Not sure if you're on this site a lot or if it's a hit or miss thing, but I have been wondering about you!

whats new with everyone?

CD44 here. No AF in sight. = Shoot me...

If I just had the health insurance that I'm supposed to (DH got a new job in June), I could go see a doctor and do something about TTC. I could get a real opinion on what's happening to me. I feel so stupid and useless even caring so much about it when I can't even menstruate properly. I seriously think I have the ovaries of a 45 year old. Like WTF. Technically, I'm 1 day late now, but that's a joke too. Every month it's something different and I CAN'T STAND IT.

It really just sucks because it shouldn't be this hard.


Hope to hear from you guys soon. #needafriend

 

[lvksa]

@wifeybby

Hi! I'm not sure that I'll be any good at giving advice or cheering you up, but I'm around to listen .

I have pretty irregular cycles as well. I'm just starting TTC (this is my first cycle), but in the past year I've had cycles ranging from 28 days to 48 days (the prior year I made it all the way to 58).

 

[abennion]

Hey wifey. I tested Sunday and yesterday, both negative. I'm now 12 DPO (CD 29). I'm going to go out on a limb and hope my cycle is just as long as last month (35 days) and its just a matter of testing too early. Temps dropped .3 degrees in the past two days, not a good sign, but its still above the coverline so I'm hoping its just a matter of my room was too cold when I tested. Either that or we're out and going to have to try again next month for round four!


Hopefully being 1 day late is good sign! If you need a friend, just shoot me a message

Baby dust to everyone!!

 

[wifeybby]

Thank you, lvksa. Being irregular didn't matter much to me when we were NTNP; now it seems like this big red flag I've put off and now need to figure out overnight (unreal! lol) Do you take anything for this? I used to take Vitex, and you would think that as much as I care about this that I would take it more diligently; but honestly I question the effectiveness. At first, I took it regularly for months and it didn't do anything; but it could also had been the brand or something. I took 1600 mg/day in divided doses. After feeling down about taking it, I started missing doses and just gave up on it. How do you cope with irregular cycles?

And I think the annoying thing is having long irregular cycles is that it confuses me about ovulation. July/August was our first true cycle TTC, so I started using opks but never once got a positive. Makes me think I didn't ovulate obviously lol but theres a small chance I just missed the surge.. Towards the beginning of this year we started flirting with the idea of TTC so in the spring I did start to pay attention to tracking my cycles and paying closer attention to CM throughout.. But July was when we said, "OK, let's do this!" lol

 

[abennion]

Oh, and the subscribe button is in the Thread Tools button on the purple bar at the top

 

[wifeybby]

It very well could be too early for you, abennion! I wouldn't lose hope yet. fx for you! Thank you for the subscribe tip too, I needed that still having those symptoms? or is it starting to feel AF-y?

I have no symptoms of getting a bfp myself; I've only been more stressed out that usual lol mainly due to the "back to school" game (I'm a school nurse) Getting the clinics set up and taking care of the kids is a challenge. Stress could be causing this long cycle, no doubt. Also, with it being my first cycle OPKing which turned out to be stressful too, only because I never got a positive. Tested 2x day for CD13 - 36. Funny thing is, I thought I would actually LIKE doing OPKs because I would see *some* sort of positive lines on *something* LOL. Yeah. Right.

 

[abennion]

Maybe you were just testing too late for OPK? I've never tried so I don't know, but maybe you ovulated earlier than you thought? Maybe it is the stress doing it? How much schooling do you have left?

I'm kind of symptomless today. Normal backache, I've got a bit of a headache, my carrots taste off... last night I started crying at the grocery store when I realized all I wanted for lunch this week was kid snacks (snack-sized applesauce, tapioca pudding, cheese and crackers etc.), and I never cry. Ever. Hubby thought it was funny. My stomach was super upset last night, I was walking up and down the aisles going "nope, nope, nope, nope" at all of the regular lunch-foods, and then finally when I saw the snacks I wanted them. And four boxes of Frosted Cheerios. And then we found a banana pie mix and I got all excited, but when I read it, (it said all I had to do was add bananas, milk and butter) I got super angry because who would want to buy a banana pie mix if you have to provide three of the most key ingredients. Hubby just laughed again.

If I'm not pregnant then I don't know what is going on with me. I've never been like this before.

 

[abennion]

So today I'm left a little confused. 13DPO, felt the need to go to the bathroom five minutes ago and noticed wcm with what looked like spotting? 2 wipes and then no more blood. I'm worried it might be the start of AF, but also a bit hopeful... could implantation happen this late?

