Next baby?

[bky]

We're going for short age gaps. We plan on 3ish. I'm 31 and OH is 36 and we'd like to be done before I'm 35, he's 40. So I'll see how this goes and hopefully be baking another one within a year of having this one.
OH is 18 years older than his sister and I'm 7 and 9 years from mine so would like something closer for ours.

 

[winegums]

I was an only child and i HATED it!! even now my best friends brother is 3 years younger than her and they always go out together with each others friends etc and my other best friend also has a brother who is 2 years younger and they are always there for each other even now in their 20s if either of them need advice or want to hang out and order a pizza, or even just need a lift somewhere! i think its lovely...... and thats why i was ttc before my son turned one. he is now 13 months and im 7 weeks pregnant with a lil brother or sister for him!! xx

 

[nightkd]

I'm an only child, DH has a sister who is a year and a bit older than him & a brother who is 6 years younger than him - he's closer to his brother, but was very close to his sister when they were little...

We'd like at least 3 kids, possibly 4 and we were discussing TTC within a year of having this LO - we've decided to wait and see how it goes though, because we could really have done with having a few things sorted out before this LO came along and it's only going to be harder with another one!! (We have no insurance, so we've had to pay for medical costs out of pocket, and we need to learn to manage our money a LOT better - we could afford another baby, but it would be much better to have plenty of savings put by first, so we're really fully prepared!!). I think once Evelyn is a year old, I would be much happier considering TTC again, depending on our situation (we were going to buy a house this year, but decided we needed to save up a bit more to be comfortable with it..) and frame of mind.

xx

 

[brownlieB]

I love the age gap between me and my brother there is 5 years and we were best friends growing up and still are now, OH says he is the same with his sister, they played together and shared friends growing up and theres 4 years between them.

We discussed and apart from circumstances permitting, we both like the idea of a similar age gap for our child, so when this one is 3 we will start ttc again. I've also sai d I like the idea of LO being in play school, or more than likely (as s/he is due in August ) at school, as once i've dropped them off, I have the rest of the day to devote to new baby. Then when LO returns I can give them full attention without feeling like i've got to split myself in 2 (if that makes sense)

We also have friends who have 2 children one is 3 and one is 19months, and when we're round there the 3 year old is constantly on the mum and dads case for attention, because the 19month old is starting to develop personality and walk and talk they're playing with him more than the other one. Thats what I don't want for my LO

 

[sophd]

My daughter will be just over 3 years old by the time we have our second one and I think the timing is perfect since my daughter is becoming more and more independant and she is almost fully potty trained. She is also starting to help us out with little chores and I think she will help out with her little brother. The jealousy part is concerning me a little though,but will soon find out!!

 

[tina_h75]

There is 18 months between my daughter and my son, and my son will be 16 months when the baby is due so I will have 3 under 3 years old and this is how I planned it. I already love watching my son and daughter playing together and can't wait to see another one joining in.

 

[chief's wife]

i like the way my kids are close together cos they share and play with each other and are best friends. the gap btw my 1st and 2nd was 1+5years, and btw my 2nd and 3rd 2+5 years and btw my 3rd and 4th 1+9 years and btw my 4th and bubs will be 1+3years [calculating by due date]

 

[JASMAK]

My two older children (5 and 7 years) are 20 months apart. We were hoping that this one would be about the same, but it took us four years to get pregnant. I like the closeness...and they are interested in similar things. I don't think it is 'selfish'...my son loved that he got a baby sister...and barely showed a twinge of jealousy.

 

[sarah1989]

My sister and I are 3 years & 2 weeks apart. I enjoyed having that much of a gap between us. DH and his siblings are: 35, 31, 25, 24, DH is 22, and the youngest is 19. None of them are very close, and rarely talk.

I would love children close in age, maybe a year and a half to two years apart apart if we are able to do that.

One girl I worked with is on her 3rd child. November 2008, December 2009, and is due December 2010, she loves it.. I don't think having them that close is for me lol.

 

[Ella_Mummy]

I conceived this little bundle when DD was exactly a year. Wasnt really planned that way but think its worked out great Im done now though, im 26 and FOB is 39, so he is definately done

 

[NG09]

I have 2 sisters one 3and a half years younger and one 6 years older, we are all close regardless of the age gap. TBH now that we are all married and have (or having) children we really don't notice it so much as my older sisters son is 4 (she started a bit later) and my younger sisters daughter is 2 and a half plus she's pregnant again so we all have a lot in common at the mo. Ideally I would like to start trying again when this LO is 1 but I think it's coz if I leave it any longer I don't honestly know that I would do it again. However..... I could just be saying that as I only have 6 weeks to go, am feeling cranky, tired, uncomfortable and generally p'd off!!! lol

 

[TeresaG]

There is 18 months between my sister and I. I am the eldest and then I have a brother that is 10 years younger than me. When we were little we got on well and I think it was nice to have someone to play with etc but I can remember as we got older we fought all the time. We get on amazingly well now though.

My baby was not planned. We had never wanted children so it was a complete shock to us as I was on the pill and we were careful. Anyway we have talked about the baby lots and do think that it might be nice to have another one. We are going to wait and see though and see how we get on with this one first. I am 32 and DH is 37 so if we do have another child then we probably wouldn't have too big an age gap.

 

[fernie3]

I have a gap of 2.5 years between my oldest two,. 2.5years between number two and three and then 1.5 years will be between number 3 and 4.
I havent found the age gaps difficult so far, we just organize routines around what each child needs etc - I think you just cope and get on with what you get really!. I dont think there IS a perfect age gap at all.

 

[bibswy]

I had my daughter Jan 09 too and expecting baby number 2 next month. There will be 18 months between them. I had mixed feelings about having another so soon... I felt a bit guilty because Billie is 'my baby' still. Now though I'm really excited - it will be great for Billie to have someone to playwith/look after (and I'm hoping I'll get a bit more time as they will amuse each other, lol!) Being young, I don't thinks there will be any jealousy either - not like if one's at school while mummy spends all day with new baby iykwim. Also, I'm grateful I'll be getting all the nappies, food throwing and tot tantrums over and done with in one go

My bro and sis are alot older than me and had left home when I was still small so it felt like I was an only child. But I also had to nieces that are similar in age so I didn't feel bored.

I think there are pros and cons but I certainly wouldn't say it was selfish to have children close together. Just do what feels right for your own litttle family x

 

[Welly]

I always swore that i'd have a 2-3 year age gap between my children. We conceived ds the very first month of trying so just sat back and waited for the perfect time to start ttc baby number 2. Unfortunately mother nature had different plans and we waited 3 years for our bfp this time. We will have a 5 year age gap between our children, which i'm not completely happy with, but on the other hand we have had 5 years with ds. He's also at an age where he's so totally excited about the baby coming