NHS docs appoint tmrw, test Advice?

[Jax41]

Hi, the docs appointment was fine. He has refered me to a Fertility specialist, there is a 2 month waiting list. I am also booked in for day 3 and 21 bloods. That is it for now and I am happy with that.

AF is due today and BFN for the last 5 days testing.

Velo I haven't been charting but have used OPK, Last month I couldn't find a LH surge but the month before it was really obvious with 3 days strong LH surge. I started temperature this morning and it was 36.44/97.59

My DP said he was totally humiliated to have to do a SA. He cancelled his doc appoint saying he was too busy and there was nothing wrong with his swimmers. I freaked, and persuaded him that they wouldn't test me until they are sure everything is o.k with him. Totally disappointed in him though. I had thought that if these tests flagged up a problem then I would do IUI or IVF or whatever my options are. But if he is having a fit about giving a SA then I can see it's going to be one constant uphill battle with him. He has also said he won't adopt- would have to know the child is his, I would easily adopt. I am getting a little bit tired of his small minded attitude, its hard enough to deal with the NHS without having him delay and cancel appointments. His decisions seem so final and don't seem to include my opinions. I think I have PMT

Pleased to hear your appt went ok. Just so that you know I was in the same boat as you. My BF flatly refused to do the SA - the test pot and paperwork is still sitting in the drawer untouched since January. Thankfully I didn't need it in the end however I was going to have an uphill struggle to get him to do anything if it were necessary. The arguments that have occurred over babies these last couple of years have been horrendous!

When it comes to fertility and babies etc sometimes men see things so differently to us. They come out with seemingly the most insensitive of things you wonder if they're quite human! And then at other times they are so wonderfully loving and understanding you wonder if you got it all wrong somehow or even if it's the same bloke! Perhaps he needs a bit of time to get his head around all of this. It's just as hard for men when conception doesn't just happen and they express it differently. Besides when you have PMT everything can seem much, much worse!

Ruth - thank you for the para about men and fertility it has kind of restored my faith in 'him' as he is totally P'ing me off at the moment (not conducive to baby make at all!)