 

[wifeybby]

I could have, I'm not sure either. That was my first time trying them and everything I read said to start at CD9 and test around 2pm or again before bed (with concentrated urine).. I think I started at CD13 (when I got them in the mail) but with long cycles I didn't think it was a biggie. Next time around though I'll use them all cycle until I see something. Please let me see something..

I'm actually done with all of my schooling, I'm an LPN and have no desire to go back for my RN license. Tuition is just too high, I don't want to pay that back.. I work at a high school as a nurse in the special needs dept, so the school year has just begun. Once I get orders in and everything set up, it isn't a very stressful job. August/Sept are just hard because you're learning new students/staff/etc..

I'm sorry you had a bad time shopping the other day! Last time we went, I got some uncrustables and those applesauce pouches for my lunches; and felt the same way. Hubby didn't think anything of it. I saw my desperation in the form of groceries lol

I'm not sure if it would be implantation bleeding or not - unless maybe you Ov'd a day or two later than what you thought. I *think* it can take up to a week. Someone correct me if I'm wrong! With the temp drop too on your chart I would guess AF But what do I know? Let me tell you: NOT SHIT. lol Keep testing!

 

[abennion]

Just went to the washroom again on my way out of work. No more wcm and no more blood. Gonna keep an eye on it but for now I'm going to take wcm off of my chart (mostly because I'm second guessing myself that it was wcm) if I see more I'll put it back on.

Also, I took my temp at 6 am (my usual time) although today I had been waking up and going back to sleep since about 3:45 ish... Does that affect my temp and if so, how?

 

[abennion]

And with that ladies, I'm out. AF reared her ugly witchy head at 9:00pm tonight. Sign me up for September...

 

[babymama15]

I have irregular cycles as well how do you chart?

 

[abennion]

Ive only been irregular since coming off of bcp, I chart vaginally with a regular thermometer. May pick up an opk this month though... we'll see.

 

[lvksa]

@wifeybby
This is my first cycle actively TTC. I guess I will try for a few cycles and if I have a hard time I will maybe do some research about taking things to help. So far I haven't really done anything to cope with my cycles. They put me on the pill when I was 16 or 17 and I was on it until September 2013. Coming off was sooo bad. I had nausea for weeks straight where I felt like I just needed to lay down and my AF cramps were the worst ever. I couldn't function without taking painkillers.

 

[wifeybby]

morning ladies (its 7am here lol)

So sorry the got you, abennion. I know it sucks. On a positive note, just remember that this month is a chance to try again and you never know - everything could change this month. You will get your BFP! I used the cheap opks from Ebay - I believe they work, I would get faint lines here and there but never got a positive. I have seen MANY women on here using the same strips though so they do work.. I also heard clearblue advanced digitals work great too.

@lvska, that sounds miserable! I've never really taken bcp, (I faked it for a month to please my boyfriends mom years ago lmao) but I have heard it's rough. Sorry you went through that! I hope your TTC journey is a quick one

 

[wifeybby]

hey guys! whats up? how was your weekends?!

still no AF here... WTF. Beyond frustrated this cycle..

 

[abennion]

How many days does that make it for you wifey? I'm on CD7 right now, I start using OPKs in two days. We got the clearblue advanced OPK. it detects ovulation 4 days before so we're hoping it'll be our best bet.

 

[wifeybby]

51 Days. longest one I've ever had.. I took hpts the past 2 days BFN, so getting the feeling something is wrong. I just got confirmation that I'm covered under new insurance, so calling an OB/GYN in the morning to get an appointment. Pretty nervous, hoping its just hormones that can be leveled out or something. Praying I don't have PCOS. I'll keep you posted!

Let me know how those OPKs work for you! Hopefully it confirms ov with your temps too. Catch that egg! fx its your month all about that timing

 

[wifeybby]

So I called first thing this morning to make my ob/gyn appt -- couldn't get me in until Sept. 25 (23 days from now; if no AF ill be CD75?!) So needless to say I'm kinda disappointed and thought I'd get in sooner.. Going to call around to a few more and see if they have any openings. When I told the receptionist I was coming in because I'm on CD 52 - longest cycle I've ever had - Neg HPTs she said, "oh wow.".. Hubby doesn't think anything of it, doesn't get why I'm frustrated. I'm just mad because my body isn't working, I'm praying my life away to have children, and I'm seeing nothing from anywhere. (here is great! lucky to have these forums).