Newly Single & Pregnant

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So we had been trying for 19 months. We technically split up on the Wednesday (6DPO) and on Saturday (9PDO) I found out I was Pregnant.
I told him, he said he wants a DNA test and that's all I have heard off him pretty much.

It's his first child and he lives with his Mother.

I can't believe that for 19 months all he has ever talked about and wanted so badly was a child. We've had 3 miscarriages, 1 more painful than the other 2 & now he has that - he's just walked away. He won't even talk to me.

I've spoken a few times to his Mother who says it's definitely final.

I can't believe I am here, pregnant with his child and he's just left us. He's brought up DS3 as his own - Father sodded off at 29 weeks.

I know life moves on and the last couple of Months for us were far from the best, but I've been in pieces, requesting we go to counselling. I've been hoping for the past week that after some time and space he's going to come to his senses but I just don't think that's the case.

This is my 7th Child and quite frankly, I did not sign up to this to be a single parent. Not again. Not ever. I am scared and alone. When I do go into labour in 36 ish weeks, I have no - one to call upon.

I have spent thousands on TTC Medications, Contraptions and Tests.
He actually never stopped talking about how much he wanted his own child, he tried so hard. I don't think it helped that FF predicted me O'ing 3 days after we last BD'd although I think I actually O'd the day after.

I don't know what I'm going to do or how I'm even going to cope. I feel lost, alone and above all else, I am heartbroken. I just want him back but the feeling is clearly not mutual.

He's said it so many times, IF we break up he'll still be there for me as a Friend and here for DS3, but - it was clearly just lies.

My friends keep telling me that I'm strong and I'll find a way to cope, what if I don't want to find a way to cope? No man in his right mind would take on 6 children with a 7th on the way.

Why are break ups so damn hard? How can I get over this heart break? I don't know what to do and how to do it. :shrug:
 
Oh gosh, I'm not sure what Advice I can give you besides breath and focus on your kids.

How long where you in a relationship with this guy? Have you guys split before? What reason did he give for leaving? Did you have a healthy happy relationship?

There's a possibility he just needs some space and could still come around, this is his first child so you'd think he would want to play a very active roll in the babies life.

I really hope he comes around for you or in the least starts supporting you.. I can never understand why some things happen and how people can just change in a second. Not easy..
 

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